You may have low esteem if you:
Most people feel bad about themselves from time to time. Feelings of low self-esteem may be triggered by being treated poorly by someone else recently or in the past, or by a person’s own judgments of him or herself. This is normal. However, low self-esteem is a constant companion for too many people, especially those who experience depression, anxiety, phobias, psychosis, delusional thinking, or who have an illness or a disability. If you are one of these people, you may go through life feeling bad about yourself needlessly. Low self-esteem keeps you from enjoying life, doing the things you want to do, and working toward personal goals.
Your turn, how are you going to build your self esteem?
Let's hear from all of you on learning to beat our problems.
its hard, cos ive always been this ultra confident person with tonnes of friends, life of the party etc, despite all my problems, but emotionally i lost my self esteem when i gained a large amount of weight (zoloft related) in a very short space of time. so i have no confidence in my body image, but the core of who i am is confident- im confident that im good at my job, that i try my hardest to make stuff work- but at the same time, i feel like an immsense failure, and i can lie here for days, dwelling and wallowing in the pain of my past. its kind of sad that at 28yrs of age- i dont mind if i have a stroke in my sleep.
let me make something very clear- i am NOT suicidal, and thank God, have always sought help before getting to that point. but im tired of the daily battle of putting on my 'coping' mask and just trudging along. in my final year of high school (1998) i had a '5 year plan' as i called it.
and the list goes on. life did not turn out the way i planned and i accept that- but sometimes it is hard to swallow. so now to balance out my plans that went askew, im going to focus on the things that went well:
it wasnt meant to be this long- *sorry*
I am so glad this post has helped many of you recognize just how important self esteem can be to getting through depression.
Keeping my self esteem is a chore I deal with often as I am over sensitive and then I beat myself up for being weak and I am on the merry-go-round of depression.
This is one issue that CBT is very helpful in working through.
I will be posting more on self esteem...........
Peace my friends,Kitt
Alright, Let's do some work..................
“Low self-esteem is often characterized by an "inner critic," which is a part of you that constantly berates your efforts and belittles your achievements. Sometimes an inner critic takes on the voice of a victim ("no one will give me a chance") or a perfectionist ("I should be doing better than this"), but the end result is an ongoing drag on your self-esteem. You can counter negative self-talk by first recognizing it for what it is and then responding to it with positive counterstatements.
Look for instances where your inner critic generalizes unduly, is unremittingly harsh or makes statements that don't hold up to logic. Then write down a series of positive counterstatements that redress those criticisms. They should always involve upbeat phrases and avoid negative words like "not," "no" or "can't." Keep them in the present tense and always use first-person statements (using "I" instead of your name). Draw up a list of them and practice saying them readily. When your inner critic starts to berate you, respond with the appropriate counterstatement every time. Eventually, your counterstatements will arise naturally in your mind whenever your inner critic gets going, keeping the negativity in check.” Reference: Rob Vaux. Rob is an expert on the effects of stress on interpersonal dynamics.
If you would read this and try some of the suggestions to boost your low self esteem you will be on your way to building good self esteem.
I would like to hear ideas you may have of ways you deal with your self esteem to help lift you up.