I feel I am posting excessively, but I figured I might as well post.
Okay, I am having problems with friends. Or "friend" persay. He is overly sensitive and paranoid. He talks ALOT and if I dont say anything back to him, he thinks I HATE him and dont want to talk to him. When Im actually hearing everything he is saying, I just dont have anything to say back. I dont talk very much in general and its like he's trying to 'change' me. If I dont want to talk, I shouldnt have to. My friends agree with me about him. And we all talked about it. But, it only upsets him and now he is "not talking". Everyone says to him "YOU, not talk, yeah right!" So, they agree..He just has so much energy and says a TON of unnecessary stuff. Its like he pokes and prods at me SO much I am going crazy.
At the same time, I dont want him to be upset or think that I "HATE" him, cause I dont HATE him. He's just paranoid. And I know this for a fact cause he told me how he thinks he doesnt have any friends at all....which is 100% NOT true. If I look at him "funny" its because I think he's "stupid". If I dont speak to him its because I dont "WANT" to talk to him. If I use a tone or sarcasm its because I "hate" him......
He says that.... but he's totally wrong! He just WONT listen to me!!!!! What do I do!??? He's driving me insane because I just want to SLAP him in the face and say SHUTUP! CALM DOWN! He is constantly saying stuff...he never shuts up...it just gets so annoying to me because I like my peace and quiet and my observing others.
Okay, here for the other part. He says I am disconnected and only like things if its my way. He says I dont EVER do anything he wants to do...(he asked me to go to an orcestra thing but I was going through withdrawal, he simply couldnt understand that)...He just ALWAYS wants to do stuff. He says Im "slow". Just because Im not all HYPER doesnt mean Im slow. Or if I like to have alone/down time, its not necessarily because Im lazy.
Im so sorry I come to complain. Its making a horrible situation for me though. All our friends tell us we sound like an old couple fighting like we are, but they agree with me over him. Which leads me to think I have a valid point.....but he's making me feel like a horrible person. Its really getting to me.
What should I do? Have you ever had a friend like that? Annoying, way to much energy for ya? Especially with Fibro and coming off medicine right now, and dealing with depression and everything? Thats not unreasonable, is it? Any advice please? Or just tell me Im not crazy! That works as well!
Lyrica(15 months,but working on get out right now) and Paxil(about 6+- months)
Fibromyalgia, Depression, Anxiety, Panic Attacks-currently in therapy
"Cracks in the concrete are just reminders that you fall apart
no matter how strong you are"
"Sometimes it is best to forget what you feel and remember what you deserve"
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smile like nothing is wrong, talk like everything is perfect, act like its all a dream, and pretend its not hurting me."