Hello and welcome to HealingWell and thank you for playing Trivia with me today. :)
I have lost many family members to cancer, most recently my sister on April 30th. I have had skin cancer removed from 3 areas and add this to my other issues I understand how you are feeling but like you I feel blessed.
Chronic Illness and Depression go hand in hand. Depression is a natural part of dealing with a chronic illness. When your body is challenged physically, it often times challenges the affects your brain chemicals which can lead to depression. Not to mention that with a chronic illness a person is dealing with an avalanche of new experiences both physical and emotional and that can affect their emotional health.
You never know when the answers you are looking for will come to your doorstep. Even if the thing that you feared does happen, there are circumstances and factors that you can’t predict which can be used to your advantage. These factors can change everything. Remember: we may be ninety-nine percent correct in predicting the future, but all it takes is for that one percent to make a world of difference.
Try to stay in the moment and from what I have read you have a good, healthy attitude and with some understanding and support and allowing yourself to feel that sadness and then let go of it you will make it through.
You have the support and caring of this duckling, my new friend.
Gentle hugs to you and know my email is open if you ever need it.
Keep on talking with us, and know you now belong to the HealingWell family.
I used to be an Oncology nurse and have also lost several close loved ones to cancer. I myself had a partial mastectomy at 13- not something i usually share- it was benign. but my point is, i live with chronic physical illness and chronic pain daily and sometimes the best thing you can do is get into therapy and really talk your feelings through. even a short course of antidepressants might help.
you made it through a tough time and this current part of your journey may seem scary, but remember that you are a survivor with so much to offer the world. you are valuable, loved and worthy of happiness. is there any way to alleviate your current symptoms in regards to sinus etc?
I understand what you mean when you ask about living with no joy in your life as i have felt that way for years, but that negative thinking has to go so you can move on and reach your full potential.
Please stay with us and keep us posted. Your remission is truly a blessing.
Much love to you, Duck
Dear Duck, I can understand what you are going through. I had breast cancer 4 yrs ago and had 35 radiation treatments. While going through treatment the most I could do in a day was get dressed. I have never recovered my energy and I find myself always needing to rest and only do a few things each day. I think it might help if you could talk to your oncologist to see what can be done to help you. Do you see your oncologist periodically? I would think you would. I have to see my medical oncologist and my surgical oncologist every six months for 5 years. Then I have to see them once a year for the rest of my life. So keeping in touch with your oncologists may give you an answer to help with your situation. As Kitt always says try to stay in the moment , and as Raniah said try to find pleasure in just a few things. Try to find something new that you might enjoy. I do little things like work in my garden, read and walk my dog. If you can concentrate on what is good in your life that may uplift you. I do understand about the depression because I have suffered for years, even before my cancer. Try to be good to yourself and take very good care of yourself. Wishing you the best and keep posting how you are doing.
Yes radiation is a mixed blessing. I am glad that you too are a survivor. I had a great day yesterday. My family and I went snorkeling. The colors and beauty of the ocen always uplifts me. I think a big part of all of this is accepting where I am at and that I won't have as much energy. The days I can accept that I feel so much more peaceful. Good luck to you Duck
Good Morning Duck,
Such great outpouring of support from the members .
The ocean, oh how wonderful, I am land locked in Minnesota although we do have the mighty Mississippi River but the ocean, with beaches of sand and that beautiful wild ocean. You have made me long to visit my son on the Oregon coast.
I understand how hard it is to accept so many things we must in this life and to look for the pleasures and satisfaction from within ourselves. I have had many major events to deal with and also being dx with major depressive disorder has been a hard one for me to accept. I still will fight it after 26 years now.
Like you I will survive and I will continue to march on each day even if some days are not as good as other days I will find some pleasure in each day.
Duck, I am glad to hear you had a good day with your family. It must be wonderful to be near the ocean. I think that acceptance for each day may be the key to getting through the rough spots. If you have something that can occupy you on the bad days you will get through it. I am thinking positive thoughts for you and keeping you in my prayers.