Need a shoulder over daughter's suffering

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Lindaloo
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   Posted 2/20/2009 10:34 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi all,
 
I usually don't post here.  I am usually on the chronic pain and fibromyalgia forums, but today I have depression issues and I could use a supportive ear.
 
I have been here all week with my youngest daughter in Ft. Lauderdale.  She is 34 years old and has been suffering with this last bout of depression for the last six months with no improvement.  She has tried several different medications with her doctor and nothing is working.  She is breaking my heart.  No smiles, no energy, sleeping,shaking all the time and angry every once in a while.  This is a mirror image of my depression when my medications do not work either.  My purpose to come here was to get her back to my psychiatrist for treatment and to talk to him about her as well.  I brought her with me to my last appointment Wednesday night.  I travel five hours one way to see him.  He is that good and has saved my life on two occasions
 
He has saved her life before too.  She was suicidal at one point earlier in her life and was committed for 72 hours after taking an overdose of medication. He has agreed cheerfully, to take her back as a patient.
 
I have been praying for her.  I have to go home tomorrow and I will miss her so much.  I hope she does ok.  She lives with her bf, but I'm not so sure he is as supportive as he could be.  He uses tough love on her, which is the last thing she needs at this point.
 
Those of you that pray, please pray for her.  And as for me, keep a good thought.  I appreciate that.  Thanks for listening and letting me vent.
 
Gentle hugs to all.
 
Lindaloo
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Believe in yourself.  Be kind to fellow humans and animals.  Take time to smell the flowers and the coffee.
And by all means, when you are down, ask me for help.  I will be there.
 
Linda


Tirzah
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   Posted 2/20/2009 10:41 PM (GMT -7)   
Linda,
It is so nice that your daughter can rely on you to help her through this dark, dark time.

I will definitely say a bunch of prayers for the both of you (& maybe for the bf too so that he can find something other than tough love to try to support her).

hugs & prayers,
frances

Lindaloo
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   Posted 2/20/2009 10:46 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you so much for the supportive note. It really means a lot to me hon. So very much.

Lindaloo
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Believe in yourself.  Be kind to fellow humans and animals.  Take time to smell the flowers and the coffee.
And by all means, when you are down, ask me for help.  I will be there.
 
Linda


getting by
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   Posted 2/21/2009 8:10 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Lindaloo,

Hugs and prayers to both you and your daughter. I am so glad that you posted here. There are a bunch of kind and compassionate members.

Does your daughter have what is called 'treatment resistant' depression? Is that what you have too? You seem to be doing well, so something must of helped you. Was it your psychiatrist? Or do you go to counseling too?

I truly hope that your daughter can get some help that she needs. I hope that they can find something that will work well for her.

Keep posting, we are here for you.

Hugs, Karen
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Lindaloo
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   Posted 2/21/2009 8:18 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm sure she qualifires for the term "treatment or medication resistant" depression. I have it too.

She needs counseling but has no insurance and can't afford it. She is barely holding a part time job too.

I had gone to counseling for many years and it helped save my life. I got a lot out of it. Even went for treatment at Caron in pennsylvania.

Thanks you for your well wishes and warm welcome.

Lindaloo
Moderator Chronic Pain
 
Believe in yourself.  Be kind to fellow humans and animals.  Take time to smell the flowers and the coffee.
And by all means, when you are down, ask me for help.  I will be there.
 
Linda


getting by
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   Posted 2/21/2009 8:34 AM (GMT -7)   
There are mental health agencies that do take patients with no insurance. Sometimes it is only like five or ten dollars. If that. As long as you don't have insurance, they will help you. Check into your local mental health agency. You might have to ask questions, because a lot of times they don't offer the advice. But it is worth looking into. She might be eligable for help with human resources. She might be able to get a medicaid card. I would check that out too.

Best wishes to you my friend, keep posting.

Hugs, Karen
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Lindaloo
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   Posted 2/21/2009 10:54 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks, she is seeing one of those drs and that fee is covered for the moment. But there is no counseling available at this time. She is on a list. Her dr. is advising that she apply for disability. So I am going to help her with that. Thanks for caring, Karen, and the rest of you as well. I appreciate the responses so much. Today so far, is a little bit better day. At least I saw her smile once.

Lindaloo
Moderator Chronic Pain
 
Believe in yourself.  Be kind to fellow humans and animals.  Take time to smell the flowers and the coffee.
And by all means, when you are down, ask me for help.  I will be there.
 
Linda


mom9mom
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   Posted 2/24/2009 11:42 PM (GMT -7)   
Lindaloo just want to say hi and that I will pray for your daughter and you.Good Luck.
Lost half of my small intestineJan.2008.Ilieostomy for 5 months then reverst in June 2008,Nerve damage to right leg,part of my right hip bone removed Jan. 2008,Cronic pain,hernia,infection in my back called discites,and depression.Gallbladder removed Nov,2008.Surgery to fuse L3 and L4 vertabra Dec. 31,2008.Mother to 9 kids 7 boys 2 girls and 1 stepson.4 grandsons,9 grandaughters.4 of my grandkids I inherited from my twin sister who passed away 6 1/2 years ago from a blood clot after surgery.God has given me my life back after I almost lost it.Even though its a painful and sometimes hard road to walk I take it one step at a time and give thanks to god for every step I take.


Lindaloo
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   Posted 2/25/2009 9:19 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Mom9mom. I have decided to stay another week with my daughter. My husband came to pick me up last Saturday, and I couldn't leave. So he went back home without me . lol. She plans to drive me back this Saturday.

She is doing a little better now. I see a few smiles and it is encouraging. The doctor put her on some new prescription vitamins for depression. I think they are called deplin and perhaps they are working.

Anyway, thank you all for your support. I need it too.

Lindaloo
Moderator Chronic Pain
 
Believe in yourself.  Be kind to fellow humans and animals.  Take time to smell the flowers and the coffee.
And by all means, when you are down, ask me for help.  I will be there.
 
Linda


getting by
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   Posted 2/25/2009 12:56 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Lindaloo,

I don't know if you have noticed, but there is a thread on dephlin. I don't know if it will help you or not to understand it more.

I am so happy that the doctor found something that works for your daughter. I hope she continues to feel well.

Hugs, Karen
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fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies

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