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TeNNiSd0C09
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   Posted 3/27/2009 6:27 PM (GMT -7)   
Well, I had to let my other family (you guys) know that prom is tomorrow night. Im SO nervous. I agreed to go with my guy friend, we are going just as FRIENDS. But, Im so nervous. Its not my thing at all. I HATE places with so many people. Its going to be packed. And I have to do lead-out, where the 2 people walk out together and are introduced in front of everyone(all the couples and there families) so, Im super nervous about it. Not a happy nervous either.
 
Honestly, if I could take it back, I would. I dont want to go, but I kind of felt sorry for my friend cause he wanted to go with me, cause we are best friends and probably because no one can put up with him as much as I can! (he talks alot!) And because he's gay anyway so, his only choice was to really go with a best friend, which is me. I cant believe I agreed to do this.
 
I hate going places. I hate being around so many people, and its such an important event and I could really care less. Plus, I HATE dresses.... its a miracle that Im going to wear one... *sigh*
 
Its quite funny because he and I are like opposites in the relationship, he's such a girl, and Im such a guy! He has planned EVERY detail out. He knows when he's getting ready, when to come get me, go to school for pics, go to the park for more pics, go to eat, go to prom, and whatever we are doing after(I dont even know!) lol....But, me...I could really care less, I dont even want to go. He's going to be dragging me around all day like a girl dragging a guy around shopping at the mall! Its going to be exhausting. Its supposed to be a "special" night....but Im not feeling it. I cant wait for it to be over with. Everyone is making a HUGE deal out of it and I really dont care about it... Is that weird??! Most girls are all over the whole prom idea! Dress, shoes, make-up, hair, nails, oh my! lol I HAD to get a dress, bluck! I dont really wear make-up, getting my hair cut but no idea how Im gonna do it yet, I just dont care! And I painted my nails myself, but ONLY because I dont want to feel "out of place"
 
Even though Im going to be 560% out of my comfort zone. shakehead rolleyes   I just want to completely skip tomorrow! I dont want to go, dont want it to be a big deal, cause it isnt to me...
 
Wish me luck, lets hope I remember to breath at least.... *sigh
 
(I'll put pics on here when I get some)


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   Posted 3/27/2009 8:50 PM (GMT -7)   
Christi,

I just love the way you wrote your post. I got a kick out of you saying that he is doing all of the planning and dragging you around to all the events. This was just too funny.roflmbo!!!

Sweetie, I know that you would much rather be someplace else, but I have a feeling that you are going to have a wonderful time. I can't wait to see the pictures.

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Raniah
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   Posted 3/28/2009 4:59 AM (GMT -7)   
I agree with Karen.....my gut tells me that this is going to be more enjoyable than you think. :-)

I know you are only going for your friend's sake, but think what a wonderful gesture this is, and what a testament to your friendship. Believe me, you will be glad, years later, that you did this for him, and you will be happy to have the pictures and the memories.

Please let us know how it all turns out, okay? I'll be sending good wishes to you all evening.

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   Posted 3/28/2009 7:16 AM (GMT -7)   
Christi,
 
Prom means different things to each person and know that you are not the only one that is not feeling that this is such a big deal.
 
My daughter was not excited to go to Prom and only went her senior year. I only have one daughter and I was excited but she put her foot down and she is not a dress person either.  She would not allow me to take her shopping for the "Prom Dress".  She was not having anything to do with a high priced traditonal "prom dress " and went shopping on her own.  Her dress was very conservative and she and her date did not go to all the traditional parties etc.
 
Actually my boys were more into prom and we had the group of kids over for pictures etc. 
 
Lots of people are anxious over prom but I am so happy to see that it has changed so much that now people go with friends and there is not that anxiety re "Will I be asked to Prom ?"  smhair
 
So my sweet Christi, go with an open mind and heart and let the rest take care of itself.  Know that you are making a friend happy and you do not have to worry, you will blend right in with all of the others at Prom tonight.
 
I will be looking forward to seeing pictures.
 
