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THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 7/9/2009 4:15 AM (GMT -7)   
hi gang. sorry for not being around as much. i am in a government house, finally i have had my pipes done, yeah!! have real and lasting pressure in the shower and have proper pressure in the kitchen to wash my dishes!! yeah they left a mess 2. had all my globes changed over to the energy saver ones. weird, white clinical lighting. my neighbours mate flew in 2 wks ago from perth. his name is buzzy, had a stroke 10 yrs ago. irene needed me for the wheel chair grunt!! nice fella, poor memory though, alike myself on occassion. i took buzzy out the other day for a roll around the neighbourhood and shops. today i help with the transfer from and into the bath, due to a fall a few yrs back one leg and foot is stuffed. lucky i am a strong bugger as buzzy is a big boy like me!!
 
done heaps of gardening and repair work also. got stuck into a couple of assignments also. school is back on the 13th. urology appt 14th. water works better, still minor leaking though. bought a printer that photocopies, scans, prints. also photos. program on the computer is okay but have to get an extra cable to print. hopefully i can get the right one tomorrow. in regards to the lady, i have had  no visits or communication. she knows that it is over. actually i am rather at peace about it at the moment. my house is looking great, done some beautification. teeth have been a little sore but holding. post when i can, cheers. jamie.

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   Posted 7/9/2009 7:57 AM (GMT -7)   

Jamie,

Glad to hear an update on you and your sounding good.  I am very happy for you.  What an amazing person you are. 

Just stay in the moment and remember it is all we ever really have.

Hugs

Kitt


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   Posted 7/9/2009 7:59 AM (GMT -7)   

Hey Jamie It's Gem!

No matter what you are at peace about, peaceful is a good thing.  My Dr. upped my Celexa a little bit and it has made all the difference in the world.  A couple of weeks ago I thought I was going to lose it I was so miserable.  But this week has been quite different and it feels good not to feel bad.  Isn't it theraputic to putter and work around the house?  It really does me alot of good.  Over the 4th I worked in the yard and it looked so nice when I (we, me and my husband) finished.  Since I have been so down for so long, I did not realize all the things that I had "let go."   I just did not have the energy or motivation to do anything but go to work come home eat and go to bed.  Now I am starting to feel like doing the things I use to enjoy.  There was a point that I thought I would never feel like this again.  I am so delighted.  I also poured all alcohol in the house down the drain, mineral water is just fine with me!

Have a great day my constant source of support.

Gem


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   Posted 7/9/2009 8:26 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Jamie,

It sounds like you are having great fun with your friend. That is wonderful. Glad that you got your pipes fixed and that you are working in your garden. We miss you, so I am glad that you checked in.

Keep up the good work.

Hugs, Karen
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THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 7/9/2009 11:10 PM (GMT -7)   
thx to you all. today i saw the lady, she is having trouble understanding. i put everything in perspective. so for the meantime we are cooling it. from what she says she is worried about leaving home, having her carers and routine. i informed her nicely that i want a relationship without all the negativity, conformity and the pressures that i am under by family, friends and workers. it is apparent that her mother is very worried, re: past history with men. yes she had some very sad and disturbing experiences. seeing her today was hard, i still love her and i told her that by cooling it we have a better opportunities for a proper and fulfilling relationship. she understands. she told me that she loves me also. i said we have time on our side, i said you need to think about what you want, and when you are READY i will step up. i said when you are ready that you HAVE to fight for me and the relationship also. so am i a complete nong for the backflip, nah just a stubborn bugger who is realizing his potential and fightin' the good fight. so for now we are cooling it. thx jamie.
 
PS GEM. VERY VERY HAPPY FOR YOU. PROUD THAT YOU DRAINED THE POISON!! KEEP FIGHTIN' AND BE HAPPY ALWAYS. VEERY INSPIRING, ME HERE FOR YOU TOO MY FRIEND!! yeah yeah yeah

THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 7/10/2009 5:22 AM (GMT -7)   
i just could not end it. i could see the pain, and the genuine love in her eyes. my gut too said not to. oh well, time will tell. darn s.n.a.g i am!!!! in quite reflection. jamie. thx 4 listening.

getting by
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   Posted 7/10/2009 5:33 AM (GMT -7)   
Jamie,

It is so obvious that you have very stong feelings for this lady. And I am happy that you care so much. Just start putting your foot down and make yourself top priority in her life. Let her know that it hurts when her family gets involved. I think she still needs to make some decisions. I think she is blind to what is going on in her family.

Best wishes to you

Hugs, Karen
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THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 7/10/2009 9:49 PM (GMT -7)   
a tad snow-blind. but she is slowly getting it. we will see how the cooling of period goes. thx 4 your kindness and truth. jamie.

Raniah
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   Posted 7/12/2009 10:59 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Jamie,

I’m late coming to your thread, but I wanted to make sure to post to you. I have had viral pneumonia for the past week and a half, so my visits to the forum have been sporadic at best.

It sounds like you have been really busy with your projects at home, but I bet it feels good when you look at the results! I know what you mean about the energy saving bulbs – I like a warmer light, too, and those new ones are kind of cold. It was nice of you to help out with Buzzy – I bet he really appreciated it. You are such a kind person.

I think you have a good perspective on the situation with your lady. I know it’s so hard when you care and want to be close. You were right to stand up for yourself and to be honest with her – that is a must in any relationship. I can tell you love her very much, and I know she knows the same. You’re wise to allow for a ‘period of reflection’, and I do believe that everything happens according to a divine schedule. So be patient, and know that you are doing the right thing. You’re a wonderful person, and things will work out for you in the end. Take care.
 
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THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 7/12/2009 11:57 PM (GMT -7)   
thx heaps raniah. your words are a blessing my divine friend. tongue
 
and to you all as well, thx. jamie. tongue

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   Posted 7/13/2009 6:55 PM (GMT -7)   

Jamiee, You sound really strong and doing well.  I was glad to read your post.  Feeling at peace is a good place to be. As far as your lady friend, if you feel you need a cooling off period then you should do it.  It may be the best thing for both of you.  I know how hard this must be as you love her and she you. I have seen first hand how hard a relationship can be as I went through all this with my son.  He has chosen as you know to end his relationship, but that is the best for him.  One thing to keep in mind is that trust in a person is one of the most important things in building a stable relationship.  You need to get all problems wiped off the slate before you can make a real committment.  I wish you the best of luck and I am glad you are busy and well.  Take good care of yourself. Always here for you.

Hugs,

Aurora


getting by
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   Posted 7/13/2009 7:41 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Jamie,

I am just popping in to say hello. I have been working a lot and not on the forum much. I hope that things are working out for you.

Best wishes,

Hugs, Karen
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THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 7/14/2009 3:00 AM (GMT -7)   
thx karen, and aurora, and u all. yes aurora i am doing just as you say. thx all jamie smilewinkgrin
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