Good Morning. I just wanted you to know I am praying for you and your wife too.
Something caught my eye in your post, " My wife is a new ICU nurse " I was in her shoes at one time and nursing is a stressful job both emotinally and physically.
As a new ICU nurse I was scared to death, it was my dream job but I was so afraid I would make a mistake. I had some excellent mentors so I made it through and deveoped confidence in my skills and never lost site of the patient and their family but I did bring a lot of it home with me.
Could it be that your wife is just frightened and needs to talk to her nursing supervisor to get feed back that she is new at the job and it takes up to a year sometimes to feel really comfortable in a new position?
I just thought I would throw this out there as food for thought.
Bless you both,