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Tirzah
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   Posted 4/23/2009 1:34 PM (GMT -7)   
I knew I was losing my job 2 months ago, but today was my actual final day as a formal employee. My work had already been transitioned & I wasn't going into the office so I didn't think it would really matter to me, but it does. A LOT. I feel devastated all over again -- perhaps even worse than when I was first told. I just feel like my stomach is sinking & the whole world is spinning. I don't want to get dressed or eat or even go to my doctor's appointment today. I feel like "what's the point" of any of it since I don't have a job.

It's really hard to be unemployed. Everyone's always asking what you do for a living & now I have to answer "nothing". ok, I don't actually say "nothing" I give stupid PC answers like "I'm eagerly looking for a job" or I ask them if they know of anyone hiring, but at the end of the day it boils down to the same thing: I'm not a contributing member of society. I need to try to pull it together & I can't ask my family for support b/c my aunt just died & they are all busy making plans for the funeral & such. So I have no one to turn to (not that my family was especially understanding) & I feel totally useless.

I don't really know what I want. Maybe if anyone's got an encouraging story about finding a job (I've been looking for 2 months & haven't even gotten an interview). Or anyone else who wants to share about how sad they are feeling if they don't have a job b/c it just feels like for all the stories on the news that most people still have a job even if they aren't making as much money. I was sick a lot until I had surgery in January & the "support" I've been getting has been really hurtful statements like "well, it was to be expected" or "well, you weren't really a model employee" or "i'm surprised they even kept you for the 5 years that they did". I feel like I could crawl in a cave & die. I know I need to just suck it up & keep looking for work but I don't know how to keep going when everything looks so bleak & I'm tired of apologizing to everyone for being a complete failure.

frances

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   Posted 4/23/2009 2:20 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Frances,

I know how you feel, I am looking for work now too. But I haven't worked in years due to fibromyalgia, so I don't even know if I will be able to do it. It just seems that the money doesn't stretch anymore. But I am lucky now because of it being summer, we don't have a huge gas bill, so that helps. But I, like you, have to just keep plugging along. I find that if you keep contacting the places that you put your application into really does help. That is from past experiences. Though it has been over six years since I have worked. I even wonder if I am too old, though I hope that they are thinking I would be more reliable than a younger person. Either way, it kind of sucks, but we can't give up hope, the right job will come along. I know that it will.

Keep your chin up Frances and remember that we are all here for you and praying for you.

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   Posted 4/23/2009 3:26 PM (GMT -7)   

Dear Wonderful Frances,

I know how you feel as I took early retirement from my dream job in 2006 due to my depression and major melt down.  My immediate boss knew what was going on with me and she never went to bat for me or reminded me that  I had all kinds of benefits I could have tapped into, my short term disability for one.   She accepted my resignation and hired my replacement before I was out the door. You see it was much cheaper to let me go and hire someone at half my salary.  So I ended up losing my goal of working until I was 62 and had to start burning my pension money to live on.

With the market the way it has been I have lost over 1/2 my retirement in 3 years. I was never offered a less stressful job which my boss offered to other managers that asked to step down. I beat myself up pretty bad mentally for being such a loser and someone my boss would let go so easy.  I had an exemplary work record. So I cried and hid out at home for months.  I did not want to see anyone as they always asked if I was still running the ER.  No I was not, in fact I felt so rejected I would cry just at the thought of being seen in public.  My self esteem went in the garbage.

I know how devestated you feel. (((((HUGS)))))

Last September a friend of mine called me and said there was an ad for a substitute school nurse in the local paper...........so I sent in my resume' and nothing, I heard nothing.  Then in December I received a letter from the school district telling me when orientation was for the school nurse position.  WOW................I thought I was over qualified with 26 years ER and I was to old but all of a sudden I was going to an orientation.

They hired 4 of us and for me I was back doing what I do well, I was a nurse again only in a different field. The pay is OK and I have been kept pretty busy.  I can pick and choose if I want to work and which school  and the best part was I could decrease the amount of money I had to take out of my pension plan to live on every month. I am off summers and holidays.

It took me a long time to remember that the job was not who I was, I had to work at getting my confidence back but to this day I still hate it when people ask if I still work at the hospital but now I can say with pride, no, I work for the School District.

