I guess I'm not as important as I thought

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Taryn50894
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   Posted 7/26/2009 9:27 PM (GMT -7)   
I've been going out with my boyfriend for quite some time. I'm so in love with him, but some days I just cry and cry because I don't understand his thoughts. I know this shouldn't really bother me, but I have yet to meet his family. He's met mine.
He always tells me he's going over to visit after I go home, and I wonder why I can't come with one time.

I thought maybe he thinks meeting his family means too much committment right now. It hurts my feelings because I know he never admits to them he even has a girlfriend. When someone from his famly calls when we're out, he'll talk like he's alone or going to get food by himself when I'm eating with him. I don't know what to think. It makes me feel like I'm not good enough for his famiy. Why would he not even mention that he's with me?

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   Posted 7/26/2009 9:47 PM (GMT -7)   
Have you addressed this issue to him? Ever ask him why? I certainly would. Because he could be embarrassed of his family. You wont know until you mention it to him. So I would do that, then let us know what he says.

Hugs, Karen
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Taryn50894
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   Posted 7/26/2009 9:48 PM (GMT -7)   
yes, i did mention it before. he said he never talks about me because his family will ask him all these questions and he doesn't "want to deal with it" i think he just fears that they won't like me. But i don't see how they couldn't? not to be into myself, but im not like a bad girl or anything...

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   Posted 7/26/2009 10:06 PM (GMT -7)   
I understand that you want to meet his family. If I were you, I would too. Maybe in time he will feel comfortable with that. Try not to assume that it is you. You sound like a very nice girl to me. And I am sure that when the time comes that they will love you.

Do you think it could be a religious thing? Hopefully somebody else will have some ideas. But for right now, don't put it on yourself. Just take his word for what he says.

Hugs, Karen
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THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 7/27/2009 2:08 AM (GMT -7)   
taryn, karen is on the right track, you be you, and hold your head up high. jamie
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