Am I suffering from Depression?

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LB92
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Date Joined Jun 2009
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   Posted 6/1/2009 4:29 AM (GMT -7)   
Hello all,
just registered on here today and would be very greatful if someone helped me to answer my question. As hard as this is I am willing to tell some past things that I believe have lead to me to asking this question. Throughout my life my Mum has suffered with Depression, at times she will be okay and other times she will hit rock bottom. Shes takes medication daily but I still don't understand her current state with depression because she never tells me. I hear that sometimes a parent who suffers with Depression may see this reflect in their child. My Nan died in 2005 from Cancer, it wasn't long till she passed away from finding out the bad news. I was always close to my Nan and struggled to come to terms with this. I have a picture of her in my room but try to avoid looking at it because it makes me very sad. In 2006 I met a boy on MSN who went to my school. He was in the year above and we had a one year relationship. The first month was great, I thought I was in the love with him at the time. After the first month and onwards things became awkard after the first time of having sex with him. I felt pressured to do it and throughout the relationship became very controlling. He would literally tell me to have sex with him otherwise that ment I didn't love him. He would do anything he could to avoid me talking to other boys, he even hit one of my close boy mates twice because he felt jealous. I lost all of my girl friends, didn't go out or anything. I was with him 24/7 and trapped. Finally after all those months, I got the courage to end the relationship. I think I was worried of not finding anyone else again. I have never told my parents what truely happened between me and him, in some ways I feel as if I have suffered relationship abuse. He never hit me but threatened me at times to. To this very day, he never leaves me alone and claims he has change. I want him to leave me alone as he has done enough damage. I haven't had a boyfriend for over a year to date, mostly because I'm afraid to. Last night out of the blue, my Mum told me something which I was unaware of throughout my life. I would rather not state it but it has left me in a downer. I also struggle to cope with exam stress. When I get bad phases, I start going on about my weight. I constantly can't help but to look in every mirror or reflection I see and to not think "am I fat?". I could never stop eating and never have but I tend not to drink much because it prevents me from bloating throughout the day and leaves me feeling nice and slim. The reason I think I may be suffering from something like depression is because I get stages of feeling sad quite often. I avoid to go out unless I need to because when I go out into shops, if its busy I get light headed and feel confused. Sometimes I feel like I'm not even on this planet because I feel like I'm not really there. It sounds so silly but its just how I feel and would like some help. I don't want to have a problem but I don't want to keep wondering if I do.
Thanks for reading :)

THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 6/1/2009 5:16 AM (GMT -7)   
hi LB92. i am jamie,
 
first i admire your courage with this posting, also it seems you have a few things that are going on. so with this in mind, with the symptoms you shared i would strongly suggest seeing a doctor. pls remember that your health is of vital importance, thus seek some medical help, i wish you well, u have been brave, stay strong. jamie.

gentleman k
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   Posted 6/1/2009 7:08 AM (GMT -7)   
You definately need to see a Dr. I've had depression before and am very familiar with it's symptoms. Hang in there. The Dr. can get you feeling much better with some proper medication. Good luck!
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Raniah
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   Posted 6/1/2009 8:04 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi LB,

I’m glad you came to join us here, and that you felt comfortable in sharing your story. You sound like a thoughtful and caring person, and I’m sorry to know that you are hurting like this.

First of all, about your Nan’s death….you have my sympathies. It’s really hard to lose a loved one, especially someone you were close to, and I know it can take a long time to go through the grieving process. It took me a few years from the time of my mom’s death before I could look at photos of her….it was just too painful….so I do understand what you mean in your post.

Regarding the boy you were involved with who went to your school….I am so glad to know that you ended the relationship. No one has the right to bully or control another person like that, and yes, that is a form of abuse. Controlling people will often do whatever they can to isolate a person from friends and loved ones, so I am not surprised that you were isolated in your situation, due to your ex’s behaviour. I hope he does not continue to harass you in this way….if he does, I hope you will report it to a school counselor or the principal.

