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missbrightside
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   Posted 4/4/2009 1:04 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey guys, just wanting some advice really.
 
My mother and strpfather split up two years ago, and it really hit me hard, considering I came back from a trip away to find he wasn't living with us anymore. Since then my cousin has died, as has my grandfather - who I was very close to.
 
I have been felling very down recently and looked up signs of depression - just in case - and I related to nearly all of them.
I don't want to burden my mother because she is under stress because of her divore finalising and also money worries, and I don't live with my father so don't feel that close to him.
 
Would I be able to consult my doctor without my mother knowing?
 
I don't know what to do because even if I am depressed, I wouldn't know how to tell my mother.
And because I'm only 16 I'm not even sure if I will actually have depression because I'm so young.
 
Well thanks for reading this, replies would be appreciated.
Thanks :)
x

Raniah
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   Posted 4/4/2009 1:15 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Missbrightside,

First let me say I'm very sorry to hear about your family split, as well as the deaths of your cousin and grandfather. You've been through a really rough time. It would be perfectly natural for you to be grieving, after such an extended period of losses.

I'm not sure what the guidelines are for doctors with respect to confidentiality and age restrictions. And it may differ from country to country. Perhaps if you told us what country you're writing from, someone here will know about that.

As far as the possibility of being 'too young for depression', I don't think there is such a thing (speaking from my own experience, being diagnosed at 15, with symptoms occuring since early childhood). I understand why you don't want to worry your mother, but I also think she would probably want to help you in any way that she could. Alternatively, is there someone at school....perhaps a counselor or a trusted teacher.....who you could speak to about your feelings?

missbrightside
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   Posted 4/4/2009 1:21 PM (GMT -7)   
hey raniah,
thankyou for your symapthy for a start :)

i'm writing from the uk, i should know about the whole doctor confidentiality thing but.. i dont. hah.

it's great to hear theres someone who was diagnosed around the same age as i am now, it makes me feel more confident about seeking help for it.
and yes my school offors a counselling service but it is in school time, so everyone would know where i was and i don't want people to treat me differently because i go to counselling. i think i will see if there are any places in my area that offer those kind of things though.
thankyou again :)

Raniah
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   Posted 4/4/2009 1:27 PM (GMT -7)   
Please let us know how it goes, okay? Best of luck to you, MBS. :-)

getting by
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   Posted 4/4/2009 1:29 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Missbrightside,

I would like to welcome you to the forum. I know that there are many younger adults on the forum that will tell you that counseling saved them. Even if you start with a school counselor. You don't have to tell anybody why you are talking to one. I just think that it would really benefit you to have some counseling right now. You could always say it is grief counseling, because I am sure that is a part of your issues.

I hope that you get the help that you are seeking. Keep posting as we are here for you.

Hugs, Karen
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missbrightside
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   Posted 4/4/2009 1:31 PM (GMT -7)   
thanks karen :)
it's great to know people are here to talk to.
just so you all know, i'm training to be a psychologist/councellor when i go to college so i can help others too.
i'll update you all with how i get on.

getting by
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   Posted 4/4/2009 1:36 PM (GMT -7)   
I want you to know that I think that is wonderful, and I think you will be good at what you do. You have a lot of compassion. Congratulations.

Have a wonderful day today

Hugs, Karen
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THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 4/4/2009 8:26 PM (GMT -7)   
first, welcome, i am jamiee, 37 male.
 
here in oz you can consult a gp without your confidence being broken, and or your school counsellor. i can see that heaps of excellent info has been left for you, condolences for your loss. i send compassion and healing to you. take care, we are here for you. jamiee

Raniah
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   Posted 4/5/2009 5:48 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey MBS,

I think your plans for training are great. Please keep us posted on how things are going for you, okay?
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