"The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes." ~Marcel Proust
Askiing, You seem to have a tremendous amount of responsibility that is overwhelming you now. Are your children young? Does your wife have a job? It seems like you have taken on more than you will be able to handle in the long run. Is it possible to refinance your mortgage? If not, have you thought of selling and moving to a less expensive place? You are going to reach the point where you won't be able to handle much of anything and then it will be a hardship for everyone. I agree with Raniah that you have a lot of courage to do what you do. But trying to handle 3 jobs may be more that you can take. If you wife works or could work even part time would that help? I am just trying to find out a little more about you to see if there are ways that all of us can offer positive suggestions to ease your situation. I hope that you will not see the drugs as a way to escape, even for a short time. They will only drag you down more. You sound like a very strong and decent man and I only wish you and your family the best. Life is very hard for so many right now with this terrible economy. But think about what makes sense to do and let us know what we can do to help you get through this difficult time. And do tell your wife that going to Vegas is not a reasonable thing to do right now because you need all your money to help with your living expenses. Only gas and food do add up and that money is better spent on your household. We are all in a tough spot. I would love to go away somewhere, but I need to put food on the table so here I am stuck at home. But I have learned over the past year that there is not even $1 to be wasted. Please take good care of yourself and let us know how we can be of help, if just to give you comfort and support. Take care.
Hello and welcome back. It was 2007 that you originally joined the group so I am glad you have come back. You have had some great support from the members and Raniah did a great job finding your earlier posts for you. That was very kind of her. :) Thanks Raniah.
I am sorry to hear of your problems but I agree, it took a lot of grit to come here and share your problems and ask for help.
You will find support and some great advice here.
It does seem like your wife is not dealing with the reality of the situation you are in financially. As for her talk of Vegas I would just blow it off as you know it is not in the cards.................bad pun LOL. She is not facing the facts of life right now and that may be her way of coping.
It would be a good thing if the two of you could start communicating about your situation. Perhaps if you set up a time to sit down with her and just talk, tell her how you are feeling...................no accusations just talk. Let her know how everything is affecting you right now and ask her for support in helping all of you through this situation.
Pain medications....................please do try to kick this habit to the curb. I was on Rx Vicodin for a long time and it really turned me upside down. It interfered with my AD meds and like you I found it easy to hide in the medication. But I weaned off as it was either that or chained to a pill bottle and I refused to do that to myself.
It was one of the hardest things I have had to do but I made it through and I know you can too. I now refuse to take any offers by my physicians for RX pain meds as I know if I start to take them again I will end up back where I was one time. I will use Advil or Aleve or whatever but no Rx pain meds...................
I know that pain pills are a must for many people but my pain was not that great so it was the blunting of my feelings that drew me to using them.
Again a warm welcome back and please stick with us.
I wish you peace,
Post Edited (asking) : 6/10/2009 2:30:01 PM (GMT-6)
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