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CheerDad
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   Posted 2/8/2009 8:37 AM (GMT -7)   
I work for a woman who makes the wicked witch of the west in OZ look like a fair princess. She has been at it since January 14 of last year. Needless to say the stress has help trigger multiple mini-episodes of my CD. No big flares, but feeling realy crappy and intamately familiar with the bathroom.  I am on intermittent FMLA, paperwork filed out last August, and last we she informed me that she is going to send a letter to my doctor certifiying my fitness to perform my job. Stupid because the same information is in the FMLA paperwork. Well enough is enough and I sent a complaint letter to the EEOC this past week. I should not have to take xanax everyday to go to work. I do, and there is someone else at my level who reports to her that needs to also. They filed this week also.
We can respond to irritation with a smile instead of scowl, or by giving warm praise instead of icy indifference. By our being understanding instead of abrupt, others, in turn, may decide to hold on a little longer rather than to give way. Love, patience, and meekness can be just as contagious as rudeness and crudeness.
 
Randy
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stkitt
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   Posted 2/8/2009 9:40 AM (GMT -7)   
 
Kudos to you for being your own best advocate.  Sounds like your boss needs to get familiar with the rules and regs.  Send her to Human Resources for remedial training........LOL.  Dah, what a bit of trouble she is going to be chewing on.

Good luck and stay in the moment my friend, you are handling this issue extremely well.
 
Hugs at ya
Kitt

 

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FamilyGuy
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   Posted 2/8/2009 5:39 PM (GMT -7)   
I've been thinking about you my friend. I hope you can reach a resolution to this situation. I believe it is very telling that a coworker is also having issues with this person.

Take care,
Jon,  Co-moderator for Crohn's Disease and Depression forums
 
"The man who insists upon seeing with perfect clearness before he decides, never decides. Accept life, and you must accept regret." -- Henri-Frédéric Amiel (1821-81), Swiss philosopher, poet 
 
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mom9mom
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   Posted 2/10/2009 11:25 PM (GMT -7)   
Just wanted to say good for you for standing up for yourself and for doing it the right way.
Lost half of my small intestineJan.2008.Ilieostomy for 5 months then reverst in June 2008,Nerve damage to right leg,part of my right hip bone removed Jan. 2008,Cronic pain,hernia,infection in my back called discites,and depression.Gallbladder removed Nov,2008.Surgery to fuse L3 and L4 vertabra Dec. 31,2008.Mother to 9 kids 7 boys 2 girls and 1 stepson.4 grandsons,9 grandaughters.4 of my grandkids I inherited from my twin sister who passed away 6 1/2 years ago from a blood clot after surgery.God has given me my life back after I almost lost it.Even though its a painful and sometimes hard road to walk I take it one step at a time and give thanks to god for every step I take.


stkitt
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   Posted 2/11/2009 8:16 AM (GMT -7)   

Randy,

How is it going?  We would love to hear how you are and know we are thinking of you as JOn said.

(((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))

Kitt


 

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CheerDad
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   Posted 2/11/2009 10:04 PM (GMT -7)   
Well, I have my intake interview with the EEOC in March. In my state there is no notification law to carry a tape recorder, so I now tape every conversation we have. I have never worked in a job where I have to document everything to catch her in a contradiction, which I have several times, and I just started documenting heavily in January. There is another woman at work who has filed with the EEOC too. Maybe there is strenght in numbers. I just fear retaliation. My labor attorney sits on my states BAR and is very well respected in the legal community. He believes I have a strong case for a hostile work envirionment and discrimination on age and ADA. He is going to represent both myself and my coworker. I hate conflict and it is just churnning inside of me with fear. I also found out there are other people in my department that need to medicate themselves with anxiety pills just to come to work so I am so not alone in this boat. Thanks all for the support. I love my HW family.
We can respond to irritation with a smile instead of scowl, or by giving warm praise instead of icy indifference. By our being understanding instead of abrupt, others, in turn, may decide to hold on a little longer rather than to give way. Love, patience, and meekness can be just as contagious as rudeness and crudeness.
 
Randy
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Dx'd with Crohn's at age 12. Symptoms since age 5, RLS, Depression, Anxiety, and down right feel yucky some days.
Learning to live with this Disease rather than be its victim after 36 years.

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