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Aurora60
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   Posted 5/21/2009 5:48 PM (GMT -7)   
Memorial day weekend is about to start and this is the time of year when my lonliness and depression really kick in.  I have spoken about this before, but I guess not since last summer. My boys are going away again for the weekend to visit their grandparents and their dad, stepmom and 2 half brothers will all be there.  The summer home is a place I used to go to when I was married. I think I spent at least 20 yrs there every summer.  I feel so left out. I know it is their family and they have such a good time. And I want them to go and be happy and they have a lot of friends there.  My problem is I  can't stand being in my house all  alone especially at night.  I tried to make plans with friends but everyone is going away except for one and I asked her to go out to dinner, just something quick and inexpensive.  She said no, she has things to do in her apt. She was not her usual friendly self.  That is making me feel sad. And I feel so lonely, I just cry and cry.  I am on meds so you don't need to suggest that and they work all the other times I am not alone. It is just so hard not having any one to talk to at night. I try to read or watch TV but it is hard for me because I feel so alone, so like I am nothing.  I have plenty to do during the days.  I need to find some new friends but I just don't know where to look. I volunteer, I have taken classes and joined groups but no one has wanted to be a friend.  I think it is harder for us when we get older to meet new people. I don't know what else to say except I wish it was Monday already.  I have this problem every time my boys go away. Only one of them lives with me.  And I am still hurting from my younger son's cancelled wedding.  He is in therapy and is doing amazingly well with getting over the broken engagement.  I am very proud of him.  I  just wish I knew how to cope with this awful lonliness.  Even when I make plans and go out it doesn't really matter because I have to come home to an empty house.  Well, I can't think of anything else, just wish for the time to pass quickly. I should cry into a bucket and then I could water my garden.
 
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Aurora60
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   Posted 5/21/2009 7:59 PM (GMT -7)   
I really do need help right now and I am so disappointed that no one responds to me.  I try so hard to answer you posts and need for help and comfort.  I was hoping I would get the same as I feel I have been very thoughtful and comforting to so many of you.  If there is something about me that people don't like I would like to know and be able to correct what you think my faults are.  I respond to younger and older people alike.  Why is it that almost every time I post needing support I hardly ever get it? Or I may get a response from the same people.  What about others of you I have helped ? I am feeling like no one cares about me.

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   Posted 5/21/2009 8:24 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Aurora,

I am probably one of the same ole people, but I am here for you.

I remember last year when you had this dilema. But you made it through. And you will make it through again. It may not be much fun and a little uncomfortable (that is what they said about my colonoscopy), but you will survive this too. Because we are here for you.

I don't think that you realize just how strong that you are Aurora. I think that you sell yourself short. You consoled your son during his time of crisis. You took over and helped him, so you can help yourself too. Though I know that we tend to neglect our own selves.

You know that you want your son's to be happy. You love them and want what is best for them. Well this seems like it is up there with the best. It sounds like they enjoy it and it only happens once a year. So you most likely put on your happy face and bid them well when they go.

So now you need to put on your happy self for you. And I know that you can do this, you do it for your sons. They will be gone the most three nights, right? Find three things that you could do in your spare time that you enjoy. Do that in the evenings when you feel most lonely. Whether it be something hard, or easy, messy, done outdoors. No matter what it is, I want you to do one thing each night to kill time. Atleast until it is time for you to go to bed. If you are anxious when you go to bed, I want you to play some of your favorite music. Something relaxing, no heavy metal or anything likt that. lol...

See if you can do this for me Aurora, if you can't, we will try to think of something else to help you get through. You can do this, and we can help you.

Take care my dear friend.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 5/21/2009 9:18 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Aurora,

I usually only check the forums a few times a week during the later part of the evening, so I'm sorry I didn't see your plea for help sooner. I understand how anxiety and sadness kicks in at night. I feel that way every night, which is when I am most depressed (hence my user name). I think that's why I come on here at night, so I can post and communicate with others. So if it is any help, please know that you aren't alone in your loneliness.

I think you are doing a great job of trying to be proactive about meeting new people and making plans with friends. I'm just sorry that this hasn't been easier for you. I sometimes wish we all lived closer to each other so we could all socialize! Sometimes even if I'm by myself, I feel less lonely if I'm around a lot of other people at a bookstore or a lecture. Are there any things like that happening near you? Sometimes getting on e-mail list to be updated of those things is good. Or sometimes I'll even go to a movie by myself or do my grocery shopping in the evening, as long as it's not too late or dark...safety first! Anything to get me out of the house. It's often easier for me to come home to an empty house if when I feel that I got out and learned something new or did something enjoyable.

