Hello and I am glad you were able to come here and share with us.
Reading your post my red flag went up with "One year to the day of my wife leaving me she called and wanted to get back (move back in) together" and "Both times she was busy with moving from her apartment to another, that truly did make sense!"
That did not make sense to me as why would she move to another apartment if she wanted to move back in with you?
My best advice to you is to remember the good about your marriage, but don't forget the bad and the pain you have gone through.
Be very careful before you agree with her ideas as you may be getting your hopes up just to be hurt all over again. Just my 2 cents.