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Steelcody36
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   Posted 5/23/2009 2:49 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello all.
 
I am a 21 year old male college student. I was diagnosed with GERD last year and I have been depressed since then. I think about death and am constantly down. I am very physically active, I workout and play racquetball multiple times a week, attend college and work. Work is terrible for me but I get through. I just feel so hopeless and my thoughts of death and bad things is uncontrollable. I am not going to kill myself, it's more a fear of death than anything. Besides, suicide is the easy way out and is cowardly.I also have noticed for the last year a decrease in enjoyment of things I have loved to do all my life. My sex drive that was sky high is also lower and I just feel that I have no purpose. I had suffered from depression way back in middle school but I beat that and everything was great until GERD came into my life. I am on medication for that and post in the GERD forum, but depression is setting in worse than ever. I just don't know what to do. I am always angry and this causes me to take things out on my family.By the way, I put on a front so everybody thinks I'm doing great. I guess I was just hoping I would snap out of this but it is killing me.

Post Edited (Steelcody36) : 5/23/2009 4:47:55 PM (GMT-6)


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   Posted 5/23/2009 4:22 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Steelcody,

I am sorry that you are suffering with gerd. I don't know a lot about it, but I know that it isn't any fun. I think it only natural that you would get depressed while struggling so.

Have you talked to your doctor about getting on any antidepressants? Or maybe some counseling? I think it would be good for you to have that extra support. So that might be something that you could think about.

In the meantime keep posting here, there is something good about putting your feelings down that does help. It can be like a weight lifted off of your shoulders.

I hope that you start feeling better soon, keep posting.

Hugs, Karen
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stkitt
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   Posted 5/23/2009 5:11 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi SteelCody,

I am sorry you have been dx with GERD but do try to remember that GERD can be controlled and not everyone has severe sx.  The GERD Forum usually draws the people who have the worse case sceanrios as others that are doing fine don't come to a support forum.  Please read with an open mind when your in the GERD Forum.

It feels to me like you are dealing with obsessive thoughts of Death and Dying.

I would encourage you to seek out professional help from a therapist or Psychiatrist who specializes in Obsessive thoughts disorder. It sounds like the pain and suffering you are having from these obsessive thoughts are difficult for you to explain. This is not an uncommon condition and is very treatable.  As Karen said there are medications and therapies available so please do follow up with your physician. 

Welcome to the Depression Forum and know we are here to help you.

Sincerely,

Kitt


 

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Steelcody36
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   Posted 5/23/2009 5:16 PM (GMT -7)   
I appreciate the responses. I guess I just always felt so good that I don't know how to deal with the way I feel now. Mentally I feel weak having to get help and this is very hard for me. I don't feel like myself and I just want to be the old me again. I felt so happy and excited for the future and for the last year I feel like I lost myself.

Post Edited (Steelcody36) : 5/23/2009 6:48:38 PM (GMT-6)


getting by
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   Posted 5/23/2009 6:55 PM (GMT -7)   
Please try not to look at getting help as being weak. You are not weak. Accepting help is a good thing. And it takes a strong person to look for it. You will be doing yourself a favor.

Stay with us, we are here for you.

Hugs, Karen
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THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 5/25/2009 5:09 AM (GMT -7)   
hi steelcody36, hi i am jamie.
 
kitt and karen have given u some excellent info and support. the death thing, i too have been through this. forward is the way, the past - for me resembles regrets, some but not all of my past. with help you will regain the strength of mind, but getting there is a tough road, albeit it is darn rewarding too! hoping u get the support u need, keep posting, aswe really do care, okay. jamie

Steelcody36
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   Posted 5/26/2009 10:55 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks for the thoughts everyone. I don't know why this is happening but I am at a low point. There are many people who are worse off than me, I guess that is another reason I don't seek help. I always thought I was tough enough to get through this alone but I have found this isn't the case.

getting by
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   Posted 5/26/2009 2:05 PM (GMT -7)   
I am glad that you are realizing that it is okay to seek help. There are people worse off than all of us, but that doesn't mean that we don't deserve help. In fact, we are seeking help so we are helping ourselves by doing so. If you didn't do anything about it, it would be different. I am glad that you are posting here, but you could use the support of a counselor too.

Please keep us posted on how you are doing.

