Hi Kai, I certainly understand where you are coming from with your job. Do you think this younger person could feel threatened by you as you have been there a long time and have a good relationship with the clients? Is there a human resources person at your comapny you can talk to? Or would you possibly be able to talk to your boss. Coming here and talking to us is a good way to get out your feelings. You have found a very caring and comforting place to vent and there will always be someone here to help you and talk to you. I imagine with your husband back in school it puts added stress on you so do keep seeing your counselor. You have a good work history and keep your resume up to date in case you find another job that suits you. You can't be fired just because someone decides they don't like you. And you certainly can appeal this to your boss. And if you have to use this boss as a reference there is nothing that can be said about you that is negative. It is illegal to say something derogatory against an employee and you could fight it. Your boss certainly knows he cannot say anything bad about you. The worst he can do is state that yes, you were employed there for 24 yrs and if he chooses he doesn't have to say anything else. I was fired from a job I had for 18 yrs., actually I was dowsized but my boss did not like me even though I brought in many new clients and was the top manager. When I found a new job this boss gave me a very glowing recommendation. Go figure. I guess she thought it best to get rid of me as I had a higher salary than others. Office politics can be very strange. So keep your head up and continue to do the good job and I would try to avoid this person as much as possible. I hope this helps you.
I really appreciate you taking the time to write to me.
I know I have to handle all of this right. I have been at this job for over 26 yrs and loved it for about 22 yrs of it. I think mostly I am burned out and overwhelmed with everything else going on. You are also correct about getting to work on time and not taking days off. I currently work a 4 day work week. That helps a lot as far as stress levels.
Hopefully, I can be strong enough to not tear up. I absolutely hate that I do that and feel so weak. My ob/gyn said that I am in menopause now and am having mood swings (thus the tears) and depression, lethargy and all that wonderful stuff.
I was doing some research on line and found some herbal supplements like Femmerol or Macafem which have good success rates. Has anyone out there ever used something like these? I am going to check with the Dr tomorrow. If this helps it would be a Godsend. Just something to help me thru this difficult patch.
I am trying to take things one day at a time and split up the areas where I am overwhelmed to try to keep them in perspective. Now that I know the mood swings and all that is hormonal, I feel better actually. I don't feel like I am losing my mind.
So thanks to everyone for listening.
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Hi Kai, I too am glad that you had a good day. Just keep positive thoughts. You are a very good employee - just think how long you have been there. Give yourself a pat on the back. Now I am going to say don't wait for the other shoe to drop as that may not happen. And if you keep a positive attitude and outlook you will succeed and I bet that shoe will never drop. Stay in the moment and keep up a friendly face and you will be fine. And if you have a hard day you know you can always come here and vent. You have plenty of good listeners and people who care about you. And how great that you have a 4 day week.