If I don't feel like leaving the house, I sometimes do workout videos at home, which make me feel really good when I'm finished because I'm full of endorphins and feel relaxed. Also know that your boys will be back before you know it.

I'm so glad to hear your son is feeling better through therapy. You helped me very much so that I know I can heal from my broken heart. I'm still struggling a lot but I have faith that I'll feel better with time.

We're here for you! :-)
NW

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   Posted 5/22/2009 8:30 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi
 
Remeber you are always with yourself and God.   If we depend on others for our happiness we create problems...as you can see.   When we think the moment should be different we create stress... we are fighting was is.  Please review your thoughts (the real problem) and something you can change.  When the thought comes up that I can not be alone... question your belief.   Of course you can be alone.  Think of all the other times you were alone.  Know
you can be happy with youself and God.   I'm not saying it would not be nice to have friends available, but we must not need them for our happiness or we are just co-dependent on others.   When the thought comes up that I can not be alone or I'll be unhappy... question that Idea... Its incorrect.   Change your belief of the thought and you chnage you life. 
 
Best Wishes.  God Loves you.
 
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   Posted 5/22/2009 8:35 AM (GMT -7)   

Thank you all for your kind and helpful replies.  For some reason my lonliness is worse this year.  I think it is because of the cancelled wedding and because I was so looking forward to making the plans and anticipating the big day.  I am working on this with my therapist.  And one thing that will get me through this weekend is that I see my therapist on Tues. so we will talk about it.  Sat. I made a hair appt. and getting my hair cut and done is always a pick me up. I have some planting left that I can do and of course the book store is my big help in staying out and being among people.  I do have to get through other weekends like this, like July 4th but I am going to plan way ahead of time to be sure I have things to do.  I have to learn to come to terms with getting through the summer because this always happens to me and I need a solution for getting by these months. I will look for books on how to cope with this lonliness.  It would help if I could find a part time job but there just isn't anything out there.  So again thank you for your support and I will post how I managed this weekend.

Many hugs,

Aurora


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   Posted 5/22/2009 5:42 PM (GMT -7)   
I have got to catch up on my movies too! So I have a Date with MYSELF!
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   Posted 5/22/2009 6:35 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi MMMNavy, I so wish that watching movies would help me. I am watching TV and trying to read a magazine.  If only my problem was that easy.  It is night here and dark and I am alone in my house where I am very scared to be by myself. I'm sure it goes back to childhood when my mother scared the  daylights out of me, telling me I would be kidnapped. There was a time when I was 15 and I was home sick from school and she went to the store and left me alone. I was so frightened that someone would break into the house I hid behind some curtains in the hallway until she got back. I work very hard with my therapist on trying to get over these foolish fears but I think it takes time and a lot of work.  I am getting better than I was.  I now live in a cute little house in a neighborhood with houses close together so I am less fearful. But I always go to bed so late - until I can't keep my eyes open anymore so I drift off to sleep.  I am OK during the day. And I have something on for tomorrow but it is nightime when the demons really attack me. I can assure you I am not watching anything scary on TV! And I keep a lot of lights on all over the house.

Aurora


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   Posted 5/22/2009 6:56 PM (GMT -7)   
Aurora

My heart goes out to you. I understand the feeling of coming home to an empty house all too well. I've been living in my house for a little over 4 years, and my bf who lived with me moved out a couple months ago. I didn't realize until he moved out how much I relied on his presence here to keep me amused and occupied. I'm not working, and sometimes the house feels so huge and lonely, and time creeps by. I try to keep myself busy as well, but when the sun goes down, I find myself even more lonely. For some reason, even though I have no reason to, I get paranoid and scared that something will happen because I'm in the house alone. I, too, keep lights on all over the house!

I hope you find some unexpected strength this weekend, and time passes quickly for you. Hopefully the sun will be out during the weekend and you can enjoy some fresh air and sunshine. Enjoy the things you pass the time with...especially the haircut!
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   Posted 5/22/2009 7:31 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi Becky, thanks so much for your reply.  I guess we are in the same boat with our fears of being alone in the house. I'm sorry about the breakup with your boyfriend. That must make being in your house feel strange. For me it is not having anyone to talk to. My friends are all away this weekend, so no one to  call and  so far I have not gotten the dog to say more than arf to me. I am also not working, not by choice but because I can't find a job and I have been looking a long time. I jusr want part time but those are hard to come by. I guess we will have to manage the best we can.  I know that acceptance is the key but not easy to do. Take care of yourself and any time you want to chat just post me and I will reply.  I guess we both have high electric bills!

