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CheerDad
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   Posted 1/4/2009 4:28 PM (GMT -7)   
I dont know why, but I find myself angry all the time. I am taking meds for anxiety but still it lingers. I find myself clenching my teeth without knowing about it, my heart is ponding in my chest. I blow up at the smallest thing. I am frustrated but don't the root cause. I would really like to know what the bottom of this is.
We can respond to irritation with a smile instead of scowl, or by giving warm praise instead of icy indifference. By our being understanding instead of abrupt, others, in turn, may decide to hold on a little longer rather than to give way. Love, patience, and meekness can be just as contagious as rudeness and crudeness.
 
Randy
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getting by
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   Posted 1/4/2009 5:12 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Randy,

Have you talked to your doctor about this? You might need to see a psychologist or counselor. I know when I was more depressed I had anger issues too. My sister really has them bad. But mine settled down with counseling and medication.

Hugs, Karen
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stkitt
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   Posted 1/4/2009 5:19 PM (GMT -7)   

Hello Randy,

This is Kitt. :-)  

Remember that anger is not wrong as it is a normal human emotion. We are born with the ability to feel anger.

There are times when we should get angry and stand up for our rights or the rights of others who cannot do it for themselves.

It is when this anger is not controlled that we get into trouble so please don’t let your anger consume you.

Here are some anger management tips to help get your anger under control::

Take a "time out." Although it may seem cliche, counting to 10 before reacting, or leaving the situation altogether, really can defuse your temper.

Do something physically exerting. Physical activity can provide an outlet for your emotions, especially if you're about to erupt. Go for a brisk walk or a run, swim, lift weights or shoot baskets.

Find ways to calm and soothe yourself. Practice deep-breathing exercises, visualize a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase to yourself, such as "take it easy." You can also listen to music, paint, journal or do yoga.

Once you're calm, express your anger as soon as possible so that you aren't left stewing. If you simply can't express your anger in a controlled manner to the person who angered you, try talking to a family member, friend, counselor or another trusted person.

Think carefully before you say anything so that you don't end up saying something you'll regret. Write a script and rehearse it so that you can stick to the issues.

Work with the person who angered you to identify solutions to the situation.

Use "I" statements when describing the problem to avoid criticizing or placing blame. For instance, say "I'm upset you didn't help with the housework this evening," instead of, "You should have helped with the housework." To do otherwise will likely upset the other person and escalate tensions.

Don't hold a grudge. Forgive the other person. It's unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want.

Use humor to release tensions, such as imagining yourself or the other person in silly situations. Don't use sarcasm, though — it's just another form of unhealthy expression.

Keep an anger log to identify the kinds of situations that set you off and to monitor your reactions. Reference: Mayo CLinic

Practice relaxation skills. Learning skills to relax and de-stress can also help control your temper when it may flare up

I hope this helps you.  If your on any medications that may affect your anger management please do talk with your physician. Special hugs to you and know I care.

In friendship

Kitt

 

 


 

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CheerDad
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   Posted 1/5/2009 10:24 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks for the input. I am seeing a counselor and psych to continue to get the meds just right. I do see them both again next week and will discuss it with them. Talk therapy is making progress but it is mostly I don't like feeling this way. Thanks again for the help Love y'all.
We can respond to irritation with a smile instead of scowl, or by giving warm praise instead of icy indifference. By our being understanding instead of abrupt, others, in turn, may decide to hold on a little longer rather than to give way. Love, patience, and meekness can be just as contagious as rudeness and crudeness.
 
Randy
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enWayen
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   Posted 1/6/2009 1:50 AM (GMT -7)   
Heej Randy,

Kitt said it already, but for anger it is crucial to recognize it before it takes over. If you could ask yourself the question "Why am I so upset?" before the anger takes over, you will be able to see the reasons, and actually choose whether you let the anger take over. Although this requires some practise, but hee, it's worth it!

I hope you are continuing to feel a bit better every week! Or, as a friend of my said "Try to improve 1% every day".

Take care!
Erik
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The World is but a reflection. Smile, and it will smile back.

Try to keep smiling! :)


FamilyGuy
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   Posted 1/6/2009 6:25 PM (GMT -7)   
Randy,

How is your CD behaving? I find that when I'm in pain, it makes me much quicker to anger. I'll go into my shop have a good yell, wonder why I'm angry over something I can't control, and do a lot of deep breathing. Sometimes it helps sometimes not. It's something I'm still working on as well.

Take care my friend,
Jon,  Co-moderator for Crohn's Disease and Depression forums
 
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CheerDad
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   Posted 1/7/2009 9:44 AM (GMT -7)   
I am sure part of it is my CD. It hasn't been "right" since Thanksgiving. I feel lie I am just overwhelmed. I have started riding a bike (not my motorcycle) at night to help release some pressure but I still feel this constant chruning inside. I will try and as myself what has me so upset and is there anything I can do about it. Hopefully that will help. Thanks again.
We can respond to irritation with a smile instead of scowl, or by giving warm praise instead of icy indifference. By our being understanding instead of abrupt, others, in turn, may decide to hold on a little longer rather than to give way. Love, patience, and meekness can be just as contagious as rudeness and crudeness.
 
Randy
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enWayen
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   Posted 1/8/2009 8:35 AM (GMT -7)   
Heej Randy,

I hope you are doing a little better today :-).

Take care!
Acceptance is the key

The World is but a reflection. Smile, and it will smile back.

Try to keep smiling! :)


starofthebunch
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   Posted 1/8/2009 10:01 AM (GMT -7)   
Have you ever considered group therapy? It sounds a little dumb but that's what really got me to realize what was going on with myself. It also provides you with a lot more input than you would get from one-on-one counseling, which is very nice.

-Ellen
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