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boo32
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Date Joined Jun 2009
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   Posted 7/15/2009 2:30 AM (GMT -7)   
hi all,
I would like to join your group as i'm struggling with being alive at the moment. I'm on the anxiety and fibro board also but i thought you may be able to offer me a little advice and when i'm out of the doldrums i can offer some back.
 
I'm on a down ward spiral at the moment and don't know how to pull on the brakes and change my train of thought. It should be that easy, shouldn't it. I should be able to just get on my bike and go for a cycle on this lovely day and go to work all happy and exercised.
 
what do you do when you start feeling like this. I did suffer severe depression in my late teens and early 20's. While i can manage without meds at the mo. i'm seriously thinking of asking gp to start them again. I occasionally take xanax to get me through a bad day but i don't want to become reliant on them due to thier addictiveness.
 
Thanks for any help offered, boo
BikeBoo, biking with my boo since 1999
Of all the things i've lost, i miss my mind the most! But it has its advantages!
Fibro, spinal arthritis and all that goes with it.
GAD


THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 7/15/2009 3:52 AM (GMT -7)   
hi boo. welcome, i am jamie, male and 37 yrs. you have hit a wall, sorry that you are very depressed and with the gad also. yes xanax is excellent as a short term med, yeah i was on it for panic attacks myself. highly addictive, i am glad i was able to come off them. time for the doc my friend. maybe reinstating an ad may well be beneficial to you. depression sucks, so if there is anything that has helped in the past...then use that. otherwise some counselling may assist you, telephone, church-pastor, friends, etc. for me it is music. am here for you. healings to you. jamie
 
dx, mdd, severe borderline personality disorder, heaps of other medical stuff too!!!! stay safe. thx 4 your courage in posting.

stkitt
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   Posted 7/15/2009 6:08 AM (GMT -7)   

Hello Boo,

I am so glad to see you here in the Depression Forum.  We know each other already from the A & P Forum.  :-)

I think making good use of any of the forums available here in HW is very wise of you so welcome to the Depression Forum.

Gentle Hugs,
Kitt


 

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gentleman k
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   Posted 7/15/2009 8:03 AM (GMT -7)   
Depression is something that a lot of people dread to try and deal with. Welcome to the depression forum. I've dealt with it for over 12 years and have been on Paxil for the last 5 years. It has done a good job of helping me with my depression. If your dr. can put you on a medication that works good for you,it is best to stay on it. Once depression comes back after going off medication, that is usually a sign that a person will probably need to stay on medication indefinately to help keep it from returning. I've had very good success with my Paxil. Good luck and keep us posted on your progress.

gentleman k

getting by
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   Posted 7/15/2009 10:44 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Boo,

I am glad that you have decided to join us. Welcome!!!

I too believe that medication and counseling can help with depression. Also meditation to learn to live in the moment. Music is also nice as Jamie said. It grounds you to what is going on in the moment.

I also have fibromyalgia and I know how difficult it is. It totally distracts us from what is going on at the moment. The pain and fatigue can be overwhelming. So I hope that you have that under control.

I hope that you feel better soon. And know that we are so happy that you have joined us. I think you will find this to be a very comforting forum.

Best wishes to you for a lovely day.

Hugs, Karen
  Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia
 
fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies


boo32
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Date Joined Jun 2009
Total Posts : 222
   Posted 7/15/2009 12:54 PM (GMT -7)   
hi,
thank you all for the welcome and posts. Much appreciated.
I know i'm not coping at the mo, and while anti-d's have worked for a while in the past they did cause other severe problems, so it's really a case of either/or!
I'm going to vent with a list of what's going on, here goes............(Btw,i'm female and 32)

Fibro flare.
Weight gain from uncontrolled eating.
Mass confusion.
Financial doom, getting further behind in mortgage and banks thretening to foreclose.
My brother in law, tried to sue us....long story!
Can't get pregnant and have had six months of hormone treatment that has failed.
GP locum, telling me i should be finishing a family, not starting it(at my age) and fibro doesn't
exist.
Referals to specialists, that i can't afford, (got family loans), only to be told, i've been referred to the wrong person, but ''thanks, & we'll take you E250 anyway''

A physch telling me i could have a personality disorder, or maybe dyspraxia......he doesn't know.