Hugs,

Aurora


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   Posted 5/22/2009 9:12 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Aurora,

I am just popping in to say hello. It is kind of late here. It is after midnight. One good thing is that it stays lighter later right now. It is light until 10:00 here. That is cool.

I hope that you aren't too afraid, I know how htat is. I am kind of scared of the dark. But at times, I like it dark. I think it depends on my frame of mind.

Take care my friend. Will talk to you again soon. Tomorrow is another day. And I hope that it is a good one for you.

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   Posted 5/23/2009 7:34 AM (GMT -7)   
Aurora,
I saw your post and wanted to offer something. I had an "unpleasant" experience in college (date rape) and have determined that it will never happen to me again. I have always kept at least two big dogs. Right now I'm sharing my domain with a large pit bull/boxer and a black lab. These girls collectively weigh about 170 lbs. and are gentle with my toddler granddaughter and all teeth and big bark when someone rings the bell.

Not only this, but they need walks, feeding, petting, loves, and especially being talked to. When everyone has left and I'm all alone they are my salvation. Always "on guard", I have no worries with them in the house. Last year in our town there was a serial killer on the loose preying on women in their 50's -60's. He was finally run off at his last victim's home by a little dog that bit him. She was safe and he was apprehended and convicted because of the dog bite evidence!!!

My dogs are trained to remain in the kitchen and downstairs family room so that most of the living space here is "dog free". Could you get a pet?
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   Posted 5/23/2009 6:27 PM (GMT -7)   
It makes me so sad when someone ignores my suggestions. cry Being ignored is worse than being picked on.

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   Posted 5/23/2009 7:14 PM (GMT -7)   
Jeannie,

I know what you mean about the dogs. I have two and I feel very safe with them. They also keep me company so I am not lonely. I don't know what I would do without them.

They also like their walks which is good for me too.

They are a part of my family.

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Aurora60
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   Posted 5/24/2009 10:36 AM (GMT -7)   

Jeannie,  Please forgive me if you thought I was ignoring your post.  I was out most of the day yesterday and then came home and read.  And yes, I do have a dog, a poodle who has a ferocious bark and he barks at any and every thing.  I can only have dogs that don't shed as I have asthma. I also sleep with my cell phone next to me.  I have had this problem with lonliness for a  long time and I am working on trying to get better. Now if only the dog could turn his barks into a conversation I would feel better.  I am sorry for the bad experiences you had to go through. And I understand how wonderful it is to have our pet friends to keep us company and feel a bit safer. Again I am so sorry if I hurt your feelings.  That was never my intention. I am going to post after the weekend to everyone who answered me and helped me to let you all know how I made it through.  Just one more day.

Aurora


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   Posted 5/24/2009 11:02 AM (GMT -7)   

JoCal, you have very much misinterpreted my post.  I am a person of great faith and belief in God.  But what you are interpreting as my incorrect thoughts is completely wrong.  I am not dependent on my friends for hapiness. In fact I am a person who does many things to help others.  I do a lot of voluteer work in my community.  And that is the type of thing that makes me feel good about myself as I am helping others and I know how much they appreciate it. I vey much enjoy nature and live near a beautiful forest preserve with wonderful walking paths.  I suffer from depression which I assume you do too as you post here on this forum.  I enjoy ( not depend on)  the company of my family and friends and they do make me happy as we have many wonderful things to share. I don't know how one can face life if they have no friends or family and just isolate themselves. I suffer from lonliness in my home at night due to abuse that happened to me as a child. I am in therapy so what you have suggested is your own interpretation. If you had read other posts of mine you might understand me better.  I think you are completely wrong in telling me to change my thoughts. My thoughts are my thoughts and no one else's.  I find your post to me to be insulting as you are someone who does not know me. You are incorrect for judging me in such a way as you did.

( and moderators, if you want to call me on the carpet for standing up for myself, well I can't help it.  I feel this was a very negative post to my problem)

Aurora


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   Posted 5/24/2009 11:23 AM (GMT -7)   
That is okay Aurora,

You were just stating how you feel. We all do suffer with depression and we all have feelings. We are all struggling. Though I don't think Joecal meant to actually dictate your feelings. But what is said is said and we will move on. Thank you for being so honest.

