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whathurtsthemost
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   Posted 7/28/2009 6:28 PM (GMT -7)   
as many of you amazing people who have given me advice in the past, know im still hurting ever since my friend passed and i know i always will, my new concern is why i have been so out of it lately, its been happening to me ever since he passed ive had crushes on two different guys these past 3 wks but i cant seem to want to pursue anything romantically because hes always on my mind, i cant think of anyone but him, can anyone giving me insight on why i feel this i cant even explain it.
i know youll NEVER let me down, iLOVEYOU!

Post Edited (youretheangelthatbelievesinme) : 7/29/2009 8:19:00 AM (GMT-6)


getting by
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   Posted 7/29/2009 2:14 PM (GMT -7)   
We can't always get a grasp on our feelings, they are just there. You could have mixed emotions right now because of 'him'. You might just be longing for emotions that you experienced when he was alive. It is hard to say. We all grieve in our own way and there is no time limit and no set rules. So this could be a part of the grieving process or it could be your way of moving on. Either way, take it slow, give yourself time to think things out thoroughly. Get right with yourself and follow your heart.

Hugs, Karen
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THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 7/30/2009 1:41 AM (GMT -7)   
after 3 yrs of my partner passing i was the exact same-took the ultimate act of love to let her be free. yet she is always with me-as i am always with her. i know i have her blessing. still hard, but life is for the living. grief is a complex thing. am sorry that you are in pain. my love to you. jamie.

whathurtsthemost
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   Posted 7/30/2009 9:32 AM (GMT -7)   
the emotions that i have towards him are very clear. he means so much to me, and i dont think i'll ever move on, hes a big part of me, more than i let anyone know, ive tried to stay positive and try to think things will get better, but theres always that "what will my life be without him" its always present everywhere i go, i feel as if ill see him or that ill talk to him id give anything to be able to do that again, i dont know how to move forward with my life knowing that he didnt didnt get a chance its not fair and what kills me is that i didnt get the chance to say goodbye. i havent gone to his gravesite yet im afraid to i dont want to but at the same time i do because i know he would want me to but im scared. Karen thank you so much for replying it means alot and Jaime your words are so comforting they give me a new perspective thank you .
i know youll NEVER let me down, iLOVEYOU!

Post Edited (youretheangelthatbelievesinme) : 7/30/2009 10:44:34 AM (GMT-6)


THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 7/31/2009 12:10 AM (GMT -7)   
angel, understand, remember that grief is different for each person going thru grief. no set time, no set way or practice. angel my dear, i talk with my lady, at home, on the bus, etc. people talk of closure, i talk of coping whilst moving forward. your partner would not want you in pain. i am here, as all at the forum. with loving compassion to you both. jamie.

whathurtsthemost
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   Posted 7/31/2009 10:21 AM (GMT -7)   
thank you soo much Jaime, your words comfort me and make me think positively, i realize he wants me to be happy im just too hurt to do so, i want to be happy for him, but i cant bring myself to that, i dont know how to be me anymore, my heart aches, i cry alot, the tears just come without warning, im reminded of him everywhere i am, even when im dazed and not thinking about anything , something eventually comes up and im reminded of him , theres not one single day that passes where he doesnt cross my mind and its times like these i wish i was with him.
i know youll NEVER let me down, iLOVEYOU!


THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 7/31/2009 11:43 AM (GMT -7)   
beautiful. as i say to my georgia, "always with me, always with you. yes it is a very, very beautiful song. j. satriani, album, surfing with the alien.
 
my dear, the words you have expressed are forward moving, whilst keeping the love. you are doing well. keep talking to us. with loving compassion. jamie
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