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hw_chelsi
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   Posted 6/26/2009 10:02 PM (GMT -7)   
I am going thru a rough time right now and just needed to "vent".  Am dealing with some tough things at my job.  I love my job.  But like any job, I have my moments.  I try to do my best but I know that I am a disapointment to my bosses.  That itself hurts really bad.  I have problems getting along with the maintenance guy.  He does not seem to get things done on time, although he is the best of the ones we have had since I have been there.  When I started this job, I couldn't do anything wrong it seemed but now it seems I can't do anything right.  The owners seem to get on me alot.  They never used to.  I feel no matter what I do, it isn't going to be good enough.  I just don't know what to do.

Raniah
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   Posted 6/27/2009 5:36 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Chelsi,

Sorry you’re feeling so down. I can see that things have changed at your job, but I’m not sure why. You said the owners get on you a lot….is it over something in particular, or are they just not as nice to you as they used to be?

I’m wondering how long you’ve been at your job……sometimes there’s a bit of a honeymoon period with jobs, where the bosses are nicer than usual, and they give you lots of praise and room to breathe……and then once things fall into a routine, they are more ‘themselves’ and tend to let it all hang out. I don’t know if that’s part of the problem here, but I hate to see you feeling like you can’t do anything right. That is surely not true!

Sure, we all have things we can improve on in our lives, at work and outside of work, but we are never ‘all bad’, and I know you must have some valuable skills and talents which you’re putting to use on your job. If there is something specific that the owners want you to change, you can try to change it, but otherwise don’t allow a lack of continued praise to be your downfall. You need to feel good about yourself, Chelsi, and feel good about your contributions.

Please keep posting here with us…..I’d like to know more about it if you feel comfortable sharing.
 
 
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   Posted 6/27/2009 6:28 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Chelsie,

I thought that they would have gotten rid of that stupid maintanance guy by now. He really seems to be a thorn in your side. You need somebody there that you can trust. Not somebody who is always trying to undermine you.

As Raniah said, you can't possible be doing everything wrong. And maybe the novelty of being a new employee has worn off. It doen'st sound to me like the owners are being fair to you. do you think that the maintanance guy has anything to do with that? I wonder if he has somebody in mind for your job. Maybe himself... But it seems like ever since the beginning, he has been a problem.

I hope that things work out for you. I am glad that you posted.

Take care sweetie,

Hugs, Karen
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THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 6/28/2009 6:20 AM (GMT -7)   
yeah, i have been there and back with bosses. was even assualted once. stay strong, hard to say what u need as i am aware of what is happening around the world. just don't let the buggers get ya down. in ya corner. jamie.

hw_chelsi
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   Posted 6/29/2009 8:25 PM (GMT -7)   
I have been there about 2 1/2 years.  I have never done this type of work before.  I started there just to help my friend and her husband who own the complex while looking for a full time job.  The manager was ill and going thru some medical issues.  She had been retired and ended up deciding that it took too much out of her to work and manage her illness.  Some days she would go for treatment and was too worn out to come back to work.  I think one of my problems is an unusual one...I am too nice and too trusting.  I deal with alot of people and I have been in their shoes sometimes before and I understand where they are coming from.  Sometimes I think I just need to get mean. 
 
The maintenance guy and I have a "love/hate" relationship.  He jumps my case alot.  I get stuck in the middle alot.  From what my friend told me about being nicer to him, I wonder if he has said anything to her.  I have tried a couple of times to ask her but she won't respond.  Maybe I am wrong, but it seems to me that if he has not said anything to her or her husband, then she would have told me.  I think you were right about the "honeymoon" phase.  For a while she sheilded me from her husband.  You do not know from one moment to the next what his mood will be.  He can be really nice or he can scream at you.  When asked something I tend to freeze up at times.  She has her moments too, but she has had some medical problems, and is also taking care of her elderly mother.  She said she considers me family.  All I want to do is a good job. 
 
Chelsi
ps: is there a way I can go in and enter a title for my post?  I hit it before I entered one.
 

Raniah
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   Posted 6/30/2009 1:46 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Chelsi,

You might be surprised how many people have the characteristics of being too nice and too trusting. It is more common than you think. The problem lies more on the other side of the coin, in my opinion, with people who have the poor character to take advantage of people like you. They are the ones who need to make a serious change. Please don't change yourself into a mean person, even temporarily. Just know that you have the strength to stand up for yourself in a firm but respectful way. You can do this with class, and without sinking to the other person's level. :-)

As far as entering a title for your post, you should be able to go back to your first post on this thread and edit to add a subject. Just click on the pencil icon in the top right corner, and it should take you to a window where you can edit your title and the contents of your post if you so desire. Let me know if you have any troubles.
 
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