So that is my story.  Yes I did apply for other jobs and I was offered  several, one as a department manager at Walmart but I turned it down.  So my dear Frances, let yourself grieve for  your loss of your job as it was part of who you are but only a small part.  You are the sum of so many wonderful things and Lady Luck will swing your way.  Be kind to yourself and keep talking to us.

With love and hugs,
Kitt


 

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Raniah
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   Posted 4/23/2009 4:49 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Frances,

I’m very sorry to hear your news. As with many things, ‘knowing in advance’ doesn’t necessarily soften the blow when it comes, and I know you must be experiencing a terrible sense of loss. Please accept my heartfelt sympathy and sincere prayers.

I hope you will give yourself some time to grieve this loss. I understand why you are feeling uncomfortable with people’s questions and comments, and it always surprises me – in an unpleasant way – how insensitive and callous people can be about someone’s life situation. I went through that when I left my ex-husband, and some of the comments that people offered to me regarding my marriage and subsequent divorce either knocked the wind out of me or reduced me to tears. We cannot control what others think about us, but we *can* control our view of ourselves. I have read many of your posts since I arrived at HW, and all of them have been full of wisdom and sensitive advice to others. It’s evident by your approach and the content of your messages that you are a highly intelligent individual, both in the mental and the emotional sense, and I would imagine that this brief view I’ve had merely scratches the surface. You have a lot to be proud of in your personal attributes, and anyone would be lucky to hire someone with your abilities and interpersonal skills.

If I recall, you have training and experience as an educator (I hope my memory of this is correct!). I would imagine that this would carry a lot of transferable skills, which could be applied to any number of positions. This should give you a healthy edge on the competition out there in the job market. If you were able to choose whatever you wanted, would you go back to teaching, or perhaps be involved somehow with the education system, as a curriculum specialist or program coordinator (for example)?

I would also think that someone with your background would make an excellent HR professional. You certainly have given some valuable advice to other members in difficult employment situations.

Do you have any particular skills which you direct towards hobbies or creative pursuits? If so, perhaps you could teach something privately to children or adults in order to provide yourself with some extra income. I am also wondering if you might want to offer your services to others as a tutor.

These are just a few thoughts for you, and since I don’t know the specifics of any jobs you’ve had, I may be offering suggestions which are redundant or unnecessary. I also suspect that you have done a lot of thinking on your own, and maybe you’re just looking for something to earn some extra cash while you continue to look for a more permanent or meaningful position. Whatever the case, please know that you are in my prayers, Frances. You may not have adequate support from your family there, but we will give you all the support we can from our family here.

P.S. Please don’t ever call yourself a failure, Frances. I have a great deal of admiration for you, and hold you in very high esteem.
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Aurora60
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   Posted 4/23/2009 5:35 PM (GMT -7)   

Dear Frances,  I am so sorry to hear about your job.  I don't know if this is any consolation but many of us are without work.  I lost my job when I got cancer and then when I was better I found what I thought would be the ideal part time job and it was a nightmare.  I ended up having to quit because it was too physical for me and after a four hour shift I would come home and just lie down on my bed.  I coudn't even get the energy to have lunch. So I do understand what you are going through.  I have been looking for almost a year and I either get turned down or get no interviews and I am just looking for part time. I am eating away at my retirement funds which went to about half of what they were. My only consolation is I have social security.  I decided to take it early at 62 because otherwise I would have had to wait to 66 1/2.  I am glad I got it because at least I can get my bills paid. I owe every dr around here and am on payment plans for everything.  It will be next year before I get a dent in some of these bills and I have decided not to go for my 6 mos cancer check ups because there goes another over $1000 if I see them.  I feel like I am between a rock and a hard place. I have health ins. but very high premiums and high deductible so that is why I am not going to any dr. unless it is an emergency.  The economy is supposed to be picking up so maybe we will be able to find some thing.  I am not being picky I will do almost anything except fast food or cleaning houses.  I think I don't get a chance because of my age. At least I own my house so no one can kick me out. Sorry to be sounding so negative. I know you need support. I think if you hang in there and just keep searching you will find something. Keep your resume polished up and call on every thing that is a possiblilty .  Ask friends or others you meet if they know of anything.  Sometimes talking to others brings opportunities.  I don't know your age and wouldn't ask but if you are 62 you could get your social security.  It's not as much as full retirement age but it is extra years of payments so actually comes out pretty even.  Any possiblility of taking in a roomate and getting rent from someone?  I wish you the best and please know I understand what you are going through and I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Many hugs,

Aurora


Tirzah
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   Posted 4/23/2009 7:50 PM (GMT -7)   
Dear All,
Thanks so much for your sweet comments & wonderful advice.

