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hw_chelsi
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   Posted 2/24/2009 10:47 PM (GMT -7)   
I feel as though I am hanging on for dear life.  I started my job 2 years ago.  Everything went very well for quite a while.  Now I can do nothing right.  I have been told I have job security.  Now I do not know if it true anymore.  Several things have happened lately.  A couple of weeks ago, the owners went over to a vacant apt. to look at it and came back all upset because of some stains on the carpet.  It had been late afternoon when I had done the walk thru and it did not seem that bad at the time.  Everyone seemed to jump me.  We had to replace the carpet in one room.  Had another tenant move out end of Jan.  Their lease was up.  They did not pay for Jan. and owed still for Dec.  Sat we had a meeting between one of the owners, the maintenace guy and myself.  It is a long story but the owner was not happy about something on the application.  I had been warned he was in a terrible mood.  He yelled at me and said I was not using my brain and then said he was going to have to talk to me about my employment.  Of course that sent me into tears.  Had to go into my office to copy the lease on this tenant so do not think he knew I was in tears.  His wife called me later after she heard about it and did tell me I was not going to lose my job.  I have always felt comfortable with my job, but him telling me this really threw me a loop.  Well, things started to improve a bit.  Have some tenants I was going to move into the apt. we had changed out the carpet in one room.  They came in today wanting to see the apt.  After showing it to them I inquired about any pets.  I had asked before but did not remember so said, 'you dont have any pets do you?'  Turns out they do.  When I assigned them to that apt. I did not know we were going to change the carpet and when that decision was made, I forgot about them having a small dog.  I sent the owners wife an e-mail telling her I did a horrible thing and what I had done and how sorry I was and that I hated myself.  She is usually very understanding.  Well she called me on my cell and yelled at me saying noone with a pet goes onto new carpet.  I ended up getting it straightened out.  She did leave me a voice mail at the office before reaching me on my cell.  She was quite upset and told me I needed to get my wits about me together and things I need to do (which I normally do but had messed up on this one).  I have strong feelings that they are disapointed in me.  I do not even know if she still wants to keep me on.  Even though she tells me I have job security and I am not going to lose my job, I have this sinking pit in my stomach.  I am a total failure.  I don't know what to do.  I sent her a second e-mail this afternoon but she has not responded.  I do not know what to do.  All I know is that if they let me go, I am going to fall hard.  I need my confidence back.  I have the maintenance guy on my case most of the time and now the owners.

Confusedli
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   Posted 2/25/2009 3:24 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Chelsi,

I'm not really sure what to say here, as I don't know enough about your employer or employment laws where you are - over here in the UK, your employer couldn't let you go without first giving you a verbal, then a written warning. I don't know if that is the same where you are?

You should try not to worry too much, people aren't perfect & we all sometimes make mistakes in our jobs - I know I do - we are only human and your employer knows that.
Confusedli
 
"The Optimist sees the rose and not its thorns; the pessimist stares at the thorns, oblivious of the rose."
 
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, its about learning to dance in the rain"


getting by
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   Posted 2/25/2009 6:42 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Chelsi,

I have noticed ever since the maitainance man came into the picture that things have been getting worse for you. I don't know if he has anything to do with it, but I just don't trust him. I don't even know him, but from what you have written, it always feels like he is up to something. I could be very wrong. But I bet that he has somebody that he wants for the job.

Like Li said, we all make mistakes. And the owners could have been in a bad mood that day. So I wouldn't worry too much. Maybe you should sit down and have a talk with them and see how that goes. I know that they didn't always listen to you when you needed them to. So it goes both ways.

I wish you the best with this. Try not to let it get to you. Keep in touch with them and keep them informed with what is going on. I know that it gets hard sometimes, but you will make it. I think you do have job security. But I still don't trust the maintainance man. I could be so wrong though.

Best wishes for a wonderful day.

Hugs, Karen
  Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia
 
fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies


hw_chelsi
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Date Joined Feb 2003
Total Posts : 150
   Posted 2/25/2009 10:46 AM (GMT -7)   

Thanks for listening.  To answer Li, I am on a contract.  I know we each have to give the other some kind of notice, I want to say 30 days but do not remember right off the top of my head. 

Things were going really well for a long time.  It seemed I could not do anything wrong. Then things started changing.  Apparently he (the owner) got comfortable with me and he would get upset and yell.  I have witnessed this between him and his wife.  She was protective of me.  I could talk to her or e-mail her and things seemed better.  Now she is starting to act like him at times.  She used to apologize when she got upset with me.  She does not do that anymore.  I understand she is under alot of stress with her job, taking care of her mother and dealing with the apts.  I believe she has some health issues but I do not know what they are. 

When things were going really well, she was telling me what a great job I was doing, and I could talk to her about anything.  I also suffer from ADHD and anxiety.  When others yell at me and say things such as 'you are not using your brain' ect. I get upset.  When they ask a question I get flustered.   I keep them up to date with everything that goes on.  Sure, I could have said I did not know those people had a dog, but I told them.

As far as the maintenance guy goes, I had not thought of the posibility that he may have someone he wants in that position.  That could be.  However, I think he knows that I have a friendship with the owners.  I think he is a control freak.  He gets upset if something happens and he does not know about it.  He tells me he thinks the three of us (the owners and me) are crazy because of the way they want things done.  I have never done this type of work before so I have nothing to compare with.  Sure, I don't agree with everything they do.  But that is going to happen with any job.  I believe the maintenance guy believes he is in charge out here.  I have heard from tenants that he has told them he runs the place.  I do what the owners tell me to do but if he disagree's he tells me and sometimes gets upset.  He is the best maintenance guy we have had since I have been here.  He gets things done.  The last one we had lasted about 6 months and was a total disaster.  The one before was really nice but an older gentleman but got to things when he felt like it.

I want more than anything for things to be the way it was.  If I make a mistake, I want to know but not be yelled at.  I have my "bad" times and I know I have to work extra hard then.  I just can't handle being yelled at and things said that accomplish nothing. 

Chelsi


Confusedli
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Date Joined Apr 2008
Total Posts : 363
   Posted 2/26/2009 2:58 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Chelsi,

Maybe try & just let things go over your head a bit more. I know thats really hard to do, but the more you get stressed about it, the more you will make mistakes - etc - its a viscious circle!
Confusedli
 
"The Optimist sees the rose and not its thorns; the pessimist stares at the thorns, oblivious of the rose."
 
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, its about learning to dance in the rain"

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