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stkitt
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   Posted 2/23/2009 4:26 PM (GMT -7)   
Welcome New Members.  Here is where you have the chance to introduce yourself and share a bit about you. We love getting to know all of our members and you are important to us.
 
Please take the time to jot down a bit about you if you are comfortable, post only what you feel you want to share in this thread as a newbie.
 
This is Part 3................so you can see we have had lots of new members over the months.........feel comfortable.
 
Welcome to Our World.
 
Kitt
 
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stkitt
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   Posted 2/23/2009 4:36 PM (GMT -7)   

A warm welcome to our newest members:

theronson, Jeannie M, Hi,itsme, and Tracy t.

I have found the support, validation and encouragement that I receive here, to be so helpful and healing. I hope and trust that will be your experience as a member of the HW family

Respectfully

Kitt


 

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ImDealing
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   Posted 2/26/2009 10:06 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello all.
 
I'm a 41 year old male living in Washington.  I've been married for nearly 19 years, have a 13 year old, and been clinicaly depressed and on medicine for over 10 years.  I have no friends, I have cut myself off from my family for the most part, and as you will see next, I have nearly destroyed the one good relationship I had.
 
Right now I am in a divorce/separation situation brought on in part by my depression symptoms, and my wife deciding that it was just too much to deal with it anymore.  Strangely, after the stress of this situation, my depression symptoms have disappeared. 
 
(The other part is that my wife was recently diagnosed as bipolar ... with all that entails.    What a fun house is was, one person constantly depressed, and the other one cycling back and forth.)
 
I'm not foolish enough to think this period of normalcy is permanent.   For the first time in years I am trying to get help beyond taking a pill.  This forum is a great first step.  I really appreciate the helpfulness and open hearts of the people who have been posting here.  Thank you everyone.
 
Theronson

stkitt
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   Posted 2/27/2009 8:41 AM (GMT -7)   
Theronson
You have come to the best place on the net to find members that know where you are coming from and what you are going through.
 
Please know we are here for you and you have just become a family member of HealingWell. 
 
I wish you peace and look forward to getting to know you better.
 
Kitt

 

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bamaskies
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Date Joined Feb 2009
Total Posts : 18
   Posted 2/28/2009 8:49 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi everyone,
I have been dealing with depression and chronic pain for years and yesterday was very bad. I usually have a bag of tricks to help but nothing worked. I found this site by accident. I wish that I had found it back in 1995. You see, that is when I was introduced to my constant partner now called depression. 
In 1993 at age 36 I was diagnosed with a severe hernation with significant spinal cord compression of C5C6. I had a wonderful surgeon and walked out of that hospital. But I was a heavy equipment mechanic with a wife and two young children and did not want to change. In spring 1995 I had to undergo a complete removal of the disk at L4L5. I was under an increduble amount of pressure to perform; at work and home. In fall 1995 I stopped eating for a week. My brain shut down and I was hospitalized for a week for major clinical depression. I was taking pain killers and antidepressants. By the summer of 1997 I was barely walking with a cane and my employer,(federal), was about to release me medically unfit with no benefits. I decided to retired on civil service diability. My wfe left in 2001 and convinced my children, teenagers at the time, that I was not a man or decent father because I could not give them want they wanted financially. I remarried in fall of 2005 to an understanding woman which helped me to get my medications under control. But living with someone with depression and chronic pain is very hard. Ater more surgeries, which removed the remainder fo my cervical disk and half of L3L4, now our relationship is strained to the point of her wanting something different. Although I can still 'keep the yard up' and repair anything that goes wrong, I still sit more than a man my age does. That is why I try to keep up appearances. If I am prescribed any new meds my wife looks them up and decides that I will have all the side effects and then tells me that she will not put up with that. So I don't look for any new meds and deal with my depression and lonelines in other ways. Which leads me back to this forum. From just the few post that I have read I feel that I have found a place with people that I can relate to and will listen to my concerns. Compasionate, caring people who have been where I have. Thank you for listening.
all cervical disks removed and L4L5 removed. nerve damage from surgeries and nerve root blockage on siatic nerve in left leg.
chronic pain from failed back and neck surgeries.
depression
 
Look for the better times; they do come. God bless you. 


getting by
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   Posted 2/28/2009 1:04 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi bamaskies,

I am so sorry for what you are going through. It sounds like you need to take control of your own medications. Even though there are side effects, it doesn't mean that you will have them.

Your wife doesn't sound like she is very kind or understanding of you. I think that you need to take control of your life and what you are doing. You owe that to yourself.

I hope that things get better. Keep on posting and start taking care of you. You are a wonderful person.

