"The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes." ~Marcel Proust
Good Morning Kali-Nikki,
It’s never easy when a relationship ends. Romantic relationships begin on a high note of excitement and hope for the future. When these relationships fail, we experience profound disappointment, stress, and grief.
Don’t fight your feelings. It’s normal to have lots of ups and downs, and feel many conflicting emotions, including anger, resentment, sadness, relief, fear, and confusion. It’s important to identify and acknowledge these feelings. While these emotions will often be painful, trying to suppress or ignore them will only prolong the grieving process.
Getting stuck in hurtful feelings like blame, anger and resentment will rob you of valuable energy and prevent you from healing and moving forward.
Coming here and talking about your feelings was very brave of you and it is part of the healing process. Please give yourself plenty of time to work through this break up. Keep on talking with us and know we are here for you.
Gentle Hugs to you
Hi Kali-Nikki, I understand so well what you are going through. My son just broke his engagement. The wedding was all planned, they had been together for 4 yrs and she had a major melt down and emotional disconnect. He was devastated. But he is determined to get over her. She is in a different city so he doesn't ever have to see her. It has been painful for me and my family also as we were so anticipating this lovely wedding. But it is over and we are all doing the best to put it behind. My son has good days and bad days but the good days are happening more. He also got into counseling and that has made a big difference. So if you can try to find some counseling and if this is truly over then you have to accept it and move on. Please understand that there is another person out there that will be the right one for you. You just have to give this time. Feeling grief takes a while to pass and you need to take as much time as you need. And if you stop all contact with your ex you will be doing yourself a favor as it will be easier to get over. I wish you the very best. Post and let us know how you are doing.