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Date Joined Dec 2007
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   Posted 4/11/2009 2:40 AM (GMT -6)   
i was on here along time ago for a break up with my first love but i felt like i got over her. i thought 4 a long time now i was doing well but idk if i am. i recently went out to chillis with my cousin/roomate who isthe obnoxious out going guy. for some reason girls love him. so sunday we went out 4 dinner and the bartender that was working i had strong intrests in so he was playing my wing man so he hit on another girl working. but the funny thing was the girl who i wanted to get to know better was best friend with the girl he choose. what r the odds. i ended up getting the girl who i liked number and he got the other girls number. so iwas feeling good thebest ive felt in a long time, i sent a few texts monday and got respones but thats it i havent gotten a response since. tonight my cousin took his girl out . he is a big assole idk y girls love it i always hear that a girl wants a nice guy who treats her right but y do they like ******s. im too nice which i know is bad but thats all i know. he has never had a problem with girls so he trys to help me out butit NEVER works out that way. it makes me feel like a loser. since my x brokeup with me a yr and half ago ive gone on 2 dates . i feel like im gonna die alone. i know i should need any one to feel good about my self but i hate the feeling of being alone i feel like there is something missing. i havent felt this bad in a long time. i feel like a lose piece of crap. i feel like ill die alone

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   Posted 4/11/2009 3:07 AM (GMT -6)   
Hang in there -- I don't think you're going to die alone. ;)
If it makes any difference, I think girls like dating guys who are crazy jerks just for the experience so those guys get lots of dates, but we don't want to stay with guys like that so then we find a really nice guy -- decent person, treats us right, generous, caring, smart, funny -- to stay with long term. The nice guys may not get as many dates, but I think they have a much better chance of being taken seriously enough by girls to have a long term relationship. So hang in there. I know it's tough now, but the nice guys really are who we want in the end.


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   Posted 4/11/2009 5:19 AM (GMT -6)   
everyone says the right girl will come along but i dont know if its truie. my whole exp with girls is as follows the 1st girl i made out with was some girl at the bar when i was 18 my first relationship started a month b4 my 22nd birth day. didnt have sex till i was almost 22 for the first time. oi was with that girl for 8 months and she cheated on me atleaste the last month if not longer that we were together . i can count the number of girls that i kissed on ONE hand andumber of dates ive gone on on 1 hand too. my whole life growing up ive been stood up given the wrong phone number or made fun of in front of a group of ppl. i never went to my hs prom home coming nothing. i never had many friends. i had one friend who i still talk to today. never invited to parties. i feel like i missed out on s lot of key events that the avg kid should exp . this adds to my lack of confidence and what makes me really shy. im told by few girls that i am the type of guy they'd marry if they were loking to. im thenice guy to the t thats ALL i know i cant change that im 2 nice im jus never given a shot

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   Posted 4/11/2009 8:23 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Scotty,

I'm sorry you're feeling so down. I agree with Frances......you're not going to die alone! You've said it yourself: you've been told by girls that you're the type they'd marry if they were looking to. You're putting a lot of pressure on yourself, my friend, and a good guy like you deserves to feel better about himself.

Do you have anything that you like to do outside of school/work? (don't know if you're currently a student, or working, or maybe both) Getting into an activity or sport or hobby is a good way to meet people. Try to get involved with something if you can.....it will probably make you feel better about yourself and take your mind off your sadness.

What Frances said is true.....the nice guys really are who we want in the end.

Hang in there, Scotty, and please come back and post again.

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   Posted 4/11/2009 9:20 AM (GMT -6)   
I am so sorry your feeling down and kick that "stinkin thinkin" to the curb as you are a worthy person and remember we control our lives so it is time to get up and put one foot in front of the other.  :-)
No use dwelling on the past, it is over so please do start to move forward and do not try so hard to find "that perfect person".  Love happens all on it's own when you least expect it.  It may come and go in your life but you will experience it. 
Most of us dream of that perfect person and when we meet the right person that is good but remember you are an individual and yes you want and need love in your life but you stand alone just fine also.  You are a strong person and love will find you.  turn
Trust me on this one.  It just happens.
Take care my young friend.  Remember to take it slow and keep on moving toward the light at the end of the tunnel. 

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