These are my answers too your questions, though I cannot say they are right answers. These are what my experiance has taught me-though I'm often not the best learner, so I may be wrong.
1. Why do people with depression often isolate and push away the people that they love?
In my experiance - because they don't want to hurt the other person. Because they need space. And, because they just need time to think without interruptions.
2. While isolating does it ever feel impossible to make contact with someone you love even though maybe you would like to?
When I need to be alone, or just need some space I actually can't stand my husband being too close too me. It hurts me that I need to be like that, because normally I'm so lovable. But it's just an unescapable feeling that I have too be alone for now and if that's not possible I just end up resenting myself for needing that alone time. I can sometimes need to be alone for days at a time.
3. Have you ever knew that you loved your significant other but couln't feel it and if so what did that feel like? Have you ever ended a relationship suddenly saying that you were not in love with the person and if so did you ever regret it?
I always know I love Paul, even when he's annoying the life out of me, I love him too pieces. However that has not stopped me trying to run away 3 times. I packed my bags but then luckily he kept chasing me, because once I'd calmed down I knew I was wrong.
4. How can people with depression not seem depressed to some friends and family members but yet the significant other knows they are?
I put up a mask, a front, something so noone knows I'm feeling in anyway down. The only person who can actually see through this at first glance is my psychiatrist. I can fool everyone else into thinking I'm ok, even my husband. Superficial smiles can go a long way I think.
5. When a depressed person ends a relationship is it best to have an occasional contact to encourage that person or is it best to leave them totally alone? And if it is ok to contact them how often?
I honestly don't know this. When I ran away, I ran too my husbands family. So they were passing messages on from him. I don't know how different it would be if Paul had done the trying to talk to me bit.
6. What advise would you give a person with depression?
Try to remember that it is depression making you upset, and that it's not the fault of everyone else.
7. Are any of you in recovery - like AA or NA and if so do you have any advise on how to separate what is depression from living life without drugs?
Sorry, never had a problem with drugs. Can't help here.
8. Do you think this post should be shown to the depressed person or to any family members of the depressed person?
I don't know, as I don't know how much it would help.
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Sometimes, I feel that I should go and play with the thunder - then I get scared and run away.