Gentle Hugs to you
Kitt
 

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enWayen
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   Posted 3/28/2009 9:27 AM (GMT -7)   
Heej Christi,

You are an amazing person for still going while you don't want to, only because someone else will be happy that way. And while you're there, maybe something does happen that makes you happy. Either way, all the best!
Acceptance is the key

The World is but a reflection. Smile, and it will smile back.

Try to keep smiling! :)


TeNNiSd0C09
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   Posted 3/28/2009 10:56 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks guys! Even though Im not into the whole thing, I am glad Im going, just so I can say that I went and had the experience. Im trying to be positive today because I know that my negative thinking will only make it worse, so Im hoping that if I try to be happy about it and positive that I will have a good time regardless. AND when I get home, I can through the dress and slipt into my basketball shorts and a T and jump in bed! lol I figure I can at least sacrifice this much!

Its so true though! Everyone laughs at us because he is such a girl and Im so the guy... they tell us I wear the pants in our relationship! lol Its quite amusing!

So, I got my hair done and it looks good... although I already have a headache..and its been raining here for days and it supposed to rain and storm on and off all day today! And I am hoping to get some good pics at least..We are going to the park a ways from here because it has rocks and a water fall and stuff so if its not raining that should be really nice. Then, Italian. So, its going to be one long day. And I dont even know about after parties yet.. and I may have some friends crashing at my house after that so... Glad I got 12 hours of sleep last night! lol

I think since Im trying to be positive its looking up. No, I dont want to go, but dont get me wrong...it be a special thing to experience with my best friend. And to prove that yes, I CAN actually wear a dress without throwing up! lol I think that is what most people cant wait to see, me in a dress with my hair done! lol Cant say as I blame them though, I guess.

Well, I'll add pics as soon as I can. Thanks for all the positive words! Take Care
Lyrica(15 months on, but now officially off of it!) and Paxil(about 6+- months)
Fibromyalgia, Depression, Anxiety, Panic Attacks-currently in therapy
www.myspace.com/wilson_gal22
"Cracks in the concrete are just reminders that you fall apart no matter how strong you are"
"Sometimes it is best to forget what you feel and remember what you deserve"
    "Im going to smile like nothing is wrong, talk like everything is perfect, act like its all a dream, and pretend its not hurting me."


Raniah
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   Posted 3/28/2009 11:07 AM (GMT -7)   
You sound better already! Glad your hair looks good....that's a wonderful beginning. Enjoy yourself, and let us know how it went!

getting by
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   Posted 3/28/2009 11:54 AM (GMT -7)   
Yes Christi,

We will be expecting a report afterwards. I hope that you have the most wonderful time at the prom.

Hugs, Karen
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Aurora60
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   Posted 3/28/2009 12:07 PM (GMT -7)   

Christi, I know you are not happy right now about going but think about how much it means to your friend and what a kindness you are doing.  I think too that you may have a better time than you are anticipating.  Just take it one step at a time.  It actually sounds like a lot of fun.  I went to my prom with a guy that a good friend had broken up with.  She wanted me to go and I didn't have a date so she arranged for me to go with her old boyfriend.  My Mom bought me a gorgeous dress and while it wasn't the night of my dreams it was fun.  And when I think back on it I am so glad I was able to go to prom.  It is one of those experiences you only have once and when you are older you will look back on the night and feel good that you were able to participate. Good luck and let us know how the evening went.

Aurora


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   Posted 3/28/2009 1:09 PM (GMT -7)   
Aurora,

I just wanted to pop in and say hi, also ask how you are doing...

I hope that you are having a good day and that things are going well.

Let me know.

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stkitt
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   Posted 3/28/2009 2:30 PM (GMT -7)   
Christi,
 
Just be in the moment my sweet young friend and have a good one.............
 
I am wishing I was your age again.  turn
Love and hugs,
 
Kitt
 

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Raniah
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   Posted 3/29/2009 2:15 PM (GMT -7)   
Bumping up for Christi.....I hope you had a wonderful time.

TeNNiSd0C09
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   Posted 3/29/2009 6:31 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey guys, first I have to say this: You guys have no idea how much it means to me that I have your support and that you all are life family and that you spiritually sent me on my way last night! Its so nice to come by today and read what you all wrote for me, its means more than you can imagine, so I thank you VERY much for that!

