I don't know what to do or where to go..

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   Posted 7/14/2009 3:15 PM (GMT -6)   
so I found this place.
I think I might need help.
I'm 22 years old and I recently lost my job. I don't know if that's part of the problem but I'll put it down anyways. Lately I have been coming home from my other job, going to my room, closing the door, and just sitting down crying. I'm so angry and sad all the time. I don't know where it's coming from or what to do about it. I don't have a good relationship with my family, I'm so lost with what I'm going to do in life. I just don't know what my next step is...
actually I don't even want a next step. I have been thinking about death for the last past couple of days. I don't know why. I just pops in my head that it would just all be over if I  and then I don't have to worry about problems, friends, money, or anything like that.
I don't have anyone in my life I can talk too. I actually tried talking to my boyfriend about it (and the death thing) and he got mad and started semi-yelling at me, which made me feel worse about it all. I don't want to be poor anymore and I'm tired of working at jobs I hate. I hate going to school and I feel like I'm just not going to be able to turn anything around. I really wanted to talk to someone because I know this isn't normal. I know I'm just starting at this life thing but I'm already over it.
I also feel like I've been put here for no reason. I have no talent, nothing I can do that's fun and exciting. I just don't really think I have a purpose. I feel really alone right now and don't know how to handle what I'm feeling.
Is this going to last forever? What should I do about it? Is this normal for my age?
I'm just really going down and fast.

Post Edited By Moderator (getting by) : 7/14/2009 7:10:06 PM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 7/14/2009 7:36 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Temp,

Welcome to the depression forum. It sounds like you’re in a tough place right now, and I am sorry. You are right in your instincts….22 is a difficult age, because you are trying to establish yourself and find your place in the world. I found my twenties to be tough for that reason….going to different jobs, wondering if I would ever be happy, wishing I felt like I had some meaning to my life.

I do believe that everyone has a ‘life purpose’…perhaps more than one….and it takes time to figure out what that purpose is. We’re all on a different plan with a different schedule, and it can be hard to watch others settle into things and wonder when it will be our turn. I guess I’ve defined myself as a bit of a free spirit in the working world, because I’ve done a lot of different things over the past few decades, since my first jobs in my early teens. My resumé is a little thicker than some, but I don’t regret my experiences, and I think the variety of jobs I’ve had makes me a more well-rounded person with a wide-ranging skill set. Don’t be afraid to try different jobs, and don’t feel like you have to stay if you hate your job…..just make sure you can support yourself and keep a bit of a safety net for emergencies and such.

I know you said you hate going to school, but perhaps there are some night or weekend classes, even in something you would consider fun as a hobby, that would pique your interest. Taking a class is always good for the soul, and you might find that you meet a few new friends, too. Sometimes when we’re feeling like our lives have no joy, we need something new to focus on, where we can let go of the other stresses of the week.

I am in my forties now, and have found that my life has meaning from the things I do outside of my job. I have gained a great deal of happiness from spending time with seniors in my community, and doing things like taking them sightseeing and shopping, or spending time together over lunch. I also have found a lot of peace and joy in gardening, and spending time exploring in nature. I have a few other hobbies, too, that give me the opportunity to create and express myself, and I would encourage you to do the same…..take an art class, a writing class, a yoga class….whatever your heart desires….and see what it does for your spirit.

Sometimes the meaning in our lives doesn’t come from a career….sometimes it comes from lifting the hearts of others, and sharing ourselves with the world. Please don’t give up on yourself……you’ve got lots of time to learn and grow and find some joy in your life. (((hugs)))
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   Posted 7/14/2009 8:20 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Temp,

I think that you need to try to take life one day at a time. You are thinking way ahead of yourself. I know that at your age, you tend to wonder a lot about life, you have many questions. I know that I did. I was constantly wondering why I was here. When I was depressed, I wondered why I would be put here to suffer so. And you do, especially if you are overwhelmed or if you are depressed.

Have you thought about talking to a school counselor? I think that they are good at helping you make plans for the future and can help you with the depression too. I really think that you need to talk to somebody about the way that you are feeling. You could also be looking for another job, but don't leave the one that you have until you find the other one.

You are taking on a lot with school and work. It is a lot to contend with. Give yourself a pat on the back for that. You should be really proud of yourself.

Keep trying as you are. Take life one day at a time, and try to live in the moment. Stay in the present. Try to not worry so much about the future. Or to dwell on the past. You are a work in progress.

Keep posting as we are all here for you.

Best wishes to you.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 7/15/2009 3:28 AM (GMT -6)   
hey, i too am a work in progress, yeah at 37!! started back at study after 8 yrs, yrs of therapy, over 10, 28 hosp admissions. 6 month stay in a facility 4 people with severe borderline personality disorder, 6 courses of e.c.t in 04, was homeless 4 two yrs and it goes on......the guys here have shown me the importance of the here and now, the past is that, the future, well it is going to happen, thus i go with the flow. i understand being young and depressed, i have been living with major depression 4 over twenty yrs. keep fightin' and keep safe, as the guys have said, a pat on the back for what u have acheived, school and work wise. keep posting. jamie
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