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THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 3/19/2009 6:01 AM (GMT -7)   
i am sorry people but i am not coping. so much is happening, trying to think yet my mind is awash with a distorted feeling of chaos. maybe i should fill you in. i lost the women that i loved nearly 4 years ago. we met in a psych hospital, our love and compassion was honest and true. when i got out, she got out a week earlier, i got a cab, went in and the rest...........we fell in love. 4 months later she passed away, yes she was unwell, and i remember that she told me that she would not live long. she died in my arms, well she lived in them too!! i have given her and i the greatest luv, i have set her free. so i am seeing someone now, the situation is tricky as she suffers from severe epilepsy and has had a stroke at the tender age of 13. she has a carer with her at all times.
 
her family at the start said i was perverted, i was threatened with extrerme violence, i was continually verbally assualted by her mother. i have and are taking things slow. i have met her mother who refuses to speak to me, other family members have been somewhat better lately. i feel that i am paying for the sins of a previous partner who did her very wrong. u get the picture. her service providers were for about six months telling me when and were i could meet, improving slowly. i have been nothing bust honest and compassionate and committed. i am worried of advising my girlfriend of the magnitude of my depression, one carer is very close to her mother, but i refuse to conform to this carer. i refuse to hide me. i will advise her of my deepening depression. starting new meds, wish me luck. have a few concerning medical issues as well, some family stuff also, but that is for another time. thanx, i appreciate your assistance and support.
 
luv jamiee.

Confusedli
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   Posted 3/19/2009 7:05 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Jamiee,
Why do your girlfriends family dislike you so much? I didn't understand that part of your post?
 
What you went through when your girlfriend died 4 years ago sounds really hard. 
 
 
Confusedli
 
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THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 3/19/2009 8:11 AM (GMT -7)   

to confusedi.

because i want my girlfriend to have her independance. my girlfriend is under her mothers control, she wants out of her mothers house. because i stood up for her and me. i asked that we be treated as adults. her brother thinks she is unable to be in a relationship, he beleives she is a child, heck she is 38! and let me tell you she might have trouble with her memory and in vocalizations but she knows what she wants, that is to be treated as a woman, this is what i do. obviously i am seen as a risk factor to the family because of my mental illness. she is over protected, albeit slowly changing. thanx for replying. i am a pain in the ass, but a loveable one. been up all night, decided not to take the seroquel tonight, need to think, as i will see my lady later today. collecting my thoughts so to speak.

 

cheers. jamiee.


Confusedli
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   Posted 3/19/2009 8:24 AM (GMT -7)   
Hmmm.... It's a hard one, I can totally see where you are coming from - but it's your partner who needs to tell her family that she needs her independance, she needs to tell them straight. If it comes from you - to them it might look like you are the controlling one if you know what I mean, I guess they are worried about her & she needs to speak up for herself and make it clear what she wants - thats my opinion anyway! I can understand them being worried about her, but it must be very frustrating for you! I guess you need to win them over rather than fight against them.

Anyway thats just some ideas for you! Hopefully of some help at least!

Li
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"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, its about learning to dance in the rain"


stkitt
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   Posted 3/19/2009 2:56 PM (GMT -7)   

This is a tough one as I know your heart is in the right place but I have to agree your new girlfriend has to speak for herself.  

Also by not taking your medication and staying up all night I am not sure you are really in the best place right now to become seriously involved in this situation.  It does appear to me, my opionion only, that it is causing you to be depressed and you must be able to take care of you first.

Take care and I will say a prayer for you.

Kitt


 

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THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 3/19/2009 7:51 PM (GMT -7)   

thanx guys. going to bed. you are right, a momentary lapse of reason. sometimes we are our own worst enemy. just trying to be a loving man to my lady. my eyes are blood shot and i feel like crap, partly self inflicted, i was avoidance coping. sorry. good advice from good people.

one step at a time. jamiee idea sad
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