Welcome to HealingWell. I am Kitt and I admire you for caring so much about your fiancee that you have joined to find out ways in which you may help him.
I really think the best would be to talk to him about seeing a professional, a psychiatrist and a therapist may be what he needs first. If he needs an antidpressant to stablize his depression or a therapist to help him sort out his issues this is where to start.
Does he have access to this kind of mental health assistance where he is living now?
You are very brave and the best thing you can do for him is stand by him................which you are already doing. That is wonderful and know he is not hurting you on purpose. He is just not in a good place right now.
For you, I sugggest to keep on coming here for support as many of the members know where your coming from and what your going through.
Again a warm welcome to the Depression Forum.
Good Morning avadak
Your fiancée has a mood disorder and because of this you are most likely struggling with difficult emotions: helplessness, frustration, anger, fear, guilt, sadness. IMHO all of these feelings are normal.
Dealing with a loved one’s depression is difficult. And if you aren’t careful, it can become overwhelming.
Taking care of yourself when your fiancée is depressed is not an act of selfishness – it’s a necessity. Being emotionally strong allows you to continue to love and care for the him
Don’t try to rescue your loved one from depression. It’s not up to you to fix the problem, nor can you. You’re not to blame for your fiancée’s depression, and please do not feel responsible for his happiness (or lack thereof). Ultimately, recovery is in the hands of the depressed person.
You can’t be a caretaker round the clock without paying a psychological price. To avoid burnout and resentment, set clear limits on what you are willing and able to do. You are not your love one’s therapist, so don’t take on that responsibility. You may not be in the same country but this is taking it’s toll on your health.
Coming here and talking about your feelings was a brave and wise choice. There are members here that are going through the same as you are.
I hope this helps you and I found some of this info in an article one day and reversed it for my hubby as I am the one with depression. It helped me understand what he is feeling.