Insecure & Worrying

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Confusedli
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Date Joined Apr 2008
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   Posted 2/12/2009 6:33 AM (GMT -7)   
Things are going great for me at the minute, I'm enjoying my job better & me & my boyfriend finally seem to be moving forward. Yet I am always creating problems in my head - like for example 2 days ago, me & my bf had a tiny little arguement about sumthing as stupid as what we were watching on TV, yet 2 days later I am still worrying about it & imagining all sorts of things such as that he is going to leave me, or hates me or whatever! It's stupid - but it's because I worry like this that the big arguements get caused! I get a bit clingy & needy because I'm feeling insecure!  Total viscious circle!
 
I really want to just relax and enjoy a lovely valentines weekend without stressing about things!!!
Confusedli
 
"The Optimist sees the rose and not its thorns; the pessimist stares at the thorns, oblivious of the rose."
 
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getting by
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   Posted 2/12/2009 9:21 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Li,

I just dont understand why you get insecure, you are so pretty. I think that you will have a lovely weekend, just train your mind not to dwell on things.

You are always doing fun things, I envy that. I wish that I had traveled like you do. It is amazing. You will have many fond memories of these times.

Have a wonderful day. And a happy valentines.

Luv and hugs, Karen
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stkitt
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   Posted 2/12/2009 9:37 AM (GMT -7)   

Good Morning Pretty Lady,

Practice staying in the moment, let go of what happened a couple of days ago, it is over. 

Never lose hope in dealing with your fears and depression. Notice your feelings, figure out what's real, ask 'so what?', make it bigger than life, walk through it, and celebrate who you are. Do these things, make them habits, expose the ridiculousness of your fears (but in a loving way), and all by themselves they'll go away in time..

Hugs,
Kitt
 

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Confusedli
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Date Joined Apr 2008
Total Posts : 363
   Posted 2/13/2009 2:43 PM (GMT -7)   
tbh I don't get insecure about the way I look, I worry more about f people actually like me, and I always think the people secretly don't like me that much!
Confusedli
 
"The Optimist sees the rose and not its thorns; the pessimist stares at the thorns, oblivious of the rose."
 
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, its about learning to dance in the rain"


Akram
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Date Joined Feb 2005
Total Posts : 616
   Posted 2/13/2009 3:21 PM (GMT -7)   
visit this place: moodgym
i get stuck on the same strange thoughts as you do and what people think of me etc, and this site is great your gona find some very similar things in there and how you can fight it off :) it uses CBT

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