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sillysundy
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   Posted 2/18/2009 1:06 PM (GMT -7)   
I just need to vent and am so glad for these boards.  I have been dealing with depression, on and off, for quite some time.  Since my forties, it seems to have gotten worse.  Like a lot of other people, I am coping with financial problems right now and wondering what I am going to do with the rest of my life, at age 54!  I still look pretty good, but I am getting to the point where I feel I have nothing to look forward to.  I have been a legal secretary for my entire life and it was not something I chose, but rather fell into.  Last year, after almost becoming homeless, I inherited some money from a trust fund, which came at just the right time.  I have been trying and trying to think of something I can do that I really enjoy, but I have two misdemeanors on my record, both involving alcohol.  I really love to drive and thought about cab driving or driving an 18-wheeler!  But, I have a DUI back in 2002 and in 2001, a public intoxication.  Right now, I am delivering pizza, and I only work 20 hours or so a week.  I have about $28,000 in savings and am trying to decide what to do!  If anyone has any suggestions, please post.
 
I have been lying aorund my house watching TV and have not even showered in two days!!!  I can't get up the motivation to even get in the shower and go to the gym or outside.
 
I really don't want to go back on antidepressants because they really didn't help me;  5 htp is helping me sleep well, but it's the motivation factor I can't seem to overcome. shakehead
 
I have been looking into selling on ebay or starting a business that way.  One thing I know for sure:  I do not EVER want to set foot in a law firm again!!!!
 
 

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   Posted 2/18/2009 3:00 PM (GMT -7)   
Are you going to any counseling right now? I wonder if that would help you. If you aren't going to take medications I would recommend counseling, exercise and meditation. These three things help me, but I do take medications.

I met a guy buying and selling on ebay. He was making good money. But it can be risky. I see you got your shipping figured out.

I am sorry that you had a bad experience with the law firm business. It just seems like you would be able to find something similar to that to do. Best wishes what ever you decide. And keep posting.

Hugs, Karen
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sillysundy
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   Posted 2/18/2009 5:23 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks, Karen. Attorneys are rather difficult to work for, unless you just chance upon one that is actually nice. My ex-boss threw phone messages at me, screamed at me (mostly when under stress), and belittled and humiliated me. I have worked for some nice ones, but have really given up trying to find the right fit in this field. The way law firms have downsized now is by having one secretary work for 3, 4, and sometimes, 5 attorneys! At my last job I was doing everything an attorney does, except go to court. I really felt cheated and underpaid, and this does not include the verbal and mental abuse I had to endure. No, I am not whining...these are the FACTS!

getting by
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   Posted 2/18/2009 7:13 PM (GMT -7)   
I don't blame you for not wanting to go back. Just the humiliation of it would send me the other way, nobody deserves to be treated like that.

Keep with us and we will get you feeling good about yourself. There is also a site that I will get for you in case you are interested. I have to find it. It is called mood gym. and it is free.

Hugs, Karen
 
I found it:
 
 
Check it out, it might help you to feel better.


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JeannieM
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   Posted 2/19/2009 12:09 PM (GMT -7)   
sillysundy you sound like me. That's another thing my husband and I are always fighting about. My lack of motivation, my lack of doing even basic cleaning around the house, stuff like that. He gets upset when I look at him and tell him I know. I know I've got to change and become more motivated and do stuff besides watch tv and play on the computer all day but I just can't or don't know how. I'm going to try something new and just try and do one thing around the house every day. Even if it's just run the sweeper. Just something because I really feel like I'm in jeopardy of loosing it all.

Karen I'm going to check out that moodgym too

getting by
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   Posted 2/19/2009 1:57 PM (GMT -7)   
I have the same problem, I am lucky if I get the dishes done, let alone clean the house. I am always on the computer doing one thing or another.

I am glad that you are going to check out moodgym.

Hugs, Karen
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JeannieM
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   Posted 2/19/2009 2:20 PM (GMT -7)   
Karen are you using or have you used moodgym yourself? Seems interesting so far.

sillysundy
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   Posted 2/19/2009 3:19 PM (GMT -7)   

I feel better today.  I went to the gym!  Sometimes, once you do something, ANYTHING, it will stop the inertia and get you moving again.  I have noticed that.  Even if you do start out small, like doing dishes or just vacuuming.  Sometimes, it is so hard for me to get motivated to go to the gym, but once I get there and start working out, it really helps my mood.  I can't say enough about exercise!  It really gets those endomorphins up.  I'm really excited about selling on ebay.  I'm going to do some more research first, and see what people are looking for.  Then, I'm going to sign up with a dropshipper, like Doba, which is ebay certified.  I think I will just do a few listings at first and see how my choices sell.  Eventually, I want to open a store on there!

Take care everyone and thanks for letting me vent!


JeannieM
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   Posted 2/20/2009 11:14 AM (GMT -7)   
So glad you are having a better day!! I'd love to join a gym for motivation and to loose some pounds but it's not possible moneywise. I do plan on starting to walk more when the weather gets nicer. I'm not a cold weather fan and living where I live alot of people don't even shovel sidewalks and I'm not about to walk on the road.

It may sound silly but I kinda started walking some at work last night. I work in a factory as a machine operator 3rd shift (midnight to 8 am) so I started doing laps between my end of the machine and the other end. I counted and it's 122 steps from one end to the other one way. I did 3 laps ;) Like you said, start small.

What kind of stuff are you planning on selling on ebay?

getting by
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   Posted 2/20/2009 12:09 PM (GMT -7)   
Exercise is so good for us, in many ways. I try to park far away from the store at the other side of the parking lot. I figure that every bit helps.

Congrats to both of you.

Hugs, Karen
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