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IH8Ticks
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   Posted 4/27/2009 8:28 AM (GMT -7)   
For a while now, I've been trying to find a good therapist. It's been difficult to find one who accepts my insurance. My insurance has a listing, but so many of the psychologists have turned out to have specialties that don't apply to me, such as marriage counseling or addiction. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to find the right psychologist for me? I realize that is probably a very broad question, but maybe you all can help me narrow it down.

I need a therapist for a very wide range of issues. I've had problems my whole life. Now on top of that, I have a long-term illness (lyme disease), which both depresses me from being so sick for so long and has actual psychological symptoms associated with it. My issues run deep (not that everyone else's don't as well), and I need someone who has enough experience to help me dig out of this hole that I find myself in.

Thank you in advance for your help.

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   Posted 4/27/2009 8:49 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi IH8Ticks,

I don't have to deal with the issue of insurance, as I attend therapy at a free clinic. However, I wonder if your doctor could recommend someone who would be better suited to your needs. It can take time, for sure, to find the right person for you. It took me a few trials before I found someone who understood where I was coming from and had experience in dealing with the issues that concern me. While you are continuing your search, you may want to look into some self-help books, such as, "The Feeling Good Handbook" by Dr. Burns. This book uses CBT (Cognitive behavioural Therapy), which (on a personal note) has been very helpful to me in what has been a lifelong struggle with depression. I know that many others at HW have mentioned how valuable CBT has been to them in their healing process.

I wish you good luck in your search, and hope that the support of the members here will help you in your struggles. If you feel like posting some more about the issues that concern you, I would be happy to post with you, as I am sure many others would as well.
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   Posted 4/27/2009 9:03 AM (GMT -7)   

Hello IH8TICKS

Welcome to the Depression Forum.  I am also wondering if your physician would be able to direct you to the right therapist.  Another resource is your insurance company as they have information on all the therapists that they cover in their system.  I know BCBS has a help line that will let you talk to a case worker who will direct you.

Take care and good luck,

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IH8Ticks
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   Posted 4/27/2009 9:43 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you all for your responses. My doctor gave me a list of therapists a year or two ago, but none of them took my insurance. The few therapists that I could find weren't taking on new patients.

I've thought about going to a free clinic or a joining a support group just as a way to start the process. How do I find such places to go?

I've discussed my problems in other forums. It's somewhat helpful to talk about them, but when it comes down to it, I don't get a lot of advice on how to changes things for myself. It's no knock on the people who tried to help. It's just that my problems are strange and unlike what most people have seen or heard about. That's one of my misgivings about therapy. I'm a self-analyzer. I know what's wrong, and why things are the way they are. What I don't know is how to change them and myself. I'm afraid that therapy might just be talking and analyzing when what I really need are some concrete answers on what to do. Maybe I'll feel like expounding more on that later. I don't want to think about it too much right now because it'll depress me more.

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   Posted 4/27/2009 10:06 AM (GMT -7)   
I honestly think that you are thinking too much. The best thing to do is to take life one day at a time. Live in the moment, in the now. Problems like this seem to have a way of working out. And your actions determine the outcome.

I do agree with Raniah about the Feeling Good book. It really helps to sort things out. Always do the best that you can. Then you know that you are doing the right things. And the outcome will be good. I can't express enough how trying to analyze things actually makes us more confused. The answers will come to you when the time is right. Keep trying, stay focussed on the present. Maybe write a list of the things on your mind, that way you wont worry so much. The list will always be there for you to look at. And in the meantime you can give your mind a rest.

You are a good person, always remember that. Keep trying and keep posting. As we are all here for you. Remember one day at a time and stay in the moment. No worrying about the future.

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IH8Ticks
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   Posted 4/27/2009 10:37 AM (GMT -7)   
You're probably right that I think too much, but I have the opposite problem too. One of my worst faults is that I get stagnate in my life. I'm rarely happy, but as long as I'm comfortable, I don't do anything. I fly under the radar, and I just try to survive rather than really live. That's why I am where I'm at today. I have almost no friends. I rarely leave the house. If I don't take action and make some drastic changes in my life, I'm not going to make it.

I appreciate the book suggestion, but I'm not much of a reader. The lyme makes it even worse. I suffer from blurry vision, cognitive impairment, and short term memory loss. It sort of makes reading a book an exercise in futility.

Raniah
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   Posted 4/27/2009 11:13 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi again, IH8Ticks,

I know what you mean about analzying versus actively working on solutions and achieving positive change. That is what has been good about CBT for me. It has given me a framework in which I can identify my self-defeating thoughts and work on changing these thoughts, which ultimately changes my perception of things. It takes practice, for sure, but in my commitment to that practice I know that I am actively doing something to help myself, and I have seen positive results as well.

Karen makes a good point about taking one day at a time. So much of depression has to do with that feeling of 'overwhelm', in my opinion anyhow, and taking things in small portions is the only way I can handle my life. Perhaps that is true for you, as well. I also find that making a mental note of the small steps and accomplishments through the day helps me to focus on the positive, which is always a good thing when my natural inclination is to focus more on the negative.

As far as finding a free clinic, I would maybe ask the hospitals or check online. The clinic I go to is affiliated with a hospital in a nearby city.

Please stay with us, and keep posting as you feel up to it. The members here are really good at offering suggestions as to how to handle specific issues, and I think you'll find this to be a warm and compassionate place.
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Raniah
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   Posted 4/27/2009 11:17 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi again....one more word about your last post: there is also an online CBT program called The Mood Gym. The link for that is posted under a very recent thread entitled, "New here. My first post. Going to lay it all on the line." Perhaps that would be a better way of trying CBT than doing it through a workbook, given the symptoms you mentioned.
Living one day at a time. 
 

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