I am glad that you were out doing things yesterday. It does us good to get out once in a while, though I often find it hard to get going. Once I have gotten things accomplished, though, I always feel better.

I am happy that you are doing good and that you are feeling better. I hope that the rest of your day goes well.

Take care,

Hugs, Karen
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Aurora60
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   Posted 5/24/2009 11:38 AM (GMT -7)   

Thank you Karen for understanding my position.  I have lived a lot of life, have seen and experienced much in my 63 years and I guess when you get to be my age you develop a strong back bone. I am enjoying my day, outside and planting the last of my garden which is so beautiful this year.  It will make my summer much more special to see the work I put in. And I am sure your garden is spectacular this year. Take care.

Many hugs,

Aurora


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   Posted 5/24/2009 1:58 PM (GMT -7)   
I would like you to see this as an oppertunity for growth. I know you are mouring some losses here and dealing with some fear and trauma. So the question becomes how to deal with this?

Security Issues: While I love the idea of pets, I think timers (for your lights so you do not have to leave your lights on, not to come home to a dark house), alarms on points of entry like windows and doors (you can get a 4 pack from 1st alert for about 15 dollars). I also leave a timer on my tv, so I don't have to come home to a quiet house. I would also like to suggest an alarm system with panic buttons, if this is something that is a big enough deal for you to invest some money in. I do not think your fear is unreasonable, but I would like to give you some physical steps to work thru to help you work thru the childhood trauma. So you have some physical ways of soothing yourself.

It also sounds like you are mourning some family stuff here too. Some loss in not being included in your kids holiday plans and that they are in a place where you were a family. But I think while they are not there, they still think of you. (I have to give hugs to those parents like Kitt who are visiting their kids in a graveyard.) I hope you take joy in that they are alive. I wonder if you are mourning the loss of the wedding because of it might have put you in the grandma role too?

But I think the point is to find a way for yourself, for you to be happy within yourself on your own. Indeed this is what we all need to find a way to do. To deal with our issues in a way that might not get us over them. But will at least help us deal with them.

I hope to see that you find this weekend rejuvenating and invigorating, that it helps you be comfortable with being alone. That it helps you feel more comfortable in your own home and improves your rest.

I am going to see the children's movie night at the musuem for the 9:00 p.m. show. You are welcome to join me! :)
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   Posted 5/24/2009 2:55 PM (GMT -7)   
MMNavy, some thoughts on your post.  It has been many years since I have been to the summer home and I am way over that.  I love for my sons to go as they adore their grandparents and don't get to spend that much time with them.And I am on good terms with my ex. As far as the house I couldn't live in a safer neighborhood and my neighbors are all close. If I go out and it will be dark when I come home I do have the lights on timers.  I think you don't grasp the concept that I am not a person who likes to be alone with no one to talk to.  I don't necessarily think of it as a flaw.  I am a people person and I talk, probably more than I should. I have always had pets so the dog is not for a security issue.  Yes, it's true I have issues from the past.Yes, I am sad my son's wedding is cancelled. But he is a remarkable person, intelligent, has a wonderful job and great personality.  I know he will find someone special.  You need to understand that when a couple has been together 4 yrs, has a wedding all planned and it breaks up so fast there is quite a bit of sadness.  And no, I don't visit a child like poor Kitt does.  However, I do go to the cemetery to visit my parents, grandparents, and both my sisters who both died at young ages, one killed by a drunk driver. So I know the sadness of missing family. I miss my sons on these weekends as they are my only family. The issues I have from the past are due to abuse suffered as a child.  Were you emotionally and physically abused by a parent because you were scared to go in the basement?  I was the good child so I mostly suffered emotional abuse but my 2 sisters were beaten to a pulp by my mother. When she was angry with them she would take their toys and smash them on the floor. I saw my mother slap my grandma so hard my grandma fell on the floor sobbing.  I do have many friends, however they were away this first weekend of summer. I do a lot of volunteer work where I know I am truly appreciated and that makes me happy. And I love my garden and walks in the forest preserve. I am content with my life. I am not looking for some great hapiness to come my way.  But I post here because I am depressed.  The same mother who abused us, I took in to my home for 10 years because she was elderly and sick.  I am so far a 3 yr cancer survivor. I see a therapist to help me with the depression. I think you misunderstand my post.  I am not looking for something I don't have. I have more than so many and for that I am grateful. When I wrote the post I simply was looking for some support and someone to converse with. I think you are reading far too much into what I said. This weekend I got my hair done, always a relaxing and fun thing for me.  I bought a few more plants and finished my garden and I went and browsed at the bookstore. So I am able to fill my time when I am alone. But depression can get you when you least expect it and can throw you way off.  I am not looking for true hapiness in life. I don't think of that as something to strive for,rather I am looking for peace and contentment. And hopefully I will achieve that.  I hope that you understand better what my thoughts and feelings are. I appreciate you offering advice to help me.

