If I were you, I would either tell them and get it out in the open. Or I would disconnect myself from them. Right now the way that it is you are only torturing yourself. So I think it is time to make some decisions.
If you decide to tell them, be ready to experience some denial. They aren't going to want to face what happened.
You might want to accept what happened and break ties and start fresh. Either way you decide, we are behind you. Go with what feels most comfortable to you at the time.
And I hope that you catch the mice. I know it must be unnerving for you right now. Thinking about things. I hope that you can settle your mind and get some rest.
Hi Frances, I agree with Karen that you could talk to them and also break your ties with them. It sounds like you were badly abused and of course they will deny it but deep down I think they know the truth. If you want to move on from your past your best bet is to sever the ties with your family. This may sound harsh but if this is what you need to do to feel better and go on with your life then I think you should do what you are comfortable with. Your mother doesn't sound like she can stand to hear the truth. But ultimately this is your decision. I would like you to go on to have a better life. And if you have good friends in your life just stick by them. As far as mice are concerned I have almost always had them creep into my houses. You can get those traps that they crawl into and then they close up so you never have to see the mice. Just dispose of the trap. If you want to attract a mouse to a trap just put peanut butter in it. If you live where it is cold like I do the mice come into the house because they want to get warm. They can get thru the tiniest of spaces. Don't leave the trap anywhere a pet might get at it. Put it under your kitchen sink or basement. Please post again how you are doing. We all care about you and only want to see the best things come your way.
Good Morning Frances,
Just stopping by to say Happy Sunday. You have received some very sound advice and support. The members of HW are all here for you as we are for each other so please stick with us and know we care.
You know how people say to leave the past in the past and move on? it makes sense and its a healthy thought process, but try as i may, i come back to dwelling on the injustices of my past- and i cant get over it. i try and try to move on and not look back, but sometimes its just so hard, and its so easy to remember all the sad times, the hurtful times. i know its bad for me but i dont know really how to best deal with it, as my Pdoc is big on bringing up the past and making me dwell and have a pity party etc
Frances i think you did the right thing in telling your mum and i am so sorry you have gone through such brutality- its not fair. but i admire the guts it took to tell you mum and i hope you can keep going strong-
Always, Maz XX