Hugs, Karen
  Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia
 
fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies


bamaskies
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Date Joined Feb 2009
Total Posts : 18
   Posted 2/28/2009 5:13 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks getting by. I have been trying to be more independent in my decisions about my health care. I have even considered getting my own place for awhile. But I made a commitment and have a hard time justifying leaving. I think with this forum and the people in it that I will find more tools to use to be more independent when it comes to my mental health. Thanks for caring.   Frankie

all cervical disks removed and L4L5 removed. nerve damage from surgeries and nerve root blockage on siatic nerve in left leg.
chronic pain from failed back and neck surgeries. spinal stenosis, sciatica
depression
 
Look for the better times; they do come. God bless you. 


cb83
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Date Joined Mar 2009
Total Posts : 2
   Posted 3/2/2009 4:53 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi everyone

I have a friend who’s suffering from depression and so have joined to see if anyone has suggestions on what I can do to help her or if what I’m doing now is right/appropriate. I’ve not really dealt with depression too much before (never really suffered from it myself) so I’m a bit lost in it all. I don’t really know if these boards are here for me but if not and anyone knows where I should be looking all help is gratefully received!

Thanks for reading, I hope I find ways to help her and maybe in time others too.

Hibee
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   Posted 3/2/2009 8:39 AM (GMT -7)   
Welcome to all the new members this is a great forum a place were you can speak to people who can relate to what you are going through do keep posting and I look forward to getting to know you all.

stkitt
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Date Joined Apr 2007
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   Posted 3/2/2009 8:51 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi bamaskies,

Welcome to HealingWell and the Depression forum.  I am so glad you found this great site.  You will find the members here warm and caring and very knowledgable about Depression.

I am sorry your wife is in conflcit with what your physician's have ordered for medications.

Perhaps you could kindly ask her to not google the side effects and just take the med.  I assume she means well but it is not helping so please do be assertive and have a talk with her.

Again a warm welcome

Kitt


 

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&  Moderator GERD  Forums

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stkitt
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   Posted 3/2/2009 8:55 AM (GMT -7)   

cb83

Welcome and yes these boards are for family, friends and members who have depression.

We are glad you found us and hearing that you are concerned about your friend warms my heart.  So many turn their back on mental health issues as they do not understand them.

Please start a thread for yourself and post your issues and concerns, we will do our best to help you with good advice.

Again a Warm Welcome.

Kitt


 

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stkitt
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   Posted 3/7/2009 9:13 AM (GMT -7)   

Hello

Welcome to HealingWell and the Depression Forum.  All new members please take the time to post a bit about yourselves as I see we have a lot of newbies............and Hey  we love new members.

Glad to have you with us.

The Depression Moderators  yeah


 

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thisbites
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Date Joined Mar 2009
Total Posts : 10
   Posted 3/8/2009 3:26 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi - my boyfriend (this is weird to call him my boyfriend, he actually ended our relationship 6 months ago) has depression. I have known him for over 30 yrs. He was my boyfriend when I was 14, again for a year or so when I was 20, and some nights together in our late twenties. We lived across the street from each other growing up and were always friends and close for all the years. He was two yrs. older than me, the same age as my step brother and a whole group of us were always together thru high school. We ended up married to different people, different lives, he used drugs heavily. We reconnected over a year ago and we were both very happy to be together. He has been clean and sober for 6 yrs and I am so proud of him for that. He did tell me some about the depression and had been on meds a couple times this past yr but ended up going off last April or May when he thought he was getting headaches from them. At that time he ended up on night shifts and his teenage daughter also moved back with her mom and he plummeted downhill fast. He was at my house for a month last Aug. for his job but he wasn't doing well at all in my opinion. Soon after he got home he called and ended our relationship. A couple months ago he moved back to this area. Since our break up I have sent e-mails, texts, gave him a housewarming gift via his sister, and got really brave and dropped some brownies off for him last week but only stayed for like 3 minutes because I figured it would be pretty stressful for him. He did give me a nice hug when I was leaving. As far as communicating though all this time, he did send me a text last Sept. that said "yes, I get your messages" but that has been it. I want to support him because he has been special to me for a very long time, even if we do have to end up just being friends again. I really dont know the best way to show support though without making things worse for him.

stkitt
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   Posted 3/8/2009 7:12 PM (GMT -7)   
Welcome thisbites
 
I understand your need to want to help this friend of yours and the frustration you are going through in not knowing how to get through to him.
 
May I suggest that you just be there for him and when he is ready he will let you know.  You have emailed him, talked with him and brought him a housewarming gift.
 
I feel liike the ball is now in his court and sometimes people with depression need some space or they start to feel if they don't respond the way you would like them too they are hurting you. 
 
You have  offered the olive branch now I would just move on and see what happens. 
Depression can be a very private disorder for some people too.
He is very fortunate to have you as a friend and I am sure he knows and appreciates that.  You are a good person.
 
