Hi all, I am posting again because we are back to having a rough time. My son did not have a good weekend. He found out that his fiance is applying for jobs in our area. To me this sounds like she is hoping that if she moves back here she can somehow get back together with my son. This really angers me. She always said she hated the Midwest and never wanted to live here. That was one of the reasons for their breakup. And now she wants to find a job here??? I think she is being very underhanded and may try to mess with his mind. I am going to have a talk with my son and express my feelings and tell him I think she is looking to get back with him. I am hoping that with his couseling and joining new groups he will be able to get beyond this but if she gets a job here and is back in another month I don't know if he will be able to resist or even work on his recovery. He found out she had applied for the jobs on her facebook page. I think he should not be looking at her facebook page. I think it only does him harm. He was very upset today and saying how much he misses her. I wish I could email her and tell her to leave him alone and get on with her life but I know I can't do that. he would be furious with me. I am just feeling so angry. This is really interfereing with my life. I always have a pit in my stomach. Just please hope for our sake that she is not successful in getting a job here. That would make things so much better. Thanks for listening.
Dear Karen and Raniah, thank you so much for your replies. You are right. I am not strong right now and I am letting this get the best of me. I am trying but I am also suffering so much. To the point where it is affecting my asthma which I know is bad. I do have a counselor who I have been seeing for the past 20 some years. I see her every week again now that this has happened. She does help me and I always feel better after, so let's see how this week goes. I am just so upset that this girl is so coniving and hoping to take advantage of his weaknesses. He would be OK right now except his roommate is out of town for 2 weeks and I can't convince my son to come stay at my house. He has a bedroom all ready for him and has stayed many times. I think he wants to tough it out to see if he can do it but he fell apart today. I think if I can get him to erase her as a friend on his facebook page that it may help. I don't know how it works. I just know that I need to get myself help or I will fall apart. I want so badly to tell her to leave him and my family alone, that she just doesn't realize what she has done to all of us, not just me but his brother, dad, stepmom and grandma. I want her to know that its Over and now is the time to accept it and quit and move on. Thanks for listening. My son sees his new therapist on Wed. so that should help. Also, I think all his friends would absolutely convince him to never go back to her. I am trying, will keep you posted.