When your fears and depression have the best of you, it is easy to feel that things will not get any better. This is not true. There is much help available in today’s society and the best way to
You never know when the answers you are looking for will come to your doorstep. Even if the thing that you feared does happen, there are circumstances and factors that you can’t predict which can be used to your advantage. These factors can change everything. Remember: we may be ninety-nine percent correct in predicting the future, but all it takes is for that one percent to make a world of difference.
Challenge your negative thinking with positive statements and realistic thinking. When encountering thoughts that make you feel fearful or depressed, challenge those thoughts by asking yourself questions that will maintain objectivity and common sense.
For example, your afraid of feeling sad as you have no reason to be sad and others are worse off then you. This depresses you, however your thinking in this situation is unrealistic. The fact of the matter is you have a right to feel sad and your feelings belong to you. You are not taking away from others that are worse off then you. Your pain and sadness are real.
Please know that we are here and we will help you through so stick with us.
Gentle Hugs to you,
Hi Acuragrl, Welcome from me too. I agree with what the others have said. We all have good days and bads days. If you are feeling the way you are now it is a good idea to have yourself get a checkup with your dr. You may be depressed and in need of some meds. Are you working or do you have children? I know how hard divorce is and the feelings can last for some time. You are not alone about this though as others have said. I too am divorced - I guess I am the "oldster" of the divorced people here as I have been divorced for 25 yrs. I did have a relationship for five years with someone but it did not work out. And I was so busy raising my sons by myself, working full time and I took care of my elderly mom for 10 yrs. I guess I have been on my own for so long that I don't feel the need right now for a relationship. I wouldn't mind a companion for dinner or a movie but I am not looking. I take my comfort from the friends I have and make plans with them and that gives me hapiness. I also do volunteer work. I am looking for a part time job but that is not going to happen anytime soon. I just want you to know that you will have many friends here and we all support each other. Feel free to post anytime. There is always someone here who will answer you and give you help or answer your questions. It is important now for you to take good care of you.
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Not sure if this was the right thing for me to do or not. I was feeling better after I started posting here. Then, I got involved with an old flame...started feeling really happy. Now, it seems that he has stopped talking to me now all I want to do is cry. Was I crazy in basing my happiness on my involvement with someone else? I went from being sad and depressed...to being happy when I was taking to him...to feeling confused and sad. I'm not eating, I'm not sleeping well. Its like I am consumed. I have this awesome friend and she is so good at listening to me rant.
Confused and sad...
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