Dear Gaby, I too am so sorry for all the difficulties you are going through. Is it possible your husband could find another job? Also, what are the possibilities of moving to another European country not too far away where you won't find such discrimination and maybe you both can find jobs? I know it may not be easy but moving may be a better solution. And if you found jobs wouldn't you both be much happier? I know you can stay at youth hostels that are very inexpensive until you get settled. I'm afraid you may become more unhappy if you stay in Spain. Just out of curiosity what South American country are you from? And is it possible to move back home? Do you have family in South America that you can depend on? I know I don't have much in the way of answers but these are just a few suggestions I am offering to see if they may help you. Please keep posting here. You have come to the right place for comfort and support and will always have replies from wonderful, friendly people. You are in my prayers. Please let us hear from you again.
Post Edited (gaby_paola) : 3/30/2009 2:38:15 AM (GMT-6)
Post Edited (Raniah) : 3/31/2009 5:02:18 AM (GMT-6)
Hi Gaby, I understand your situation better now that you have posted again. Can you move to another region of Spain for a while that is not so discriminating? Also, you are obviously very intelligent and capable. So I can understand why you want to use your talents in a good and productive job. If you and your husband moved to another region could you find some type of work temporarily that will give you income that you can save and prepare for a move to another European country? I know taking a lesser job is not what you want but if it is for a short time and you can accumulate enough to move away that might be a solution. Do not feel bad in any way about your feelings concerning church. I know where you are coming from on this issue. When I was divorced many years ago, I belonged to a church and because I had no money to make a yearly pledge to the church I was kicked out. Here I was getting divorced, had no money, was raising 2 babies and all they cared about was how much money I could give them. I still believe very much in the power of prayer and I have my own spirituality, so I do sympathize with your situation. Have you tried the university you attended to see if they can help you find a job? I know you said your family has helped you before. Would they possibly be able to help you again just to make a move and when you find your job you could pay them back. You seem like such a considerate and kind person. I wish I could think of somemore ideas to give you but maybe what I have said can help a little. Please take good care of yourself and post again so we know how you are doing. My prayers are with you.
Hi Gaby, I'm glad to hear your husband found a job in another country. Maybe it will turn out to be more permanent or he will look for other things in that country. I know how hard it must be for you to have such wonderful qualifications and not be able to use them Don't give up hope. You will eventually land on your feet and find the work you are good at. In the meantime, do consider another job just to get some income and make a move. I have been through much in my life. I had a husband who left me with 2 babies to raise (they are now two of the finest young men), I managed to keep our household going. I got a very good job, worked for 25 yrs., had to take in my elderly sick mother for 10 years. When I finally decided it was me time I found out I had cancer. I am almost a 5 yr survivor. I have landed on my feet even though I battled depression for many years. I think all things are possible when you have a positive outlook and keep in mind that God is looking out for you. When you have a chance let us know how things are going. I will continue to keep you in my prayers.