Hugs, Karen
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Raniah
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   Posted 5/26/2009 5:25 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Steelcody,

There's certainly no shame in asking for help and support. It's the strong thing to do, as Karen said. Sharing troubles and giving and receiving support is one of the best things people can do for each other, and I'm really glad you came here to talk. I hope you'll keep posting so that we can be there for you. I know college is a tough time, with so many decisions and concerns about the future, but please don't be too hard on yourself. Sometimes it takes time for us to find purpose and meaning in our lives, and each of us is on our own schedule and our own journey. There is no set plan that we all adhere to, and sometimes we change paths along the way. Be kind to yourself, and know that we're here for you. ((hugs))
 

 

 

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Steelcody36
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   Posted 5/27/2009 8:59 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Raniah. I do have a lot on my mind and am very nervous about the future which is probably also partially to blame for my depression/anxiety the past year. It is time for me to beat this now and I will do everything in my power to do so.

Grizzly pooh
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   Posted 5/28/2009 2:09 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi, I also tried to snap out of depression and anxiety over the years but it's virtually impossible. It's not like we wanted to be like this or snapped ourselves into it, so it's equally unlikely we can snap back out. We can all get better with medication and/or counselling. I've done both, for now I'm hoping the meds will help take the edge of it, then the counselling can help after that. Please get some help, you deserve it. We all do xx

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   Posted 5/29/2009 8:03 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Steelcody,

You sound motivated, and that's really good. :-) I hope you will start feeling better soon. Please keep us posted, okay? :-)
 

 

 

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Steelcody36
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   Posted 5/29/2009 9:29 PM (GMT -7)   
I will thanks!

stkitt
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   Posted 5/30/2009 5:37 AM (GMT -7)   

Hey Cody,

Hoping your GERD and depression are both easing off for you.  Please keep talking to us as we are here whenever you did us.

Take care,

Kitt


Steelcody36
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   Posted 5/31/2009 4:06 PM (GMT -7)   
Unfortunately both are getting worse and I don't think things will ever get better. Almost not worth it.

THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 6/1/2009 12:28 AM (GMT -7)   
keep fightin' cody!!!!!!!!!!!!!! jamie.

Raniah
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   Posted 6/1/2009 7:02 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Steelcody,

Please don't give up! I know it seems like things will never get better, but they can and they will.....you must not give up hope. These situations in life go in cycles, and there will come a time when things will improve for you. You mentioned earlier on that you had been depressed before in your life.....what got you out of it then? Did you get some counseling, or did you use some sort of self-help practice? I am wondering if whatever got you through it before would be something you could use again. Please do come back and give us an update.....we really do care.
 

 

 

“If what I say resonates with you, it is merely because we are both branches on the same tree."  ~W.B. Yeats


Steelcody36
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   Posted 6/2/2009 4:14 PM (GMT -7)   
I had a psychiatrist, but I'm not so sure it will do any good this time. It is a lot worse and has a pretty good grip on me this time. I don't even feel love towards anybody including myself, I'm just here.

Raniah
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   Posted 6/2/2009 8:12 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Steelcody,

I hope you will reconsider the counseling, but of course that is your choice. I can only tell you that it has been a lifesaver for me, and I have learned a lot of valuable coping techniques from working with my therapist. It's been a long journey for me, but it's been totally worthwhile, and I hope you will give yourself that chance. I do understand what it is to feel hopeless, and to feel that there is no love inside, and I know you are hurting very much right now. Is there something in particular that is concerning you the most? Is it the issue of your purpose in life, which you mentioned earlier? I am a firm believer that ALL of us have an important purpose in this life, and you are certainly no exception. Some people discover their purpose early in life, and for others (myself included), it takes time and experience to really recognize why we are here. One thing that I know in my heart is that throughout the course of our lives, we are always 'on purpose'.....I do believe there is a greater scheme at work, and everything that we do, and everything that happens to us, is a contributing factor to our fulfillment of that purpose. I hope you will be patient and kind to yourself, and find a way to love yourself again. Please come back and let us know how you're doing.....as you can see, there are people here who really care about you.
 

 

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THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 6/2/2009 8:16 PM (GMT -7)   
love to ya cody. u are here, as we are, things will improve in time, unfortunately the misery go round is hard to get off at the moment, so if you can try slowing it a bit. keep kick'n and fightin' healing luv, jamie
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