I personally think that at 25 years old, you should probably be on your way. It sounds like he has too much baggage to be dragging you down. When I was 24/25 I met my current BF and I WISH someone had told me what I just told you. Perhaps they did but I didn't listen. Now here I am 30 years old, dealing with the same stuff I dealt with years ago. Constant promises, no follow through. It just gets harder.
Today I am worried about what to do, never know if the relationship will make it to tomorrow. Not sure if I want it to make it to tomorrow. I don't worry so much about cheating, he is pretty loyal and trust is not so much the issue with us. The issue is, what does he bring to the table? I ask myself that question all the time and I can't think of a thing. He isn't responsible or a traditional man, he doesn't want to provide for me or a family, he isn't neat, he doesn't do things around the house, he never puts me first. When I feel bad, he isn't there to make me feel better, no gifts, nothing special on holidays, What do I get out of this?
Ask yourself the same question. You don't have trust so that's not even something to consider. Does he support you emotionally? financially? Do you laugh together? Have fun? does he surprise you? make you feel special? put your feelings first? Does he make your life easier? Does having him in your life make your life better? Is this mutually beneficial to both of you? Can you see him and you together living the lifestyle you desire for your future?
I ask myself these questions and the answer is NO to all. What am I doing? I consider him one of my best friends but as a partner, he brings nothing to the table.
He stresses me out, makes me feel bad about myself and my goals, he always put himself first... Honestly, it has gotten so bad that I am now suffering from GI problems. I have always wondered if the physicial issues I have are due to putting myself in this emotionally taxing state for so long. You need to be with someone who makes you happy. It doesn't sound like you do that for eachother. Move on now, it only gets harder.
Diagnosed with mild proctitis in March 2007: Treated with Canasa (as needed)
December 08: Began treating with Asacol 400mg (9/day) + Canasa 2x/day - Anemic
May 09: Off Canasa, taking Asacol (9/day)
Back on Canasa every other night + Asacol (9/day) + Probiotics + Iron
Reducing to 6 Asacol/day + Canasa + Probiotics + Iron - So far so good!!! -SPOKE TOO SOON! Back to 9/day...