You are very welcome. I'm sorry you are having a hard time. I think change is a really hard thing for all of us to cope with, and even good changes can be stressful, too, although I feel from your message that the changes in your life are difficult ones right now. I know it has been an incredibly hard time for you with the loss of your brother and your dear sister, Beverly. Changes are especially tough when it concerns things that are out of our control. I know we aren't supposed to get too far into spiritual things here, but I will tell you this: when I get to that point where I am struggling with those things I cannot control, prayer and surrending it to God is something I can really count on to get me through.
I am going to mention something else in the way of books, if you don't mind.....I am such a bookworm anyways, and I have found that self-study for the purposes of healing is a really effective tool for me. When I was at my very lowest point, I read some books by Iyanla Vanzant that totally turned my life around. I guess that might sound like an overstatement, but it's really not, when I think of how I felt at the time, and how much comfort and wisdom I gained from reading her words. I started with her life story, called, "Yesterday, I Cried", and then went on to read her other books, including some which were in a 'workbook/journalling style' where I had to think about
the questions posed and record my answers for myself in my journal. I spent many months doing this, and it was a real time of transformation for me.
Here is the url to an article about
her that might give you some ideas about
her story and her style, to see if this might be something that's right for you:
This is an older article, and since then, she has lost one of her children to cancer, which is very sad indeed.
Self-help books are such a personal choice, and I certainly won't be offended if this author, or the previous workbook I mentioned, do not feel right for you. I am only suggesting these things because they have been helpful to me, and I want you to feel better.
"The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes." ~Marcel Proust