Welcome to HealingWell. For most people with bipolar disease medications are the foundation of their treatment due to the manic/depressive episodes and it feels to me like you wife is in a depressive state now.
I guess I would be concerned as to why her physician did not start her medications again on the first appointment and why she had to have a second appointment ot obtain her medication. You stated "The scheduled another appointment at which time they would medicate her and she did not go to the one or schedule"
With her history I am not sure why the delay but perhaps you know the answer to why? Also I would certainly ask her Mother to assist you in talking to your wife about seeking help.
Karen is right, we have a great Bipolar forum and perhaps they have better insight into your wife's disorder.
I am glad to hear you are on Antabuse but today if your first dose so does that mean you have just recently stopped drinking.................is Valium your medication to help with any withdrawal effects from the alcohol? I am concerned that your burden is heavy so please do make sure you take care of you too.
I wish you peace and know my prayers are with you.