Your life has come apart at the seems and the flood of emotions are bound to be very difficult for you to deal with. One thing that is very important in these trying times is a good support network. I am glad you found us as we are here to support you and help you through this tough time.
Please know it is ok to grieve in your own way and that there is not time line. Come here and talk with us and we will stand beside you.
Again a warm welcome and please accept my sympathy at the loss of your fiance.
Gentle Hugs to you,
I feel so bad for what you have gone through, that must have been so difficult to learn to do everything over again. And I am sorry for all of your suffering.
You have a good additude on life still though and I think it is important for you to continue to think in these terms. Try not to dwell on the past, or worry about the future. Stay in the moment. You will find that life is a lot more pleasurable that way. And don't forget to grieve. You have suffered a huge loss and as was said before, there are no time limits on grief. If you feel like crying, do so and get it all out. And remember that we are here for you.
Post Edited (getting by) : 5/22/2009 3:30:27 PM (GMT-6)
Dear Sunny, I wanted to tell you how sorry I am for all that you have been through. I can't imagine how difficult all this has been. And I am so sorry to hear about your fiance. I know with him you could have faced many challenges. I feel bad that you have had to go through so many medical problems. Are you in therapy? Having a counselor to talk to might help. I see a therapist that is with a family service organization in my community and they have fees on a sliding scale so I only pay a small amount for counseling.I truly understand your depression as I am quite depressed now and suffer from terrible lonliness. At least you have a friend to go to the movies with and that should help. Can you claim hardship for your medical bills and get them reduced? I have that type of plan where I am although I don't qualify for the reduced cost but I am on payment plans and I only pay the hospital and drs a small amount each month. Is that something that would be possible for you? Also, do you have family near you to give you emotional support? I know that sometimes families don't come through for us but I do hope you have some kind of suppport system. You have been through a lot and you need to give yourself time to grieve. Time is the healer of all wounds but there is no set time that it takes to ease the pain of losing someone so close. Is there a grief support group in your area that you can go to? Often hospices have grief support groups and you don't have to have had a family member in hospice to go to the support groups, and they are free. I think that might help you through some of hurt feelings. Please know that this is a wonderful place to come for support. You will find many friends here. Post anytime you need to talk and someone will always answer you. And I will always be glad to answer your posts. Take good care of yourself. By the way, I know we all have plans and thoughts of how are lives will be. But life is what happens while we are making plans.
Post Edited (Aurora60) : 5/22/2009 3:58:20 PM (GMT-6)