Post Edited (getting by) : 2/26/2009 8:12:53 PM (GMT-7)
Choose a quiet spot where you will not be disturbed by other people or by the telephone.Sit quietly in a comfortable position.
Eliminate distractions and interruptions during the period you'll be meditating.Commit yourself to a specific length of time and try to stick to it.Pick a focus word or short phrase that's firmly rooted in your personal belief system. A non-religious person might choose a neutral word like one, peace, or love. Others might use the opening words of a favorite prayer from their religion such as 'Hail Mary full of Grace', "I surrender all to you", "Hallelujah", "Om", etc.Close your eyes. This makes it easy to concentrate.Relax your muscles sequentially from head to feet. This helps to break the connection between stressful thoughts and a tense body. Starting with your forehead, become aware of tension as you breathe in. Let go of any obvious tension as you breathe out. Go through the rest of your body in this way, proceeding down through your eyes, jaws, neck, shoulders, arms, hands, chest, upper back, middle back and midriff, lower back, belly, pelvis, buttocks, thighs, calves, and feet.Breathe slowly and naturally, repeating your focus word or phrase silently as you exhale.Assume a passive attitude. Don't worry about how well you're doing. When other thoughts come to mind, simply say, "Oh, well," and gently return to the repetition.Continue for 10 to 20 minutes. You may open your eyes to check the time, but do not use an alarm. After you finish: Sit quietly for a minute or so, at first with your eyes closed and later with your eyes open. Do not stand for one or two minutes.Plan for a session once or twice a day.
Then find some sunshine and just sit in the sun and let it warm your soul. You are a good person and you can do this. I believe in you.
I have been where you are at. My heart sank when I read your post. All I can say is you are doing the right thing. Reach out. Hold on. Also find professional help to see you through this. Keep posting. Frankie
Post Edited (shaishai) : 3/10/2009 6:37:01 PM (GMT-6)
There are days when I feel like no one knows I even exist.......now I know that is stinkin thinkin but I do understand how you feel.........so fight back and get out there in the world.
Show them how great you are and you will find friends.
I know this is not easy.
I am working on this very think myself.
Sorry i didn't get back sooner. got busy for a couple of days which is unusual for me.
Glad i was able to get you to smile. Hey i've got lots of smiles so let's try that one more time.
Here is anonther smile . Try this one on for size. Did it fit? Now get up, walk to a mirror,
put on this smile, look at yourself in the mirror, now say to yourself " I DESERVE THIS SMILE".
Go right now and then come back here.
Now hold that thought !!!
Sounds like a really stressful work place. Could you tell me a little more about this company you work at ? Like is it a big company or maybe a little mom and pop place ? Are ther lots of people working there ? If it's a big place,,do they have an employee relations department? I might have some ideas but it helps to understand more about where you work.
I use to have a very very stressful job. It wasn't because of the people i worked with but it was the type of work i did. But it was stress all the same. The best thing i learned was that my stress was only caused by my job. In other words i only got stressed while i was at work. I and you can only deal with the problems causing our stress while we are at work. Read that again and give it some thought. We can't fix a problem from home about our work. we can only work on that problem while we are at work. From the time we leave work till the time we go back to work is YOUR time. So if you can't fix a problem about work till you get back to work then why dwell on that problem during YOUR time. Don't let that boss mess with YOUR time. Next time you leave work to go home leave all those problems at work to deal with when you get back. Do you realize there are 168 hours in a week and if you work 40 hours a week you only spend about a fourth of your time working. Don't let that 40 hours mess up the other 128 hours that is YOUR time. Do you get my drift here dear? Deal with their problems on their time not yours.
I know shutting it off when leaving work is easier said then done but i'd sure give it a try. Worked very well in my case.
Ok, take a deep breath, that's enough of that for now but i would like to hear your thoughts on it.
If i understood correctly you were suppose to have seen the doctor yesturday. So how did that go?
There's a lot of nice people here with lots of good advise but if you feel uncomfortable letting it out here or would just like to email one on one click my name for the email address.
I'm pulling for you dear,,hang in there,, You ARE going to straighten this out and get on with a having a happy life with lots of smiles. If you work at it,,,it will come!