Karen-
I will keep sending out resumes. It's just getting so frustrating. I know you are going through the same thing & it is nice to have a kindred spirit to share my job hunting journey with. Hopefully we will both find new jobs soon. :)

Kitt-
It is encouraging to hear your story again. I think I may need to look at some of the lower level positions in my own field. It is hard to think about doing that when I really need money for living expenses, but I guess something is better than nothing so I will give that a try.

Raniah-
I do think about going back to teaching sometimes. My certificates expired, so I would need 8 more classes in order to re-activate them. I originally thought that HR would want educators, too, but it seems they're not interested. I've done some work in Marketing & PR in the past b/c they usually love getting former teachers in their offices but right now it seems like most, if not all, of the jobs are going to people with marketing experience. There are a half million people competing for jobs in my city, so it's not easy getting a job outside of my field. I kinda feel like maybe it would be helpful & healing for me to get a more creative job instead of another legal secretary position. It was really easy for me to do that work & you know what they say about idle minds being the devil's playground. I really struggled with depressive thoughts at work a lot so hopefully I can land a more challenging or interesting job the next time -- but I'm not picky, I really just need a paying job for now.

Aurora-
Thanks for sharing your story. I'm 31, so no early retirement for me. I went through all my savings with medical bills, so I have nothing left & a massive mortgage. I've been trying to get a roommate in here, but haven't had any takers so far. That would be another option that would help me out for a least a little while. I have severance through June, but if I can't get some extra money in the meantime, I will be out of funds entirely 8 weeks from now (not to mention massive amounts of debt). I also have high premiums & a high deductible -- $500/month premium & a $1500 deductible. I've almost hit my out-of-pocket maximum & with the government kicking in part of my COBRA payments, at least I can be grateful that I can still get my medication every month -- at least I will be able to get it once I can come up with the last $275 bit of co-insurance. So, I guess it could be worse in that sense. It just kinda scares me that my credit score keeps going down, down, down & if I can't get a job soon my credit rating will probably prevent me from getting anything good. But, who knows, I guess anything's possible so we all just have to keep trying everyday. Thanks again for the ideas & encouragement.

Many thanks,
frances

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   Posted 4/23/2009 8:34 PM (GMT -7)   

Dear Frances,  I don't know where you live but if you were fired you are entitled to unemployment insurance for at least 26 weeks.  Please look into this as it will help you with your bills.  It is good that the government is helping with your cobra insurance.  Take advantage of everthing that is offered.  But I do know that if you were fired you are eligible for unemployment.  Yes, your employer will try to fight it but you paid for it  during the course of your job.  And severance pay does not discqualify you for unemployment.  When I was fired from a job my boss tried to fight it but did not win and I was awarded the unemployment.  But if you should find a job that you find suitable go ahead and take it.  I just wanted to let you know about this so you have some resources.  Often there are agencies that can pair you up with a roommate.  But be sure it is a very reliable agency that does a careful background check on the person.  Wishing you good luck and many prayers.

Hugs.

Aurora


Tirzah
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   Posted 4/23/2009 9:33 PM (GMT -7)   
Aurora,
I wasn't fired. My position was eliminated. Over 1000 of my co-workers were termed at the same time as me. I was given a letter from HR stating that I was part of a Reduction in Force.
I didn't know that I could get unemployment while drawing severance. I will definitely apply for that b/c after my paycheck tomorrow it will be 6 weeks before I get my severance pay. Unfortunately, my unemployment pay will not be very high since I was out on LTD from October through February. They do make allowances for that, but it's not the same as if I had actually been working during the 3 quarters prior to drawing unemployment. Because of that, it would really help me out to be able to have the little I will get sooner rather than later.
Even job hunting costs money -- dry cleaning, resume paper, ink cartridges, bus passes, registration fees for job fairs (which I think are really unfair -- how are people with no job supposed to come up with money in order to pay for a chance to get a job!) -- so whatever I can get a hold of would really help out.