The doctor has even messed up me last blood test and gave me results he said were fine, when i phoned the fertility specialist to tell him my concerns about results he agreed...they were completely off the wall....I know face another 6 cycles of the phycho fertility drug if i stand any channce of pregnancy.

I feel like a complete failure. The medical profession has completely let me down and i don't know where to turn.

All of the above is circumstancial and i don't know that meds would help.....I suppose they would help me cope better. Aren't thses just things that everybody faces though and i'm just too thick to deal with them. That's why i feel like such an idiot, i can't handle anything.

I'm stuck in loserville and i'm not sure when the next bus is coming. And, my bike has a puncture.
boo
BikeBoo, biking with my boo since 1999
Of all the things i've lost, i miss my mind the most! But it has its advantages!
Fibro, spinal arthritis and all that goes with it.
GAD


getting by
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Date Joined Sep 2007
Total Posts : 40573
   Posted 7/15/2009 1:48 PM (GMT -7)   
Awe Boo,

You sure have a lot on your plate right now. The best thing that I can recommend is to take this one day at a time. Live to the fullest each day. The rest will fall into place. Try to stay in the moment.

I know that it isn't easy in the least. That is why you should continue with your pdoc and get some counseling. They will help share the emotional burden with you. You deserve some support right now. And it would help so much.

Did the doc give you anything that is for personality disorder? I take abilify and that really helps. Plus effexor and xanax. Remember these things are treatable so that you can live a full life.

Being you are in such a financial state right now. Maybe there is a reason that you aren't getting pregnant. Maybe this isn't the right time. If it is meant to be, it will happen. I am a firm believer of that.

Is there anything that you can do to help lower your mortgage payments? Can you talk to the bank or financial institute and work on something? Or maybe call a financial advisor. Try to look in all directions.

Remember that we are here for you and will support you in any way we can. Try really hard to take this one day at a time. Cease the worrying, it will make your fibromyalgia worse. Not to mention your emotional state.

Keep posting. We are here for you.

Hugs, Karen
  Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia
 
fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies


boo32
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Date Joined Jun 2009
Total Posts : 222
   Posted 7/16/2009 3:08 PM (GMT -7)   
hi,
Things are ok, we're just getting on with it. The doctor wasn't sure about the personality disorder so as you can imagine i don't have much faith in his half diagnosis. I was let down today n=by other hormone tests-he did the wrong ones-which now means the fertility drug i'm taking isn't going to work.
I don't mind too much, i believe when i feel better and things start looking up i may get my baby.
Thanks for the posts, boo
BikeBoo, biking with my boo since 1999
Of all the things i've lost, i miss my mind the most! But it has its advantages!
Fibro, spinal arthritis and all that goes with it.
GAD


Raniah
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Date Joined Mar 2009
Total Posts : 1190
   Posted 7/16/2009 4:08 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Boo,

I'm late coming to your thread, but I want to welcome you here as well. I'm so sorry for all the stuff you have going on right now. I can relate to the doctor foul-ups....I've had a lot of disappointments (and some major mistakes) over the years with medical 'professionals' too....but there ARE some good ones out there, if you can bring yourself to keep trying. I know it's tough....just don't give up hope for finding someone who knows what he/she is doing, and who really cares. I agree with the others about counseling....it can be a Godsend. You are in my prayers, Boo. I hope you will keep posting with us....we would love to help in any way that we can.
 
Moderator, Depression Forum
 
“Hope is the pillar that holds up the world.”  ~Pliny the Elder

 

 

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