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   Posted 5/24/2009 6:15 PM (GMT -7)   
Well, day 2 is almost over with one more to go for us lonely ones.

Had a good day yesterday with a friend, but makes today alone feel worse in comparison. I know, I should be thankful for the beautiful day yesterday, and am, but wished so much for someone to share this day with.

I do the things you do, Aurora--volunteer, walk, see friends, am thinking of getting a part time job to fill up more time--but miss the companionship of someone here with me.

I've become addicted to jigzone.com, but know I'll reach the point I won't be able to look at another puzzle!

Just 45 minutes to go for Rosemary and Thyme on PBS!

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   Posted 5/24/2009 6:45 PM (GMT -7)   

Dear Korissa, you are my fellow companion in our lonliness.  I know just what you mean when you have been out and had a great day and the next there is nothing to do and it feels so bad. We seem to have a lot of things in common and I too am looking for a part time job as well but as you probably know they are few and far between.  I guess most companies or places are looking for fulll time employees.  Don't they know that with us part timers they don't have to give any benefits?  Too bad we don't live near each other, we could be great buds.  Anyway, I hope the rest of your weekend will be good for you and keep posting. I am always happy to talk with you.  Take care. By the way I had gotten hooked on sudoku puzzles until they drove me nuts.

Gentle hugs,

Aurora


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   Posted 5/25/2009 7:35 AM (GMT -7)   
Aurora,
I am just a woman who has lived alone for several years and has alot to trauma to deal with. I just thought it might be helpful to offer some suggestions that have helped me. While I do miss having someone to snuggle up with (which is not something I talk about with people who have not suffered that kind of loss) or at least someone to talk with, I have gotten to the point that being alone is ok. I was just suggesting (I am not considering it a flaw) that this just might be an oppertunity to help you work thru your childhood trauma (I believe in the philosphopy of lessons will be repeated until you learn them and so I usually turn things into what am I suppose to learn from this experience? How am I suppose to grow as a person from this experience?). I think you are doing a good job. I just hope you know you are not alone in your feelings and in your issues. Congrats on your three years!
Navy
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   Posted 5/25/2009 9:56 AM (GMT -7)   

Dear HW friends, I want to thank you all for being so supportive of me this weekend. My sons are coming home today and we will have a nice dinner and life returns to normal whatever that is.  I actually came through this weekend very well.  I was out during the day and kept very busy at night and did not allow myself to dwell on the fact that I was alone. Having a good book to read also helps.  An it is great to have a dog, he is really good company and I can actually talk to him and he makes little noises and moves his head and ears so I know he is listening in his own doggy way.  I just don't like it when he barks at night because then I am looking out the windows to see if someone is there. Of course it is usually a neighbor coming home.  I think this was a hard weekend for me as I know my son is still hurting so much and that hurts me.  I wish I could just take all his pain and keep it inside me. But he is doing all the right things, keeping busy at work, seeing his friends, joining some sports teams this summer and reminding himself of all his ex did to him to push him away. And he knows he will meet the right person some day. So again I can't thank you enough for helping me.  It has taken me many years to get to the place I am now which is much improved over the last several years.

Many hugs,

Aurora


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   Posted 5/25/2009 10:04 AM (GMT -7)   
It's almost noon here Aurora. I slept late to try to make the day shorter, A true sign of depression, right? I look forward to a "normal" day tomorrow.

I, like you, enjoy being with people. My job was heavy public contact which I loved and miss now. When I'd come home from work, I'd appreciate the peace and quiet. I've been retired for two years and just can't get used to this much peace and quiet. I also need structure to my day. When I'd come home, I knew I'd made a positive difference in someone's life and even though I volunteer, it doesn't seem to be enough..

When I think of all the people I know who live alone, I wonder if they are just putting up a brave front and hiding their loneliness with a smile. I know I do it. But there are some people who prefer to be alone. I wish I were in that lucky group!

Hope you're having good weather where you are and that something unexpectedly good comes your way today!

Gentle hugs back,
Korissa
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