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RunningUpThatHill
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   Posted 4/12/2009 4:31 PM (GMT -7)   
I know we are suppose to keep talk of suicide to minimum. But I have to ask this.
When is it time to seek help?
I know the thoughts I'am having are dangerous and can lead me to problems.
So when is it time to seek professional help?
I have previously attempted to take my own life, but promised I would not again.
But lately the thoughts are coming back and I seem to be sinking deeper into depression, and the harder I try to cheer up and make myself happy, nothing is working.
Where is the line between self help and professional?
I'm just confused and sad right now. cry
:I'am just looking for an opinion I'm not going to do anything I would regret:

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   Posted 4/12/2009 5:59 PM (GMT -7)   
I think that just thinking of it means that you should talk to somebody. Because you are feeling depressed. And you need support. So if I were you I would seek counseling and talk to somebody and let them know how you feel.

Keep posting and let us know how you are doing. I hope that you are feeling better.

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Raniah
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   Posted 4/12/2009 7:19 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Running,

I agree with Karen. If you have qualified your thoughts as dangerous and problematic, and you're sinking deeper into depression, I would strongly encourage you to speak to a professional. You needn't continue to suffer like this.....you deserve to have as much support as possible, and there are times for many of us when we need more than self-help.

I hope you will come back and post to us again, and let us know how it's going. I wish you the very best in your healing.

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   Posted 4/13/2009 6:10 AM (GMT -7)   
 
Welcome to HealingWell, and I think the time is right now...do not wait or try to guess when is a good time.  If you have the thoughts you need to seek immediate help and do no hesitate as you may fall into a deeper depression and lose the understanding that you are in danger now.
 
So please do see your physician and tell him/her of your feelings. 
 
Remember we are not professionals and cannot take the place of a good relationship with your physician or therapist.
 
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   Posted 4/14/2009 2:23 AM (GMT -7)   
now my friend. jamie. healings 2 u.

RunningUpThatHill
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   Posted 4/14/2009 9:14 AM (GMT -7)   
I have talked to my family doctor. She advised me to go back to my therapist. I really dont want to because she will try to shove anti depressants on me again. But what choice do I really have? They say go back to her or go to a crisis center.
But I'm alive and coping. Thank you everybody.

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   Posted 4/14/2009 12:15 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi ruth,

You would be surprised how much medications can help get you back on track. I hope that you find what is right for you. It took me a few tries before I found the right one.

Counselors don't always push medications either, they often use talk or cbt therapy. So don't worry about that too much. Often your doctor will prescribe the meds if that is what you need.

I am glad that you are coping, and it sounds like you are feeling better too. That is wonderful.

Keep us posted.

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THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 4/15/2009 5:06 AM (GMT -7)   
hi ruth, i wish the very best to you, stay strong and positive, blessings, jamie

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   Posted 4/15/2009 7:41 AM (GMT -7)   
that line is NOW. get help and see a doctor or therapist. the longer anybody delays getting the help, you are delaying comfort. I see a counselor on Friday. I've talked to clergy, mother, father, sister, and all TRUSTED people in my life. I wish you all the best in your life.
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RunningUpThatHill
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   Posted 4/19/2009 6:59 PM (GMT -7)   
Well after a long evening and an attempt at, well you know, I looked up a number of an ex. I told him how I had been since we had last seen one another.
He actually took me back. I cuddled with him all night, I may be in love.
But on a negative, I have been further diagnosed and they have given me pills, which I will not take. I do have depression as a symptom of ptsd. I will have to ride this spell out, or take drugs.

getting by
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   Posted 4/19/2009 7:37 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi RUTH,

If the doctor or psychiatrist has prescribed you medication, you should try to take it. There is nothing to be ashamed of or afraid of. I know that you chose not to take the meds, but if you do not plan to take them, you should let the doctor know. I take meds and I take a lot of them, but that is what makes me function. I suffered ptsd from childhood abuse, it caused more anxiety than anything. Your depression could be hereditary, or a chemical imbalance.

I am happy that you and your ex are back together and are happy. But you said he "took me back". It sounds as if you don't feel worthy of him. Maybe if you say "we got back together" instead of he took me back, it would help you to feel better. You are very worthy of anybodies love. I hope that you know that.

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want-to-be-happy-again
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   Posted 4/20/2009 2:41 PM (GMT -7)   
I know you how your feeling and I want you to know you aren't alone. When you first notice signs of depression you SHOULD get help. But saying it and acting on it are two very different things. If you want to be better get help, if you don't want to be better, get help. :) We're all connected in this world, we just have to find the links. I may not know you right now but I love you.... even if it's sappy to say.
 
