Hello all. For once I am not writing in about myself. Rather, I'm here to ask for some thoughts or ideas about my grandmother (i.e: my "Memere"). She is is her late 80's and lives alone in a one floor condo/apartment. (My grandfather died about 7 years ago.) She rents and as many other seniors she is on a small fixed income. She no longer drives and is dependent upon my mother for basic things like food shopping. She had a stroke a few years ago and loses her balance easily due to other health issues. In fact, about six months ago she had surgery for colon cancer.
She takes an antidepressant (although I don't know which one) and doesn't believe in any sort of counseling. She is very depressed right now because she doesn't get out much and most of her former friends and neighbors from her home of 50 years have now passed away.
She fights with my mother all the time because she doesn't believe that anything she does to help her is ever good enough....and frequently tells her so. ..Although this isn't true as my mother does everything for her. I am her oldest grandchild and I am the only one she isn't "mean" to anymore as I don't live close enough to see her as often to help my mom take care of her. Thus, I am the only one she confides in.
Today she told me that she sits in her chair and cries all the time. She has outlived everyone of her generation that she was close to and she doesn't see or talk to anyone anymore. She told me she feels worthless and no longer has any purpose.
She won't take any initiative to go out with or meet any other seniors. She is not real good with other people. It's hard for her to make friends. And one of her arms is almost useless due to a prior fall when she broke it.
My question to all of you is can you help me think of something she could do to not feel "useless". All she does now is read newspapers and do puzzles. I'm wondering if there is anything she can do for other people who may be worst off than her. Any ideas you have would be greatly appreciated.