I agree with Karen, don't go behind your wife's back but having her parents support for her and for you would be helpful. Remember thow that most parents will side with their child. So do think through this carefully and if your wife says no, you may have to respect that unless she becomes a danger to herself.
Have to ask...........do you play guitar Your name of course.
Take care and you have my support.
Thank you everyone for your advice. I'm still praying about it, I don't want to go behind her back. I'm waiting for Lord to do something.... Because it really has gotten to the point that when I try to rush and do something it usually backfires on me. I need to trust the Lord and not lean on my own understanding. I have asked my wife about feelings of suicide and she has denied any. However, she got a little upset about me asking, "I'm not depressed!". My wife is a new ICU nurse so it's a little hard trying to tell her stuff "I know what depression is and I'm not depressed!" Anyway thankyou for hearing me out, I'm gonna wait through the weekend and see what happens. Thanks Cowboy up I am also praying for you. I am tempted to run tell her parents but I really feel that I need to step back and watch the Master work a little longer.
Yes Kitt I do play guitar.
I hear what you are saying, I thought that was all it was about 6 months ago, but she had a dramatic change in her personality when she was told at her first ICU job that "maybe she wasn't cut out for the ICU" She had wen't through alot to get that position at that hospital. It was all she dreamed about while she was in school. After she was told that she came home that night with tears in her eyes and told me that she had decided to quit. I felt at the time that this was not like her, but because she has Lupus I thought maybe this was a good thing for her to do, since stress is not good for her. I'm sure you are wondering why she chose nursing as a profession. You just have to know my wife had something to prove that her disease would not keep her down. Looking back I wish I had encouraged her more to keep that job and prove that supervisor wrong. But, after that night she stopped talking to me and over the course of the next few weeks she told me that she wasn't attracted to me anymore and that she had felt that way for about 2 years. I have read "Depression Fallout" and found out this shocking change in behavior is somewhat typical of spouses who are depressed. She even seems less excited toward her dogs. Two Jack Russel's who were her world. The week before my wife's change she sat in my lap while i was working on the computer( which she did quite often to get my attention ) and told me how much she loved me and told me that she wanted to buy me a guitar to reward me for all the overtime I did while she was in school. How I wish My love would come back to me! Now when I try to hold her she draws away but she tells me she doesn't know why.
Thank you for the time to vent a little, I'm just gonna stay and love her even if she can't give any back.