Here for you,
    Haley

getting by
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   Posted 4/20/2009 3:48 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Haley,

I just wanted to welcome you to the depression forum, I haven't met you yet.

You have come to a good place where everybody is very kind and compassionate.

Hugs, Karen
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mom9mom
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   Posted 4/21/2009 12:38 AM (GMT -7)   
I just want to say please give the medication a chance.I almost seceded in taking my life and when I was in a medically induced coma the DR.started me on anti-depression medication.When I was finally aware of everything around me,I could not believe how much better I felt.If you need to talk to someone you can E-Mail me when ever you like.I will pray that you find the help you need.
Lost half of my small intestineJan.2008.Ilieostomy for 5 months then reverst in June 2008,Nerve damage to right leg,part of my right hip bone removed Jan. 2008,Cronic pain,hernia,infection in my back called discites,and depression.Gallbladder removed Nov,2008.Surgery to fuse L3 and L4 vertabra Dec. 31,2008.Mother to 9 kids 7 boys 2 girls and 1 stepson.4 grandsons,9 grandaughters.4 of my grandkids I inherited from my twin sister who passed away 6 1/2 years ago from a blood clot after surgery.God has given me my life back after I almost lost it.Even though its a painful and sometimes hard road to walk I take it one step at a time and give thanks to god for every step I take.


RunningUpThatHill
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   Posted 5/4/2009 8:06 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you guys.
To getting by,
yes I was looking at it that way, he turned out to be controlling and I have to file a restraining order tomorrow.
Though he was a nice guy, he wanted me to change in ways could not.
Thank you for responding at all to my post.

To anyone who responded to this one,
Yes I'am taking the frig'gen pills! And all they relay have done is made it easier to sleep. They gave me some anti depressants, but the main treatment is my ptsd,not the depression.

To mom9mom
I have been to the hospital several times because of "attempts" each time I come back and think positively. I've seen heaven and hells gates three times in my whole life.
The initial post was because the place I was at mentally I had never been to the point where I was planning things out.
Thank you for offering your ear too.

Thank you everyone for giving me advice. I know this may not be the most professional place,but you guys kinda saved my life in an odd way.
I'll post more frequently.

P.s.
Who ever deciphered Ruth,from my user name, your the first to catch that one.

Raniah
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   Posted 5/4/2009 8:33 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Ruth,

It looks like it was Karen, "Getting By", who first recognized Ruth from your username. She's a smart cookie. :-)

I'm sorry you have to file a restraining order against that guy, but I'm glad you're protecting yourself. That's a good thing, and it shows that you really care about yourself and your safety.

I hope you can get some satisfactory treatment for the PTSD. I've struggled with that, too, and it took me some hard work and therapy to be able to deal with it.

You sound more positive and hopeful, and I do hope you will continue to post to us. I'm really glad you came back to let us know how things are going.
Living one day at a time. 
 


Akram
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   Posted 5/5/2009 7:01 PM (GMT -7)   
hi ruth, I'm very sad to hear how you tried to take your life a few times, some of us here have been through similar things, so I'm sure you will get some good advice and understanding here. I have tried taking my life two times already, but thanks to GOD's help and sign's I didn't, and hopefully never will again. it's better to let GOD decide when it's our time to go than do it ourselfs speeding up the process, we should let things take their time the natural way.

Ruth could you share with us a little more about you? like what is it that that fuels your depression? did you have a rough childhood? or are you running into some bad difficulties in your life that keep you depressed? well maybe if you look into the root cause of your depresion you understand and discover new ways to fight back, and we can help you if you decide to share with us. offcourse I understand if you don't feel like doing this here, maybe you feel this isn't the ideal place to do so, maybe you feel it's better to keep it with your therapist. but remember you have nothing to loose as this is an anonymouse forum and we never judge people here for what they have bin through or have done.

I hope that you can find some way to heal your depression, It's good that you are trying, by taking the medications that you don't like, your taking big steps and seeking help/therapy. you are brave to do this, you should be proud of yourself, because you are smart enough to understand that you have to do something to fight back. afterall it's so eazy to just give up and take your life down, you are doing the right thing and you have our full support.

please keep us updated on how things are going, be it good or bad news we still want to hear it , and we want to help you.

Lastly, remmeber you may not have to take the medication forever, for some people they just need it for small period of time like 2-6 months till they get better. it's true that for some it may take longer, and in some cases forever but you don't know what will happen in your case, I would just take things one at a time and try to relax, god bless you!

Post Edited (Akram) : 5/5/2009 8:06:21 PM (GMT-6)

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