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Aurora60
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   Posted 7/2/2009 4:47 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Jaimee,  I hope you don't mind my posting to you.  I read several of your posts and you have mentioned that you have borderline personality disorder.  It would be very helpful to me to know what the symptoms or conditions are of this disorder.  I believe my son's ex-fiance has this disorder but hearing what it is exactly would be helpful to me in helping my son.  If you feel I am out of line asking this question of you please let me know.  I don't want to make you uncomfortable.  I just need some insight into this problem.  If you know of any books or websites that would be good to look at I would appreciate knowing.  Wishing you all the best, Jaimee and do take good care of yourself.
 
Hugs,
 
Aurora

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   Posted 7/2/2009 10:01 PM (GMT -7)   
no prob's aurora. 1st, more females are dx than males, usually a dx is reached when certain criteria are met, and usually following a dx of schizo-affective disorder, etc.
 
criteria.
 
1. manipulation, borderlines manipulate and detest all authority, and will challenge it severly.
 
2. frequent episodes of self harm.
 
3. frequent attempts at life. fequent admissions also.
 
4. dissassociation. in one place but you are 40km's away from the actual place. and dissassociation from society, time, places, dates, schedules, etc.
 
5. depression
 
6. adverse risk behaviour, risky relationships, risky behaviour, needy behaviour, gambling, etc.
 
7. withdrawn. people, appts, self, society.
 
8. delusions and hearing of voices is a key criteria.
 
9. aggitation, and prone to outbursts, anger. esp to aouthority.
 
 
hope this helps, all the best, pls reply if i can be of help. jamie.
 

Aurora60
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   Posted 7/3/2009 9:04 AM (GMT -7)   
Jamiee,  Thank you so much for your reply.  What you have outlined is what I needed to know and you have been extremely helpful to me.  I appreciate your taking the time to answer me. This will help me with having my son understand his situation and why his relationship didn't work.  I think he will be able to understand that there was nothing he did wrong.  He was faced with a person who did so many of the things you mentioned and he needs to know he doesn't have to feel guilty anymore.  Again thank you for being so honest and thoughtful in helping me.
 
Hugs,
 
Aurora

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   Posted 7/5/2009 7:00 PM (GMT -7)   
your welcome, some other points, chaotic thought process, rambling speech, and some forms of mania are common elements too. i was also very needy of my shrink. borderlines also feel that they need constant, constant help. a lot mask and avoidance cope. mindfulness practice is an excellent treatment and the prefered therapy treatment is dbt. dialectic behaviour therapy. hope this helps, and i wish you both well. jamie.

Aurora60
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   Posted 7/5/2009 7:55 PM (GMT -7)   

Jamiee, thanks for the update.  Your answers have been very helpful. I think this helps both me and my son to understand how his realtionship broke apart and in such a sudden and hard way.  By knowing these symptoms it helps us not to feel any guilt and my son can go on to recover and i'm sure he will again find a happy relationship. You have been a great comfort to us in caring and taking the time to explain this disorder. I wish you the best.

Aurora


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   Posted 7/6/2009 1:33 AM (GMT -7)   
your most welcome. thx, good luck with everything to you both. it is a complex disorder. your compassion to your son is very touching. with luv. jamie smilewinkgrin

THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 7/7/2009 3:58 AM (GMT -7)   
p.s. i suppose i can attest that you can recover from this.......well for me in part anyway. made major leaps since i was in the inpatient program in 2004. time, understanding, and patience are critical to recovery, so is environment and cognitive training, dbt, mindfulness practice. wishing you guys well. jamie.
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