from despair to joy, anyone?

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Korissa
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   Posted 4/20/2009 8:56 AM (GMT -7)   
I suppose people in this category aren't on the board anymore--
 
Just wondering how many deal with circumstances that are so oppressing for years and it escalates until one doesn't even know how to have fun anymore. When there's a slight glimmer, you feel afraid to even hope because hopes have been dashed so many times.
 
With faith, all things are possible, but at the same time, we're not promised a rose garden and maybe this is the way it will always be.
 
 
 
 

getting by
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   Posted 4/20/2009 10:14 AM (GMT -7)   
Korissa,

Please do not dispair, it gets better, it has been for me for quite some time. I was very depressed for many years, and yes, I felt it would never get better and settled for less. But with the right medications and counseling, I got much better. And I am happy to say I still am (knock wood). I never know for sure from one day to the next, being I have fibromalgia also. But I certainly can't complain. So I know there is an answer out there for you too. Keep your chin up and remember that we are always there for you.

Hugs, Karen
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Raniah
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   Posted 4/20/2009 2:36 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Korissa,

I know what you mean.....I've wondered that during the darker times, too. If my memory is right, are you the person who has been having problems with the neighbours/neighbourhood? I have an ongoing problem with a close neighbour who makes my life miserable when he is around (thankfully, it's not full-time), and so I can relate to that part of your sadness and frustration. I haven't found a good solution yet, which is why I didn't post to you at the time. Karen is right about things getting better......I can't tolerate the meds, but I do have a good counselor who helps me to cope with things and to focus on the positives when I start sinking too low. I have had to adjust my expectations of life to a certain degree, but I have also found a way to appreciate the smaller details and simpler moments, too. Please don't ever give up hope....life always brings changes, and some of those changes can be wonderful blessings.

Korissa
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   Posted 4/20/2009 3:11 PM (GMT -7)   
Raniah, yes the police/neighbor problem is a part of it all. Much, much more than that. I started back for counseling after not going a few months, because I really need to face grief for a loss 7 years ago.

Hope is both a blessing and a curse. Maybe that's irrational. Hope is supposed to "spring eternal".

It does help to focus on the positives. I try to remember each night to thank God for ten good things experienced during the day before I sleep each night.

Raniah
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   Posted 4/20/2009 3:15 PM (GMT -7)   
That's a good practice, Korissa. I try to do the same thing. Some days it's hard, I know! However, the negatives come too easily some days so I feel like I have to at least try to balance things out for myself as much as I can. I'm sorry to know that you're dealing with grief, and I'm so glad that you've gone back to your counseling sessions. As much as I'm a loner in life, I feel that there are some things we shouldn't face alone.

Aurora60
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   Posted 4/20/2009 3:36 PM (GMT -7)   

Korissa, I Think Karen and Raniah are right.  If you have faith you will eventually see things start to improve.  Have I gone from utter despair to joy?  No that has not happened but that is not what I am looking for and I feel it is unrealistic to expect that type of thing happening.  What I feel I am looking and hoping for is peace and contentment.  What we get out of life is what we are able to put into making our lives better.  I know that isn't always so easy but I think if you will stick with your counseling that will help you and maybe you will see things in a different light. The fact is all of us who have problems have to face them and do our best to get through our issues. Even my friends who seem like they have charmed lives really don't.  Keep your faith and trust in God and look for the good things in life, even if it is as small as seeing daffodils in someone's garden.  Surround yourself with good and honest friends.  If you have a good support system you can find that life does have hope and you will start to recover. Wishing you the very best and let us know how you are doing  Take good care of yourself.

Many hugs,

Aurora


getting by
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   Posted 4/20/2009 3:59 PM (GMT -7)   
Aurora,

That was very good advice, I just wanted to mention that.

Hugs, Karen
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