Thanks again for the really great suggestion!
frances

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   Posted 4/24/2009 5:38 AM (GMT -7)   
Dear Frances,
 
Oops, did I tell you that same bad soap opera story before, if I did I am sorry. I just responded to your pain and started to type. smhair (((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))).  I hope I did not make it sound like it was about me.  You know I care about you and how devestated you are right now. 
 
You are young so you obviously need an income that is far greater then what I am doing and I know that there is a job out there for you. 
 
Here is a link for you that might help you organize your thoughts and give you some hope.  Remember all those college grads will be hitting the street but you have an advantage as you have experience.  Do keep your options open and look for that job that will fill you with passion and stop the depression.
 
 
 
Re your teacher's certificate, can you take some online courses to get up to date?  I know the college credits online are not cheap.
 
I also know with the cut backs teachers are getting let go too but it depends on what school district and state your in.
 
I do understand your pain and your fears.  Please do not think I am making lightly of your situation.  You are a good person and I hate to see you in this spot.
 
As for a room mate............do be careful and ask for references, there are others out there that are looking for a home and I hope you can connect with someone that is compatible.
 
Take care and know I am praying for you.
 
Gentle Hugs
Kitt
 
 

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   Posted 4/24/2009 9:07 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Frances, I read your post and just if your position was eliminated it is the same as being let go from your company.  You are still entitled to the unemployment benefits. Be sure you check carefully with your unemployment office to be sure that you can get 26 weeks of payments.  You should be able to.  When I applied and was challenged it only took me less than a month before I got my first check.  Yes it will be less than what you earn but it will help get some bills paid.  And Kitt is right about really checking out a roomate.  If you have an agency such as Jewish community services in your area they may be able to help you.  I know where I live they are very careful to match up people.  Would you consider taking in a senior citiizen? If you have a Senior center near you they often have people who need to share living arrangements.  And they are good about checking backgrounds.  Just wanted to give you a few suggestions.  Also, be firm with the unemployment office.  If you need to, ask to speak to a supervisor.  I always get better help from someone higher up. Also, how about just checking the classifieds in your newspaper for jobs. You can also go online to Monster.com or to careerbuilder.com and see what they might have available.  They are free.  Also, do you have an employment agency that helps you find a job?  The way it works is they look for the job for you and if they find you a job the company that hires you has to pay the fee.  I think you may have to stay a certain number of months but it's worth a try.  Keep posting and we are all keeping our best thoughts for your success.

Hugs,

Aurora


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   Posted 4/27/2009 12:27 PM (GMT -7)   
Sorry I took so long getting back to you all. My internet was down since Thursday.

Kitt-
I never tire of hearing encouraging stories. :) Thanks so much for the link. It looks like it will be really helpful.

Aurora,
You are so wonderful. There is a Jewish Elder Community Center just a couple blocks from where I live. I will definitely give them a call to see if that might be an option for finding a roommate.
I am going to try to apply for Unemployment Benefits on-line. The lines are super long at the unemployment office, plus they give you a one-time bonus to apply on-line & I can use every cent I can get.

Thanks again to everyone who's helped!
frances

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   Posted 4/27/2009 12:48 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Frances,

I hope you have success in finding a wonderful, reliable roommate. I'm sure it would take some of the stress off your shoulders. I'm also glad to hear that you're applying for UE benefits.....smart thinking, too, about applying online. You are still in my prayers, and I hope so much that things improve soon. The tone of your post is hopeful and positive, and that's a great thing. Best wishes to you.
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   Posted 4/27/2009 1:15 PM (GMT -7)   

Dear Frances, I am glad to hear you are taking positive steps to help your situation.  I hope the roomate situation turns out well for you.  And i'm glad to see that you are applying for the UE benefits online.  It's great they will give you an added bonus for doing so online.  You are being very brave and I am proud of you for handling your situation so well.  I wish you the very best. Keep posting and let us know how its going.

Many hugs,

Aurora


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   Posted 4/27/2009 1:24 PM (GMT -7)   
Frances,

I didn't know your situation until today when I read this, but I applaud you for dealing with your situation, and also encouraging others at the same time. I appreciate your kind thoughts and I send encouraging thoughts to you as well. Even though so many people are in the same situation as you, it doesn't mean that it is easy. I'm sure also that it gets to you more sometimes than others. It's just like any life change, one moment you might be at peace with it, and dealing well, and the next it all creeps up and gets you down. You just have to take it one day at a time and hope and pray that things work out for you in the end.
Becky

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Tirzah
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   Posted 4/27/2009 5:30 PM (GMT -7)   
okay, so I got my UI application completed & submitted. Yea :) I'm a little bit freaked out about all of the paperwork involved. Obviously I'm glad that they're taking measures to make sure people aren't cheating the system, but I'm a bit worried about all these forms to complete about my job hunting & the check-in days and such.

