Hi, I'm new to this site and have been doing some research. It's very comforting to know I'm not alone in this battle. Maybe someone can give me some insight. I've been married for a little over a year and I've come to a point of panic. My husband has been unemployed for almost a year now (through no fault of his own) and I was blessed enough to be able to take care of us financially but I think in the process he fell into a depression. Now I can understand being scared or worried, but this fear has crippled him and I’m scared. Then, I lost my job, and its been three months. While I was working, I was also coming home to cheer him on. Telling him how everything was going to be ok. Right now, I have no juice left... I don’t feel like I can really give anyone a pep talk. Last night was the culmination of it all. We got into a big fight, he was feeling really low, so was I... but he admitted to having suicidal thoughts when this whole ordeal began. I'm tired of going around in circles. Whenever I express how I feel we go into this whole thing about him feeling worthless. I don’t know how to help him or myself at this point. And I truly don’t remember the last time he seemed happy. He always doubts himself, feeling like he's not good enough. I'm always tired... I've been in bed for about three days now. Maybe we're both depressed? Should I hold back my feelings until I feel he's better? Can someone become depressed that quickly, or was it there all along? If we don’t have the money for professional help, where do we turn?