Take care of you .
Gentle Hugs
Kitt
 

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getting by
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   Posted 3/8/2009 8:19 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Thisbites,

I agree with Kitt, the ball is in his court now. But just because he isn't reaching out right now, doesn't mean that he doesn't appreciate you being there. When I get depressed, I tend to withdraw from people. But that doen't mean I don't care, I do, I just don't have the energy or desire to interact. So I stay to myself. Maybe that is what he is doing right now.

Like Kitt said, just be there to support him when he needs you. I don't mean put your life on hold for him either, I don't think he would want you to do that. And you have to take care of yourself first.

Keep posting, as we are all here for you.

Hugs, Karen
  Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia
 
fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies


getting by
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   Posted 3/14/2009 6:38 PM (GMT -7)   
bump...
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getting by
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Date Joined Sep 2007
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   Posted 3/17/2009 8:43 AM (GMT -7)   
bump up for newer members, please post a little about yourself if you would like to.

Hugs, Karen
  Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia
 
fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies


cjfriends2
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Date Joined Mar 2009
Total Posts : 1
   Posted 3/17/2009 9:18 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi, I'm trying to figure out how to chat with the depression group. My chemo brain isn't helping. I recently finished 6 mo. of chemo after having surgery for colon cancer. So my moods and body is messed up. Was sent to a psychiatrist to help with the problems. She put me on Wellbuterin ( I'm sure this is miss spelled Oh Well) and Deplin. Now I'm waking up 4 to 5 times an night instead of just 2 to 3. I have also noticed that my knees and ankles are stiff and ache plus qwezzy stomach. Not sure why I'm on Deplin as all my labs including folic acid were good. I do feel better during the day but the nights are making me VERY tired. I think this drug that I am taking before noon is acting like speed on my body. I know when I was on chem that I could Not take any folic acid due to the 5FU, but when my labs were done before being put on the Deplin were good. I hope this drug/vitamin does not promote the growth of cancer cells. I'm just trying to get some of my life back and at 60 plus having cancer I don't know have.
Bye
cj

Raniah
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Date Joined Mar 2009
Total Posts : 1190
   Posted 3/17/2009 9:21 AM (GMT -7)   
CJ: You sound like a really strong person, to come through all that you have and share your motivation with us to get your life back. I hope that your doctor will continue to monitor your symptoms and help you in the best way possible. I wish you good health and healing.

getting by
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   Posted 3/17/2009 9:38 AM (GMT -7)   
cj,

To get into chat, go to the top of the page. You will see a blue bar going acrossed. one section will say 'chat'. Click on that and it will take you there. If nobody is in depression, go in anyway. Everybody checks to see if somebody is in there. That is if you want to. It is a lot of fun. It starts shortly.

Hugs, Karen
  Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia
 
fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies


JournalDan
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Date Joined Mar 2009
Total Posts : 61
   Posted 3/18/2009 11:35 AM (GMT -7)   
I've met some of you but not all, and I'd like to welcome you to the forums! I love to talk to everyone here and put my two cents in on a lot of posts.

You'll find this website is very helpful and the people are fantastic.

Don't be too shy to post individual posts so we can all give you some love and attention if you are having a crisis or just a bad day.

I am sorry that you're having problems but I am thrilled you are here.

Can't wait to spend some time together!

stkitt
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   Posted 3/18/2009 4:06 PM (GMT -7)   

cj,

Welcome to HealingWell and the Depression Forum.  My sister has just gone through 6 months of chemo so I know where your coming from and what your going through.

Deplin is usually used to boost the Antidepressant............do talk with your physician about looking at a different AD if your feeling this many side effects.  There are a lot to choose from.

Again a warm welcome and feel free to start a thread of your own.

Gentle Hugs

Kitt


 

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finick08
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Date Joined Jul 2008
Total Posts : 39
   Posted 3/19/2009 2:12 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey all, ive not been on here in a while, but pretty much i think im on the improve now, last nov/dec i was in hos for about 4-5weeks, i got out just after xmas, ive been sleeping alot better without using any sleeping pills which has made me feel alot better, i see a psychologist every 2weeks which is helping, i still suffer abit at night from anxiety which is stopping me from going out with friends but i guess it will just take time to get over. But i do have some goals for the year which are, get a decent job, start playing rugby again, and go out more with friends, get fit again, and also try get off all medz im taking, these are pretty important to me and i think i can do them all. I hope everyone else is fighting hard to get over there problems because in the end it will be worth it.
 
Cheers Peter.
 


Raniah
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   Posted 3/19/2009 4:36 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Peter - It sounds like you are really motivated, which is awesome! I think that attitude counts for a lot. Nice to see you here. :-)

stkitt
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   Posted 3/20/2009 9:36 AM (GMT -7)   

Hello Peter and Welcome to HealingWell and the Depression Forum. We are glad to meet you and look forward to getting to know you better.

I am glad you have realistic goals and that you are now able to sleep without sleeping pills.

Do stay with us and know we care.

Gentle Hugs

Kitt

 


 

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