You never know when the answers you are looking for will come to your doorstep. You know we are here for you and you are there for your son............right now this is about him and I know as a Mom you will be by his side and help him move forward with his life.
Take care my friend and do not despair.
I wish you peace,
I will find a way or make one. –Phillip Sidney 1554-1586
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Thank you each and everyone for your kind words and support. I am trying to write this through all my tears. My heart is truly broken. My son has his good days and bad days but he seems to be realizing this is the best for him. I know that his fiance is hurting even more than he is. She now seems to want to work it out with him but he just feels that it can never work so he is moving on. My problem is I have too much time on my hands. I am looking very hard to find a part time job but no one will hire me. I am either too experienced or too old. I am thinking of taking on some extra work where I volunteer. At least I will get out of the house and see other people. Right now I need a lot of distraction. I am trying not to be angry at her but she has done so many things to hurt him. It's as if she can't help herself in sabotoging the relationship. I still have anger but it is directed more at the situation than anything. I am just sad that there will be no wedding that I was so looking forward to. But if they married and it didn't work out then all that money would have been spent and the heartache would be even worse. I am trying - I just really need a lot of support right now and hope I will still hear from all of you. I appreciate all you are doing to help me.
Karen, thanks for your support. I talked with my son today and he seems to be managing pretty well. I know he has a lot to think about and is suffering. His fiance (ex) called him last night and he decided to talk to her because she is giving the impression that she hopes they will get back together. He made it clear to her that it is really over. She is feeling terrible, much worse than him because she knows that she ruined everything by losing control of her emotions. I do feel bad for her because I truly cared about her and was so happy I was going to have a daughter in law. I thought they were meant for each other but I guess that is not the case. At least I have my therapist to help me with this as we have spoken about them and their relationship over the years. I guess at this point I am sad and hurt rather than angry. I think when I first heard it was over my first reaction was one of anger as yet another thing has gone wrong in my life. I still try to hold the hope that better things are in my future but since that hasn't been the case I guess all I am looking for is peace in my life and maybe contentment. It just helps me to write about all of this and know I can come here and have the caring and support you all give me. I don't know how long it will take me to heal or even feel a little better. It is almost like I had a breakup too. That may sound silly but I hurt so for my son. Please all keep posting to me - I really need your comfort right now.
Hi Raniah, I have read your last post several times and everything you say really makes sense. I think my first reaction to the whole situation was anger and I directed it the wrong way. I think you are right in that this may be God's way of saving my son from the heartache that a failed marriage would bring. I am seeing things more clearly now. I am not so much angry anymore as I am just sad and disappointed. And my son's fiance was so much a part of my life that while I know she has some serious emotional problems, I am able to have feelings of sadness for her that she too is suffering so much right now. I think I have to rely on my faith and that will help me to heal in a better way than being angry at God. Life works in strange ways and we just have to accept what happens to us is for a reason. I know that I am a very big support system to my son and he knows he can always count on me. And he is always there for me when I hurt. So thank you for being so kind and writing such a thoughful post. It means a lot to me to know the people on this forum do care and have compassion.