I know that you are afraid to date other boys because of this experience, and that is understandable. Give yourself some time to heal from this, and please remember that you did the right thing by breaking it off. What happened between you was not your fault, and you did nothing to deserve such horrible treatment. There are boys out there who are not abusive and controlling like this, and I hope once you have taken the time to get past this experience, you will feel able to date someone else….someone who will be kind and gentle to you, and who will respect you in the way that you deserve.

Some of the things you describe that you are feeling really do sound like depression to me, but I am certainly not an expert….I can only relate based on what my experiences have been. It seems like you don’t feel comfortable talking about this with your mother, but I hope you will reconsider. Perhaps there is a counselor or a trusted teacher at school that you could confide in. Of course, you can always come here and talk…..people here are really understanding and supportive.

The others have suggested seeing a doctor, which I think is a really good idea. I know it’s hard to open up about these things, but it’s important to take good care of your physical and emotional health.

I hope you will come back and share some more with us. I wish you the very best, and I hope you will reach out for some help and feel better about things soon.


 

 

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Precious Gem
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   Posted 6/1/2009 8:51 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Newbie,

Never be afraid to take control of your life and your health.  Breaking up with a control freak was very smart and if he keeps bothering you go to the police.  Make a Dr's appointment and unload it all.  You may be depressed given you have a family history or you may not, that is why you need to see a physician.  Find someone you trust and that actually listens.

Make that appointment, I am sure you will be glad you did. turn

Have a great day and stay positive.

 

Gem


LB92
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Date Joined Jun 2009
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   Posted 6/2/2009 4:24 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello again,
thank you to those who left comments regarding my first post. I'm glad to know that I now have people to talk to and your advice given has been very helpful. I have had a much better day today but I'm not sure how long it will last. I would also like to add that I am nearly 17 years old and these feelings I tend to have at times worries me. The rest of my life lies ahead of me and already I seem to have a problem. I'm starting to worry about my future because really I am too young to be depressed. Please keep the replies coming as they're much appreciated.
Many thanks

gentleman k
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Date Joined May 2009
Total Posts : 87
   Posted 6/2/2009 5:51 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi again

Depression can strike at any age. Glad to hear you are feeling much better today. You will have good days and some not as good. As time goes by, you will have more and more good days. Make sure to get to the Dr. because with proper medication you will feel much better. I can attest to that!

Stay positive and have a great day,

Gentleman K

Raniah
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   Posted 6/2/2009 7:57 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi LB,

I agree with Gentleman K....depression can strike at any age. I have been dealing with depression since childhood, and I'm sure I'm not alone in that experience. I'm glad today was a better day for you, and I know you will have other good days, too. It's natural, I think, to wonder and worry about the future, especially at almost-seventeen, when the world expects you to make a lot of important life decisions. However, life does bring a lot of unexpected things along the way, and all you can do is to travel down the paths that seem right to you at the time. There are very few people in the world, in my opinion, who make choices about education, career and family that turn out exactly as they had planned. For most of us, life is an adventure, with many twists and turns, and learning how to accept and love ourselves, no matter what happens, is one of the most important things we can do. I hope you won't be too hard on yourself right now, and place too many expectations on yourself to make all your life choices right out of the gate.....despite what you might think, you really do have time on your side.

Please continue to post, and remember that we care. I hope tomorrow is another good day for you. I wish you all the best. :-)
 

 

"The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes."  ~Marcel Proust

 

 


THE HAPPY TURTLE
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Date Joined Mar 2009
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   Posted 6/2/2009 8:32 PM (GMT -7)   
LB, now that i am 37, and was 15 again i would not have waited 2 more years to get help, but i did and yeah, younger and younger people are becoming depressed, this sadness me. pls seek medical help, and if up to it let us know if you are okay, luv to ya, jamie.
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