It's not that I'm not actively looking for a job. I spend about 50 hours a week -- or more -- looking for work. It's just that sometimes I get overwhelmed & have a complete meltdown. Besides the depressing aspect of this whole nightmare, I can't afford food & what I get at the food pantry is pretty limited (tasty, but limited) so my blood pressure has been super low & I've blacked out on more than one occasion for hours at a time. I have tried to up my sodium intake & my doctor has run more blood work so hopefully that will get us some answers, but it really might just be that I am not eating well enough. So I'm a bit worried about what will happen if I miss a call-in appointment b/c it says that permanently disqualifies me for UI.

I'm probably worrying about nothing, but does anyone have any information about how this whole phone-a-fiend process works? ok, so the UI people are not really evil fiends, but still, it just feels like if I make one tiny mistake that they are waiting to cut me off from the money I desperately need to eat, go to the doctor & keep a roof over my head while looking for work.

Please if you have any knowledge or experience about this process it would really help. I've never been through anything like this & it is really overwhelming. I think if I could at least know what to expect it would help. I know this week is a waiting week & then at some point I will start getting checks every other week direct deposited into my A/C, but I don't understand how or when that will happen or how the phone check-ins tie into that or anything else at all, really.

thanks again to everyone for their help & support (esp. Raniah, Aurora & Becky :) I am praying for all of you!

peace,
frances

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   Posted 4/27/2009 6:26 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi Frances,  I am so proud of how well you have done.  As far as the calling in you just have to tell them where you have looked.  You don't have to go overboard in telling them you spent hours looking for a job.  Just so they know you are trying.  After all we are all in the same position right now as there are no jobs.  And you can tell them you called whatever places you found and were not granted an interview or tell them where you sent a resume. You are doing the best you know how.  And they have so many people who are getting unemployment that they don't have time to check up on every place you have called. Just tell them you have looked and you are not having success in getting interviews.  It will get clearer the longer you are in the system.  In the meantime, try to take as good care of yourself as possible.  You need your strength if you are going to get another job.  As far as bills. if you can "rob Peter to pay Paul" so be it.  You need nourishing food.  But I guess what I can really do is let you know how much I care and will always be here to support you, my friend. Take care, I am thinking of you and saying prayers for you. Just wanted to add, be sure to call in to the number they gave you at the assigned time.  This is very important.

Gently hugs,

Aurora


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   Posted 4/27/2009 6:33 PM (GMT -7)   

P.S. Frances, concerning your medical bills can you call each place where you owe a bill and ask them to put you on a payment plan?  This is what I have done.  I called each dr's office and the hospital and everyone was willing to put me on a payment plan that I could afford to send a certain amount each month.  When they know you are out of work they seem to be willing to work with you.  After all, they would rather get the money over a period of time instead of nothing at all.  Do not worry about your credit score unless you have credit card debt or can't make your mortgage.  Even your bank should be willing to work out a plan for you if you are having trouble meeting the mortgage payments.  Just wanted to give you some new ideas.

Aurora, agaiin


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   Posted 4/27/2009 7:28 PM (GMT -7)   
Frances,

I know that you are struggling right now and I want to tell you Aurora is right about calling in. Make sure that you do that at the scheduled time. Basically they want to know that you are able and availabe for work. I use to have to call places over and over again, there just wasn't any work. But as long as you are making an effort, that is what is important. And as Aurora said, you will get used to the process of calling.

