Very Depressed because of big changes in and around my life

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Hara
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   Posted 6/27/2009 11:05 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm very depressed because of some big changes that have happened in and around my life. I was just getting to know a new neighbor and then she and her kids end up moving. Then a nice Mini Pincher found a home far away from where I live. cry   She lived next door to me for about 2 months or so. I took her for walks when the other ppl couldn't.
 
Sometimes I think it's better to keep to myself... cry
 
 
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Raniah
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   Posted 6/27/2009 11:13 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Hara,

I'm sorry you're feeling so depressed. I know it's hard when things happen in succession like that, and you wonder when the cycle is going to end. Things will come around for you, but in the meantime, please don't isolate yourself. You need support right now. Is there anything that you do that helps you to feel better when things are tough?

Please don't give up, okay? And please post some more if/when you feel up to it. We're here for you!
 
 
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Hara
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   Posted 6/27/2009 11:16 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm still here. Sometimes I can get through the down times pretty good until now.
 
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   Posted 6/27/2009 11:27 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Hara,

I know you've been through a lot lately. Things have been bringing you down for a while, and I know it gets so exhausting trying to keep going after a long period of difficulties. Give yourself some rest and some TLC if you can. Maybe you need to give yourself a break right now, and just take it easy. Sometimes the best thing to do is nothing at all......taking a 'vacation from your problems', if you will.
 
 
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Hara
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   Posted 6/27/2009 11:34 PM (GMT -7)   
Oh don't tempt me to take a break from my problems my son isn't 18 just yet. Maybe after he turns 18 I will take a break if he doesn't go off on his own irate tangain.
 
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   Posted 6/27/2009 11:39 PM (GMT -7)   
Okay, I understand. I know it's hard when you have a son to watch out for. I also know you've had stuff going on with your family, like the break-in, if I am remembering correctly. You have had a lot to deal with, Hara. I just want you to feel better, and I hope you have a good escape or distraction, like reading or music or some good movies, or something that can take your mind off this stuff for a while. You really deserve to have a diversion like that right now.
 
 
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THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 6/28/2009 5:39 AM (GMT -7)   
hey hara. i feel your sadness, if u don't take a break......well, i just don't want something to break in order for this to happen. keep posting, we care, jamie. sorry for being direct.

Hara
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   Posted 6/28/2009 11:39 PM (GMT -7)   
I tried to take a break today, but with my son's barking cough from his allergies that was impossible. I tried to take a couple of naps but I only tossed and turned.
 
HARA

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   Posted 6/29/2009 12:49 AM (GMT -7)   
keep tryin'. jamie

Hara
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   Posted 6/29/2009 11:16 AM (GMT -7)   
I called and left a message at my doctors office and told them I wasn't sleeping that well...again. I'm just waiting for a call back now.
 
HARA

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   Posted 6/29/2009 12:19 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Hara,

I'm glad you called your doctor. I've had to do the same thing for the same reasons...not sleeping well. It sure makes things feel worse, doesn't it? I hope they will be able to help you soon. Take care, and keep us posted.
 
 
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getting by
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   Posted 6/29/2009 12:47 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Hara,

My grandson has allergies. He is only a year and a half old. And he is allergic to almost everything. So I know how hard it is that your son suffers so.

I too am glad that you called your doctor for a sleep aid. I am without mine temporarily and have been haveing a rough time falling asleep. I have had a lot on my mind lately. I know how you feel about your friends moving. But just try to remember them as a good experience in your life. And the dog too. I love dogs, so I know how it feels to get attached. Do you have a dog of your own? Maybe you should get one if you don't. That might be a good distraction for you.

I hope that you feel better soon.

Hugs, Karen
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fireflycafe
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   Posted 6/29/2009 1:04 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Hara...
have you tried writing a list of your favorite things..
and also a
list of things that make you feel comfort, or that even 'used' to make you happy?
When I was deeply depressed,
I truly believed it was not going to pass, but it did, and I had a rough case. Yet the light came again.
Sometimes things as simple as
visiting the pet store helps. Or advertizing that you are a dog-walker, (then only take in the amount of work you can handle)..just a thought.

For me, (which likely will be different for you)..it turned out I had a
B6 and B12 deficiency and was told to
make apple cider vinegar italian dressing for my saleds...simple enough,
plus I was told it would help me absorb stress vitamins better
because nutrition demands that they need certain acids to absorb,
..it inadvertantly helped my gerd when I had it (12 years, but not for the last 5)..

That's just an example of small things making a difference to me, so,
consider what 'small things' might make a differnece for you...

Your doctor or a counselor may have a suggestion that will work customized to your emotional
needs too if you ask.
Sometimes it's hard to do even as much as making an appt, but every little step
accomplishes more than it seems..there are no little things..

Work  hard,  oh  so  hard,  doing   what's  right,  or

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  • getting by
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       Posted 6/29/2009 1:11 PM (GMT -7)   
    Hi Fireflycafe,

    I am so glad that you have joinede us. And you had good advice. Often it is the little things that are really the big things. Everything is so important.

    I hope that you keep posting. Feel free to introduce yourself on your own thread. I am sure that everybody here will welcome you with open arms.

    I do have to ask you to shorten your signature. We are supose to keep them down to ten lines or less. Per forum rules. Something to do with the band width.

    Thank you in advance for your cooperation.

    Hugs, Karen
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    Raniah
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       Posted 6/29/2009 1:22 PM (GMT -7)   
    Hi Fireflycafe,

    I want to welcome you as well. I can tell you have a good attitude and sense of humour by your sig line. I enjoyed reading it. However, Karen is right.....we have to make 'em smaller. I hope you will understand. Thanks for posting.....we're looking forward to getting to know you better.
     
     
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    Hara
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       Posted 6/29/2009 1:38 PM (GMT -7)   
    If the words get much smaller I won't be able to see them....LOL
     
    HARA

    Raniah
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       Posted 6/29/2009 1:44 PM (GMT -7)   
    LOL!!!  too funny    smilewinkgrin
     
     
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    Hara
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       Posted 6/29/2009 1:55 PM (GMT -7)   
    See I'm getting better. smilewinkgrin
     
    HARA - I'm going to take a couple Meletonin and a nap.
     
     

    Raniah
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       Posted 6/29/2009 2:46 PM (GMT -7)   
    You sound better, Hara. I hope you have a restful sleep!
     
     
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    getting by
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       Posted 6/29/2009 5:36 PM (GMT -7)   
    You do sound better and I am very happy about that.

    Hugs, Karen
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    Hara
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       Posted 6/29/2009 8:35 PM (GMT -7)   
    I did get a little sleep. I still keep taking off my C-Pap mask. It's annoying as heck.
     
    HARA

    THE HAPPY TURTLE
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       Posted 6/30/2009 1:19 AM (GMT -7)   
    good to hear that you are feelin' better. c-paps are a pain, also life savers. i wish my former partner got use to wearing her's. may well still be around, but she only got the c-pap 2 and a half weeks before she passed. stupid red tape!!!!!!!!! red tape kills. well that is our transport accident commission. useless. jamie.

    Hara
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       Posted 6/30/2009 1:10 PM (GMT -7)   
    I am still not use to my machine and mask. I keep taking the mask off in my sleep. I think I'm just going to call the place that gave it to me and give them the card in the back of the machine and see if they get anything off of it. They wanted more testing to see if I could get into REM which I think I did it 3 times already. So I think it's on the card for them to look at.
     
    I no sooner fell into a light sleep last night and didn't even have 30 minutes on the humitifier and I took the mask off and it stayed off all night.
     
    HARA
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