Thanks Karen and NW, I think I need to allow myself to grieve over this because it is the loss of someone I thought was going to be in my family and be the mother of my grandchildren. I am way too sensitive and too giving. This is something I will work on with my therapist. And NW thank you for those websites. I will look at them and see if they will help my son. He does still love her and I think if things could have been different he would have stayed with her but he is strong and he can only take so much. Because of his kind and caring nature I am sure he will find the right person to share his life with. And NW I am sorry to hear that you are having to go through a heartbreaking situation too. I hope that you will be feeling better soon. Even though I had to go through a divorce it was 25 yrs ago so I am very well over it. Thanks again for caring.
"The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes." ~Marcel Proust
Thank you each and every one of you for your comforting and thoughtful replies. I talked to my son and told him I was very sad and he understood but he also reminded me of all the reasons the relationship would never survive and he needs to be out of it and go on with his life. I do agree and that makes me feel better. He is really doing well and I hope this will continue for his recovery and I hope and pray that the closure conversation will go well and that he can make her understand that the relationship is over and he will not go back to her. It has really helped me to write out all my thoughts and to have such great friends to help me through.
Dear Raniah, it helps me so much that you are so caring and supportive of me in every way. It almost makes me cry but I think at this point my tears are healing tears. Everyone here has been so supportive. It is almost like going through a death in the famly and I have had enough of those. My son is doing so well right now, I just hope it continues. I know he is going to have some bad days but so far he is really together. I think the therapist is helping him a lot. I made an extra appt. with my therapist because at this point I think I am doing worse than my son. The only thing I am really greatful for is not having to put up with all the bridezilla nonsense that would have occured in planning this wedding. So while I do feel somewhat bad there is no wedding I think I am truly grateful I won't be going through all the razzmatazz she would have created. Maybe the best way to get married is to just have family and a few close friends and don't make a production out of it. Thanks again for being my friend. I am always here for you too. I have been through a divorce so if you need any help I will be glad to answer you.
Many, many hugs,