Best wishes to you, I hope that you find the job that you are looking for.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 4/27/2009 7:39 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Frances,

I can't offer advice on the UI procedures beyond what Aurora and Karen have said, but I wanted to say that I hope you will be able to put your health first and focus on nourishing yourself. I really do understand how difficult it is to have to choose between some necessities and others, and I only say this because I truly care. I will say a special prayer for you tonight that you will be granted many opportunities.....for enough resources to provide yourself with nutritious food, for a choice of satisfying jobs with respectable pay, and for a good person to live as your roommate and help you with your home and your expenses. God bless you.
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   Posted 4/27/2009 8:49 PM (GMT -7)   
It's just really hard to choose food over a place to live. I get soooooo depressed when I am staying with my parents. I won't go into details, but it is really not an option for me. I can't live with them.
My mortgage is horribly expensive. What a nightmare. I'm going to try to go over to the bank tomorrow before my auntie's funeral to see if they won't reconsider their crazy policy of not letting me re-work my loan. Maybe if I just ask them enough times they will get tired of denying me & will just help me figure out a way to make the payments. ;)

I am trying to be a bit healthier. I got my severance pay today, so I'm headed to the store to pick up some milk & fruits/veggies. Maybe some meat if they have anything decent at the Aldi's. Sometimes I get lucky & can find some pretty good chicken -- or even fish -- for good prices. Food is just so incredibly expensive. I'm looking into joining a community garden to grow my own produce. I'm not sure what the cost to join is or whether I can even get a plot, but hopefully that will work out for me. I heard that strawberries can grow in a window box & I have 2 window boxes, so perhaps I can grow some strawberries -- plus, the window boxes sit just outside my living room, so I think that will look really pretty when the plants are in full bloom. :)

Aurora,
I'm already on a payment plan with my doctor & pharmacy. Even that is overwhelming for me. Plus, I can't get all of the treatments I would usually get b/c I owe them money. I do get my maintenance treatments but normally I would get injections & such for the pain & I can't get those right now. What's hard is that those injections help keep my oral meds to a minimum & without them my meds are up and so is my sleepiness. Well, one thing at a time, right? First thing is to try to do whatever necessary to ensure I don't blackout on the days of my phone call appointments. I think I need to check with my doctor about my blood work results & then either fix whatever's wrong or start on vitamins.

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   Posted 4/28/2009 3:56 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Frances,

I hope what I said was not insensitive to your situation. Your plan about growing your own produce is awesome, and I hope that you will have the opportunity to do that. Re: the nutrition dilemma, I have one word for you: beans! They're a great source of protein, especially if you cannot afford meat, and they contain lysine, which (when combined with rice) makes a "complete protein". They're also high in fiber, and a good source of folic acid and iron. I think black beans and kidney beans are the highest in fiber, but all the varieties are a good source of nutrition. The last time I was really struggling financially, I ate a lot of beans and brown rice with salad greens, and managed quite well.

I hope you do the strawberry plants in window boxes. The flowers are really pretty, and fresh strawberries.....yum. :-)

Hang in there......you sound strong and determined, and that's so good.
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   Posted 4/28/2009 8:08 AM (GMT -7)   
The strawberry plants sound so awesome, and growing them in the window boxes sounds really cool.

I love to garden, beans are so good for you. I like the green sting beans though. I hope that your gardening goes well. It is like a miracle watching things come up from seed.

Best wishes to you and have a great day.

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   Posted 4/28/2009 8:49 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Frances,  I was thinking if you are going to your bank to talk to them about a refinance maybe you could ask to see the branch manager who may be more willing to work with you.  If they know you are unemployed but want to make a real effort to keep up with some form of payments on your mortgage they may be more willing to work with you.  Can you speak to your dr. about somehow getting the injections you need?  wouldn't that help and then you wouldn't need as much medication.  I truly hope this all works out.  And I hope that you can find a roomate that will be able to help you with expenses. I am continuing to pray for you.  Take care and I am glad that you will get the good food you need.  The beans are a great idea and you may be able to find a good price on chicken, especially if they sell a larger package in which you can divide up into portions and freeze for later use.  We will continue to talk to see how you are doing. God bless.

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   Posted 4/28/2009 8:51 AM (GMT -7)   
Raniah,
Nothing you said bothered me in the least. I found everything everyone said to be very helpful. My apologies for not addressing everyone individually who had offered me support. I was having a hard day yesterday.

Everyone,
Thanks much for your posts. I am off to a funeral & don't have time to respond to each, but I'm definitely going to look into growing beans. :) Thanks again for all your support.

hugs,
frances

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   Posted 4/28/2009 9:29 AM (GMT -7)   

Frances,

Dropping in to give you some hugs for the day and wishing you a sunny day.  I am following your journey and praying for you .  You have my continued support.

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