Now, on to the good stuff! I will admit the other night I really didnt want to go MOSTLY because it was so far out of my comfort zone... thats really the only reason. But, when I woke up yesterday morning I told myself "tomorrow today will just be a bunch of pictures and memories and it will be over". So, all day I did everything with that attitude. I enjoyed ever minute of it knowing that today it would be over and I wouldnt be able to go back and change anything.

So, I dont mind dressing up now and then, proving to people that I am capable of it! lol But, I had fun with all the pictures and being with SO many people all day long. I felt a lot different, I was quiet at times, but I felt a little more out-going. So, when time came for me to walk out in front of the school and all the parents and family at prom, I looked over at my friend and we gave each other a thumbs up and a smile before we walked out together. Leading up to that, I was so nervous, but the good kind! Which I dont remember the last time I've had "good nervousness"!

We walked out and everything went well! After that was over, we danced for several hours! lol It took me a while to adjust to that kind of thing...so many people around me dancing like there was no tomorrow! Having a great time... it was........CRAZY! lol I ordered a video of it which will be cool...
But, I danced, I got low and I jumped up and down, and I moved like I had never moved before! lol I danced with friends, guys and girls, we had a great time and it turned out really well. My date of course had to take breaks....but there was no stopping me! lol My legs were hurting but I was having so much fun I totally dismissed it. And yes, the shoes came off right after walking out! By the time it was over, I was so sore and so tired and it was so loud, but none of that mattered because I had done something I never thought I could.... I was proud of myself for letting go and for a while, I felt normal.

I felt like I had a life. A rare moment of happiness actually occurred.

No after parties for me... I was exhausted by the time we left, everyone was! So, we all retired to bed. I had some friends crash at my place and we went to bed a little after 2... I got up early this morning and stayed up reading posts on here and went back to sleep a while later...only to wake up at 5 this afternoon! lol I took a VERY long bath and read my book for school and relaxed. I think I'd have to say that this weekend has been one of the best! Although, it went SO fast.... but, still really good.

I appreciate you guys so much and it means alot that you all got to be here with me for my prom. Its a special thing and you all got to be there with me! That means the world to me. The best part of my night was the last thing that happened before I went to bed. I was about to go to sleep when I got thirsty so, I got up and I found a note my dad had written me. It said how beautiful he thought I looked and how proud me was of me and that he loved me. My family isnt "verbally expressive" so this isnt something I have really ever heard, so it meant ALOT to me.

So, thats how things went! Im glad I went, I knew I would be in the end....thats just how things occur. But, in the end I walked away with memories, pictures, a good time, and an experience outside my box. Thats reason enough for me. So, Im glad I got to share this moment with you all! Thanks so much!
Lyrica(15 months on, but now officially off of it!) and Paxil(about 6+- months)
Fibromyalgia, Depression, Anxiety, Panic Attacks-currently in therapy
www.myspace.com/wilson_gal22
"Cracks in the concrete are just reminders that you fall apart no matter how strong you are"
"Sometimes it is best to forget what you feel and remember what you deserve"
    "Im going to smile like nothing is wrong, talk like everything is perfect, act like its all a dream, and pretend its not hurting me."


Raniah
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   Posted 3/29/2009 6:38 PM (GMT -7)   
Wow, I am so excited, happy and proud for you! What a wonderful post you made for all of us who are following your story. "Good nervousness" = good for you!!! And it sounds like you really went for it.....made the most of it....and had an all-around good time. I was a little tearful, actually, when I read the part about your dad's note. That must have been the best feeling. I am just thrilled for you.....so thrilled. Thanks for sharing that with us! :-)

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   Posted 3/29/2009 7:23 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Chrisit,

I was a little tearful also reading about the note that your dad left you. I am so happy that you went and had a blast it sounds like. See you deserve to have a little fun once in a while. So KUDOS to you Christi. You did wonderfully.

Thanks from me to for posting this. I am so happy for you.

Hugs, Karen
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