Support groups are a place for people to give and receive both emotional and practical support as well as to exchange information. People with health conditions, as well as their friends and families find support groups to be a valuable resource and get confirmation that their feelings are "normal", educate others, or just let off steam. IMHO joining a support group is joining a family. Coming here and talking with us is a positive sign that you are on the track to healing.
When your fears and depression have the best of you, it is easy to feel that things will not get any better. This is not true. There is much help available in today’s society and the best way to
Take advantage of the help that is available around you. If possible, talk to a professional who can help you manage your fears and anxieties. They will be able to provide you with additional advice and insights on how to deal with your current problem. By talking to a professional, you will be helping yourself in the long run because you will become better able to deal with your problems in the future. Managing your fears and anxieties takes practice. The more you practice, the better you will become.
Keep that next appointment with your therapist.
Again a warm welcome and keep on talking with us. We care.
I'm glad you're starting to get counseling again. I know it can be hard to get out there and attend your appointments, but you will ultimately feel better keeping them, knowing that you have followed through with a commitment to yourself. It's like telling yourself that you're worth the effort!
You're right....it can be hard to trust people enough to share your feelings of depression and sadness. That's what is good about seeing a counselor, in my opinion, because he/she is qualified to identify ways in which you can help yourself, and is trained to be a good listener. It's natural, I think, to want your husband to be your confidant, but I also know that sometimes when people care about us a great deal, it is hard for them to handle seeing us hurt when they don't know exactly how to help us.
Since you have a couple of weeks before your therapy appointment, I want to suggest something for you to consider. I have found that keeping a journal, with notes of my thoughts and feelings, is a good way of releasing the negative emotions that go along with depression. It also gives your therapist an idea of what issues to address with you, should you decide to share some of your notes with him/her. I often make a list of things I want to talk about before my therapy appointments, because I find that if I'm feeling a little anxious on appointment day, it gives me something to work from, and it reminds me of the things that are top priority for me at that time.
I hope you will continue to post here. I have found that talking with others on this forum is a really good way to get things out in the open, and it makes me feel that I am not alone.
Dear Nixie, all that the others have said are what I would tell you. First of all you are a very valuable person. You have a husband who loves you, I am sure. This may be hard for him now as he probably doesn't understand what depression is or feels like. Can you talk to your therapist about how to approach your husband on this subject? I think if you keep up with the counseling and taking your meds you will see improvement. The meds take awhile to work so give it time. If you feel the need to talk come on here and post your thoughts. There is always someone here to answer you and help you work through a problem. One thing that may help you to feel better is to walk everyday. You don't have to go far, just around your neighborhood. But walking at a good steady pace helps release the endorphins in your brain and that in turn helps you to feel better. Try to do at least one thing each day that you can say is an accomplishment. I don't mean anything big, maybe just getting your bed made or getting the dishes out of the sink or doing a load of laundry will help. Do something where you can say to yourself I have accomplished this and I am going to be fine today. Try not to think about the past. The past is gone. Live just for this present day and don't worry about tomorrow. If you have any hobbies or things you like to do that may help. Maybe you like to read or do sports. I am just tossing out a few suggestions to help you through your days. Please know that this is a very caring and comforting forum and we are here to support you. I wish you the very best and hope that you will take very good care of yourself.
Post Edited (DannoCracker) : 5/3/2009 7:52:17 PM (GMT-6)
You are only a few days away from you therapist appointment so please hold on to that thought.
I have lived with depression for 27 years and I have had mostly really good times. Of course it is the bad times we fear. You will learn how to deal with your fears in therapy and how to increase your self esteem.
If you have a high level of self esteem you will be confident, happy, highly motivated and have the right attitude to succeed. We are here to help you reach your goals.
Remember people with high self-esteem:1. Have confidence in themselves.2. Have ability to solve problems rather than just worry about them.3. Have the ability to confront or eliminate the things that frighten them.4. Have the ability to take reasonable risks and take those risks.5. Nurture themselves.
I wish you peace,